How do I approach a girl I'm interested in?

[Evan Wright]

So I am a junior in college right now, I'm majoring in Kinesiology and Health. I often take the train to school because I commute and I have been ever since freshman year. While I was on the train one day, I recall seeing this girl who I thought was very attractive. I didn't approach her because I was a bit nervous(and still am) and I just assumed she was just someone I would see in passing. I saw her a few more times after that and I often admired from a far but never made a full approach to introduce myself. I didn't think much of it but I have to admit, this girl was extremely pretty.

Fast forward a few months to the start of a new semester and I noticed this same girl was in my class. I just discovered this only a few weeks in, and I want to approach her and get to know her but I'm not the most experienced when it comes to dating and I really need help. What are some good ways I can approach her and introduce myself. Also do you think this is a coincidence that this happened? (I'm just curious and want opinions)

 

[Christ is Lord]

What are some good ways I can approach her and introduce myself. Also do you think this is a coincidence that this happened? (I'm just curious and want opinions)

My first advice is don't wait to long before talking to her or you risk putting her on a pedestal which isn't good. Remember she is still just another human being. I also, think it's just a coincidence.

 

[Not David]

So I am a junior in college right now, I'm majoring in Kinesiology and Health. I often take the train to school because I commute and I have been ever since freshman year. While I was on the train one day, I recall seeing this girl who I thought was very attractive. I didn't approach her because I was a bit nervous(and still am) and I just assumed she was just someone I would see in passing. I saw her a few more times after that and I often admired from a far but never made a full approach to introduce myself. I didn't think much of it but I have to admit, this girl was extremely pretty.

Fast forward a few months to the start of a new semester and I noticed this same girl was in my class. I just discovered this only a few weeks in, and I want to approach her and get to know her but I'm not the most experienced when it comes to dating and I really need help. What are some good ways I can approach her and introduce myself. Also do you think this is a coincidence that this happened? (I'm just curious and want opinions)

You should talk to other women, if you show you care too much she might find it odd so try to approach like if you don't care.

 

[A_Thinker]

So I am a junior in college right now, I'm majoring in Kinesiology and Health. I often take the train to school because I commute and I have been ever since freshman year. While I was on the train one day, I recall seeing this girl who I thought was very attractive. I didn't approach her because I was a bit nervous(and still am) and I just assumed she was just someone I would see in passing. I saw her a few more times after that and I often admired from a far but never made a full approach to introduce myself. I didn't think much of it but I have to admit, this girl was extremely pretty.

Fast forward a few months to the start of a new semester and I noticed this same girl was in my class. I just discovered this only a few weeks in, and I want to approach her and get to know her but I'm not the most experienced when it comes to dating and I really need help. What are some good ways I can approach her and introduce myself. Also do you think this is a coincidence that this happened? (I'm just curious and want opinions)

Find a point of common interest ... and just mention it to her at an opportune moment. Perhaps you could mention that you remember seeing her before on the train. And then, move on to your thoughts about the class, professor, school, etc.

Don't overdo it, at first. Just let her know that you noticed her ... and that you are open to a casual friendship. If this catches her attention (you will be able to tell) ... eventually you may be able to ask if she'd like to spend some time together outside of class.

Take your time with this, ... but I'd agree. Let her know pretty soon that you have noticed her. Otherwise, she may think that you didn't notice her ... and that's not good.

 

[A_Thinker]

Find a point of common interest ... and just mention it to her at an opportune moment. Perhaps you could mention that you remember seeing her before on the train. And then, move on to your thoughts about the class, professor, school, etc.

Don't overdo it, at first. Just let her know that you noticed her ... and that you are open to a casual friendship. If this catches her attention (you will be able to tell) ... eventually you may be able to ask if she'd like to spend some time together outside of class.

Take your time with this, ... but I'd agree. Let her know pretty soon that you have noticed her. Otherwise, she may think that you didn't notice her ... and that's not good.

P.S. I think that the situation you described ... is an opportunity ...

 

[Christ is Lord]

And whatever you be yourself and but don’t be a weirdo.

 

[Presbyterian Continuist]

So I am a junior in college right now, I'm majoring in Kinesiology and Health. I often take the train to school because I commute and I have been ever since freshman year. While I was on the train one day, I recall seeing this girl who I thought was very attractive. I didn't approach her because I was a bit nervous(and still am) and I just assumed she was just someone I would see in passing. I saw her a few more times after that and I often admired from a far but never made a full approach to introduce myself. I didn't think much of it but I have to admit, this girl was extremely pretty.

Fast forward a few months to the start of a new semester and I noticed this same girl was in my class. I just discovered this only a few weeks in, and I want to approach her and get to know her but I'm not the most experienced when it comes to dating and I really need help. What are some good ways I can approach her and introduce myself. Also do you think this is a coincidence that this happened? (I'm just curious and want opinions)

Simple answer: Just go up, introduce yourself and ask her out for a cup of coffee. She can only say no, and then you will be settled in your mind about it. If she says yes, then just relax and enjoy the date and her company and see if she wants to go on another date with you. There are no gimmics or tricks about this. The simple honest approach is best. Feel the fear and do it anyway. Courage is not the absence of fear. It is not allowing fear to paralyze you.

All you are doing initially is to ask her out for coffee. Nothing dramatic about that. You don't have to go into a whole lot of detail how you are attracted to her or that she seems to be your soul-mate. Women will run for their lives when a man comes on too heavy, because of the implication of stalking. But a simple approach and a request to have coffee together as friends is the least threatening approach and not intense in any way. If she is attracted to you, she will say yes, and enjoy being with you. If she is not attracted to you, she will say no, and the matter will be settled.

The absolute killer would be to approach her and say, "God has led me to ask you out because I believe He wants us to be together!" I know you'd have more sense than to nuke your chances with something like that, but you'd be surprised at how many intense young Christian men spook prospective dates by doing that very thing!

 

[thecolorsblend]

Keep her laughing, keep your hands to yourself and don’t pick anything in front of her.

Good luck!

 

[BobRyan]

So I am a junior in college right now, I'm majoring in Kinesiology and Health. I often take the train to school because I commute and I have been ever since freshman year. While I was on the train one day, I recall seeing this girl who I thought was very attractive. I didn't approach her because I was a bit nervous(and still am) and I just assumed she was just someone I would see in passing. I saw her a few more times after that and I often admired from a far but never made a full approach to introduce myself. I didn't think much of it but I have to admit, this girl was extremely pretty.

Fast forward a few months to the start of a new semester and I noticed this same girl was in my class. I just discovered this only a few weeks in, and I want to approach her and get to know her but I'm not the most experienced when it comes to dating and I really need help. What are some good ways I can approach her and introduce myself. Also do you think this is a coincidence that this happened? (I'm just curious and want opinions)

yes just coincidence. To make good impression treat the girl like you are both in the 5th grade and you have found some fun thing to do at the store or something funny about the class you are in, think of an interesting story to tell.

You have to revert to thinking of her as a classmate-friend first where you find something enjoyable about everyday life the way you did as a 5th grader. That way there is no pressure on you or on her when you are introducing yourself.

 

[devin553344]

So I am a junior in college right now, I'm majoring in Kinesiology and Health. I often take the train to school because I commute and I have been ever since freshman year. While I was on the train one day, I recall seeing this girl who I thought was very attractive. I didn't approach her because I was a bit nervous(and still am) and I just assumed she was just someone I would see in passing. I saw her a few more times after that and I often admired from a far but never made a full approach to introduce myself. I didn't think much of it but I have to admit, this girl was extremely pretty.

Fast forward a few months to the start of a new semester and I noticed this same girl was in my class. I just discovered this only a few weeks in, and I want to approach her and get to know her but I'm not the most experienced when it comes to dating and I really need help. What are some good ways I can approach her and introduce myself. Also do you think this is a coincidence that this happened? (I'm just curious and want opinions)

be relaxed.

 

[Brian Mcnamee]

Hi most guys overcome that fear and awkwardness you feel much earlier in life and as you say she is real pretty there are likely other suitors. Your story is your introduction and by saying hi before or after class and introducing yourself with the story of you saw her in passing a few times on the bus and all she might be pleased you noticed her. Most relationships are not some destiny kind of thing and like your other friends you are attracted to people that you can get along with that share interests. A spouse is a much different thing and since this is Christian forums I suggest you look into what it courting as opposed to dating. Anyways chances are she has a BF already but you can get to know her anyways and start talking to a lot of other girls and get some experience. Some of he best marriages I know are couples who started off as friends and then got together.

 

[Tolworth John]

So I am a junior in college right now, I'm majoring in Kinesiology and Health. I often take the train to school because I commute and I have been ever since freshman year. While I was on the train one day, I recall seeing this girl who I thought was very attractive. I didn't approach her because I was a bit nervous(and still am) and I just assumed she was just someone I would see in passing. I saw her a few more times after that and I often admired from a far but never made a full approach to introduce myself. I didn't think much of it but I have to admit, this girl was extremely pretty.

Fast forward a few months to the start of a new semester and I noticed this same girl was in my class. I just discovered this only a few weeks in, and I want to approach her and get to know her but I'm not the most experienced when it comes to dating and I really need help. What are some good ways I can approach her and introduce myself. Also do you think this is a coincidence that this happened? (I'm just curious and want opinions)

Go up to her and say Hi, aren't you in class what ever it is and talk to her about the course.
If she doesn't want to walk with you to colledge she'll make an excuse.
I'd suggest asking if she is happy to travel with you?
If not catch a different train.

 

[carp614]

I keep thinking you should approach very carefully as I imagine clubbing you over the head with a blunt object. I'm sorry, it's my dadness making me irrational (two teenage daughters + I was not a nice boy = crazy dad stuff apparently).

Whatever you do, make sure to try to do it in a way that her dad would approve of. There...now it's advice instead of a threat...super sorry. I definitely have issues.

 

[Christ is Lord]

Whatever you do, make sure to try to do it in a way that her dad would approve of. There...now it's advice instead of a threat...super sorry. I definitely have issues.

That’s actually pretty good advice. I think if a lot of
guys really considered that they would be more respectful to ladies.

 

[jisaiah6113]

Simple answer: Just go up, introduce yourself and ask her out for a cup of coffee. She can only say no, and then you will be settled in your mind about it. If she says yes, then just relax and enjoy the date and her company and see if she wants to go on another date with you. There are no gimmics or tricks about this. The simple honest approach is best. Feel the fear and do it anyway. Courage is not the absence of fear. It is not allowing fear to paralyze you.

All you are doing initially is to ask her out for coffee. Nothing dramatic about that. You don't have to go into a whole lot of detail how you are attracted to her or that she seems to be your soul-mate. Women will run for their lives when a man comes on too heavy, because of the implication of stalking. But a simple approach and a request to have coffee together as friends is the least threatening approach and not intense in any way. If she is attracted to you, she will say yes, and enjoy being with you. If she is not attracted to you, she will say no, and the matter will be settled.

The absolute killer would be to approach her and say, "God has led me to ask you out because I believe He wants us to be together!" I know you'd have more sense than to nuke your chances with something like that, but you'd be surprised at how many intense young Christian men spook prospective dates by doing that very thing!

Very good answer.

 

[Presbyterian Continuist]

That’s actually pretty good advice. I think if a lot of
guys really considered that they would be more respectful to ladies.

When I was a young Christian I saw a guy wandering around the place with a lost and lonely look. I asked someone about him and was told, "He's looking for a wife!" Just before I retired from the Ministry of Justice, my team leader found Christ and started attending a large church. A guy there took a shine to her and kept on trying to get friendly with her. She said that she felt threatened by him and that it seemed that he was stalking her. I was concerned for her that it might cause her to leave the church to get away from him.

I like the idea of inviting a few friends for coffee, and including her. Then it is a group, where she doesn't feel singled out. That way you can get to know her and she you, and then you can determine whether she is attracted to you as someone who might progress to being something more than just a friend.

 

[LoricaLady]

So I am a junior in college right now, I'm majoring in Kinesiology and Health. I often take the train to school because I commute and I have been ever since freshman year. While I was on the train one day, I recall seeing this girl who I thought was very attractive. I didn't approach her because I was a bit nervous(and still am) and I just assumed she was just someone I would see in passing. I saw her a few more times after that and I often admired from a far but never made a full approach to introduce myself. I didn't think much of it but I have to admit, this girl was extremely pretty.

Fast forward a few months to the start of a new semester and I noticed this same girl was in my class. I just discovered this only a few weeks in, and I want to approach her and get to know her but I'm not the most experienced when it comes to dating and I really need help. What are some good ways I can approach her and introduce myself. Also do you think this is a coincidence that this happened? (I'm just curious and want opinions)

Coincidences can just be coincidences. Or they can be from the Father. Or they can come from the enemy to lead you in destructive directions.

The Bible tells us "Trust in YHWH" aka the Lord "with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths."

Pray to know what to do, if anything. All you currently know about this girl is that she is pretty. Maybe she is pretty on the inside too. Maybe not. There are some beautiful people out there who cause a lot of misery.

 

[LoricaLady]

Coincidences can just be coincidences. Or they can be from the Father. Or they can come from the enemy to lead you in destructive directions.

The Bible tells us "Trust in YHWH" aka the Lord "with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths."

Pray to know what to do, if anything. All you currently know about this girl is that she is pretty. Maybe she is pretty on the inside too. Maybe not. There are some beautiful people out there who cause a lot of misery.

P.S. If the Father is giving you any kind of go ahead on the lady, you could casually go past her and say "Hey, I saw you on the train the other day..." then add some comment that would be related - and I don't know since I haven't been on that train - like "It's a great place to do some homework...or take a quick nap....or whatever... isn't it?" A question mark at the end of your comment leaves an opening for her to comment back.

If she finds you interesting she will perk up and want to chat. But, as someone said above, she may already have a boyfriend.

 

[Redwingfan9]

So I am a junior in college right now, I'm majoring in Kinesiology and Health. I often take the train to school because I commute and I have been ever since freshman year. While I was on the train one day, I recall seeing this girl who I thought was very attractive. I didn't approach her because I was a bit nervous(and still am) and I just assumed she was just someone I would see in passing. I saw her a few more times after that and I often admired from a far but never made a full approach to introduce myself. I didn't think much of it but I have to admit, this girl was extremely pretty.

Fast forward a few months to the start of a new semester and I noticed this same girl was in my class. I just discovered this only a few weeks in, and I want to approach her and get to know her but I'm not the most experienced when it comes to dating and I really need help. What are some good ways I can approach her and introduce myself. Also do you think this is a coincidence that this happened? (I'm just curious and want opinions)

Is she even a Christian? If you don't know, you really need to find out before making any advances on her. If you want to find out, I would approach her by introducing yourself and mentioning you ride the same train.