How do I get my friends to stop avoiding me?

Discussion in 'Christian Advice' started by Lanae, Dec 6, 2017.

  1. Lanae New Member

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    I'm sick and tired my friends avoiding me all because I try to touch them and tickle them. I was just joking. They avoid me all because I touch them. I was just getting their attention when I forget their names.

    How do I get them to stop avoiding me and how do I get them to come back to church?

    I would rather show up at their jobs and ask Them how they're doing.
     
  2. Luin Christian Flower Supporter

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    Just be patient and they may come back and speak with you. I will pray Jesus will resolve your friendships.
     
  3. brinny everlovin' shiner of light in dark places Supporter

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    That last statement of yours sounds like a threat.

    My advice to you would be to NEVER show up on their jobs. They may end up calling the police on you.
     
  4. Lanae New Member

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    I mean my non brother in Christ, J works in a Korean restaurant so I'm just going to go in to eat lunch there and my other brother in Christ K, works as a beauty supply store as a manager so I'm just going to go in there get something for my hair, get makeup and nail polish
     
  5. Almost there Well-Known Member

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    Leave them alone.
     
  6. brinny everlovin' shiner of light in dark places Supporter

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    Based on what you posted in your first post (combined with your last sentence), this sounds like harassment/stalking.

    I'd advise you to NEVER go to any place where they work, and for your own sake (and theirs) to go elsewhere and to pray to God that He helps you in moving on.
     
  7. Lanae New Member

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    OK I won't show up at their jobs
     
  8. brinny everlovin' shiner of light in dark places Supporter

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    That sounds like a very wise decision.
     
  9. Lanae New Member

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    Thx how do I get them to come back to church?
     
  10. brinny everlovin' shiner of light in dark places Supporter

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    Leave them alone Lanae. Not only for their sakes, but your sake as well.

    Do you have anyone you can talk to about this?
     
  11. Lanae New Member

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    OK I set up an appointment for college counselor on January 5th
     
  12. brinny everlovin' shiner of light in dark places Supporter

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    Although that is a good and positive thing, how is this college counselor going to help you with what you posted?
     
  13. Lanae New Member

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    with relationships problems with friends. My dad never took me to see a counselor when I was in middle school and high school
     
  14. brinny everlovin' shiner of light in dark places Supporter

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    In the meantime, is there someone else you can talk to regarding these behaviors that are self-defeating, Lanae?
     
  15. Lanae New Member

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    no I'll just go to a college counselor about it. Because I used to tell my other friends about it now I don't do that anymore. If someone hurts me, avoids me and ignores me, I would go to a college counselor because I don't them to find out that Ive spreading rumors about them and they will get angry with me
     
  16. brinny everlovin' shiner of light in dark places Supporter

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    I was referring to a counselor or a pastor or someone who is equipped to offer counseling, Lanae.
     
  17. Lanae New Member

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    I can ask my pastors at church
     
  18. brinny everlovin' shiner of light in dark places Supporter

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    That is a very good and wise decision Lanae.
     
  19. Lanae New Member

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    Thank
     
  20. brinny everlovin' shiner of light in dark places Supporter

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    You are welcome Lanae.