how did you do it?

[wclement7]

hello all. i am a browser of this site i don't usually post unless i have something bothering me... and here it comes lol. ok so my problem is about me and my girlfriend. she is a christian girl, pretty, smart, sweet, just awesome! and i truly believe she was sent from god to me. now the problem is she is a senior and i am a junior. she isn't older... we are exactly the same age/same day. and well when she goes to college, in this area. and am scared about losing her. so scared.that when i think about it i get really bad stomach aches it is that bad. and well i guess i need prayer. but i also am asking for help on how anyone who has gone through the same thing or somethign similar as to how you did it. how do you just trust that nothing will happen? how did you not worry? when i graduate i am planning on going to the same college so it is basically a year of not being with her very often and it scares me. i don't even know what to say.... please pray for me if anything... thanks!
willis

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

Wow, me and my bf are in the exact situation. I'm in college and he is a senior in high school, so I am a almost a year older, about 2 weeks short. We spend a lot of time talking, and are always very open with each other. Make sure you 2 are communicating. TALK, TALK, TALK. I honestly can not stress that enough. If you hung out with a girl, just for fun, not doing anything more than as friends, make sure you tell your gf. It will be better for you in the long run. If she finds out about it from someone else you more than likely will have a very angry gf. TALK!!!! I really can't say how important that is. Otherwise, just trust and pray that God will bring you through if it is his will. Here's the hard part, actually fulling trusting God whether it is for you to stay together or not. Feel free to PM or IM me

 

[ChildOfGod20]

yeah my boyfriend and i were in the same situation. i was in college last year and he was a senior. we were already going to different schools so it wasn't much of a change when i went to college and he stayed in high school. but im sure he was worried every once in a while. if u two are in a committed relationship then u just gotta trust that everything will be fine. anthony knows that i would never do anything to hurt him like flirt with another guy or anything like that. u just gotta completely trust each other. and pray about it. let God handle it and try not to worry about it. and like squirrelz said...TALK.

 

[alwayz_remember_Calvery]

i feel like i'm copying what everyone else just said but...my boyfriend and I are in the same situation. I'm a freshman at college and he's a Senior in H.S. I'm going to school about 3 hours away, so we spend a lot of time talking. We do mostly IM, but the phone is also nice sometimes. I know my bf has been worried a few times about other people, but communication is the key. If something is bothering you, tell her and urge her to talk to you as soon as something starts to bother you. It can work

 

[evania]

My bf and I aren't in the same exact situation....well,he's home now, but for the last three years, it has been a bit more extreme. ....yes, I said three years, and we MADE IT...that means you can too. (he was in the military...there was an entire yr when he was in Korea.....so I didnt see him once for a full 365...I can't imagine thoes who'se significant others are serving 16months in Iraq....)

Communication, communcation, communication. Dont be judgmental, dont make assumptions unless you are sure they are not assumptions and infact truths, pray, and dont worry, if she's in the area...she'll be home for lots of vacations. If it is meant to happen, it will...regardless....Im on the East coast, my bf and I broke up when he was in CA and managed to get back together.... if God says it is meant to be, it is.

I wont lie, it will be riddiculously hard in the begining, and each time she comes home for a bit, seeing her leave will be really hard, but I promise it gets easier...you will fall into a routine and you will get used to it. The distance will give her more time to get a grip on her studies, and it will give both of you time to think about yourselves in your relationship. Long distance relationships can be a nice thing for a bit. My bf has only been home for 2 weeks, and after him being away for three years, this is turning out to be an interesting transition as well.

remember though, she loves you, she's in college...she will meet other people, and she will NEED to have a bit of a social life at her school in order to make friends. This place will be her home for the next 4 yrs. It isn't an immensly easy transition, especially if she's had an amazing HS career. ...So if she needs to go to dinner with friends or something one night....dont work yourself up and get jealous or worried...besides, they'll be your friends come another year. ..just sit yourself down, chill, and do something you enjoy. Most impotantly, dont forget to pray.

 

[puregrl]

Same thing they said. My bf is a year younger than me, i went to a local community collage, while he was still in high school. You have to have trust there, if there isnt trust, than you have something to work on. You also must talk, as stated above, about anything. Your day, school, work, problems, whatever.

 

[want2modmygt]

well. im going to have to say just keep communications open like everyone. let me know how it turns out. my g/f and i will be going through a similar situation soon. we're both seniors and she's planning to go to a christian college in our area (Rochestor College, MI) and I'm planning on going to Western Michigan University because the career i'm pursuing isnt widely available at many colleges and universities. we will be about 2.5 hours apart, but i plan to fly home as much as i get rent the planes! hopefully that will work. assuming we're still together. but stll. let me know how your situation turns out

 

[f U z ! o N]

your just gotta have communication man. its hard i know. me and my girlfriend both go to the same community college but she is going to a university still in the same area. "woo sigh of relief" Just kidding! but it is nice because she is local still. but even if she wasn't it wouldn't matter. you just gotta have strong trust and communication. without those you won't get very far. i'd do anything in my power to stay in touch with my girlfriend no matter where she went. she knows my heart would follow her.