How did you get through??

[Nilla]

How did you get through the process of greiving??

Sometimes I feel like I'm stuck and can't get anywhere..

Nilla

 

[servant of Merciful Love]

Well, it has been a trial...for months; but it easing up a bit.
Prayer, recently journaling, and just going with the flow of emotions.

That article I posted helped me too, as I was able to see my reactions as normal
http://www.christianforums.com/t7462296/#post54581607

I find that initally I thought it was a 'git 'er done' thing...only to find out it is a PROCESS...much like the tides...ebbs and flows...sometimes calm....sometimes stormy.

I have had so many losses in recent years...and they are ongoing as I write, so it will not abate for me any time soon, and I am learning to just take it as it comes...day by day with the Lord's grace/

Some people may need proferssional or pastoral counsel....

My recent losses were my mother; a week later my father-in-law, then two close friends (total of 6 loved ones in 2 years).

We are now preparing to say goodbye to two loved ones with dementia that are failing rapidly....my mother-in-law, and my brother-in-law (52! my sis died at age 49 from a brain aneurysm 3 years ago).

Some time there seems to be no end (I am just at that 'age' myself )

I am sorry for your loss (whatever it was)!
You will be in my prayers for your strength, hope, and healing

 

[Criada]

Praying for you, sweetie
There isn't a right or wrong way to grieve... it's different for everyone. The only certain thing is that God will get you through it.. even when it seems too painful to go on, He is holding you, sweetie, and He *will* bring you out the other side eventually.

 

[Nilla]

I forgot about this post..

Gail, I lost my youngest brother 6 years ago.

I guess you're right, it comes and goes..

Criada.. I know there's no right or wrong way..I just thought that I might try other ways.. (other then just let time pass, cry when I cry and pray) it might help.

HUGS to both of you!!

 

[power2theweak]

(((Nilla))) I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't really have any good advice. I lost my mom ten months ago. It has been very hard at times and easier at others...like Gail said, the ebbs and flows. It really depends on what is happening in my life. If I am really missing my mom, I take some time and think about her...how sweet she was to me and all of the good times that we had...and also how shocked and devastated I was when we found out that she was sick. It usually helps me to talk about it. I just try to go with the flow. Yesterday was the anniversary of when we found out that the cancer treatments weren't working and that they could no longer do anything to help my mom. I felt the need to be close to her. My mom left me one thing when she died--her birthstone ring. I didn't have time to look for the ring yesterday (just recently moved, and it is still packed), but I will go get it now...put it on...and think of her.