How Dare They...

[Amazon]

I thought Neenie's comment was relevant...

 

[tigercub]

I thought Neenie's comment was relevant...

How nice for you




I think we've already covered the issue of Neenie's post in this thread.

 

[Amazon]

There's no need to be rude. I don't take kindly to the way you've phrased your response to me.

Others said they thought your comment was insensitive - you responded "it should be in an appropriate place". My opinion is that it is in the appropriate place. You started a thread about child abuse. Neenie was drawing on her own experience to point out that each situation is very complex and we can't really understand what happens. Only God knows.

It isn't fair that people are not blessed with children, when they are obviously ready for it. I feel your frustration - I am in the same situation. But I think if you focus on other people and how you want what they have - you will end up becoming bitter. The only person you can change is yourself. I hope this happens for you soon. (motherhood I mean, not "changing")

 

[tigercub]

There's no need to be rude. I don't take kindly to the way you've phrased your response to me.

Others said they thought your comment was insensitive - you responded "it should be in an appropriate place". My opinion is that it is in the appropriate place. You started a thread about child abuse. Neenie was drawing on her own experience to point out that each situation is very complex and we can't really understand what happens. Only God knows.

Actually Neenie's comment was not about child abuse, or difficulty conceiving a child...or really anything to do with the topic.

As I said;

I was never intending my post to be aimed at a parent who had a 'happy accident'

I was more referring to low-lifes, the kind of people who abuse or neglect their children. Those who don't appreciate their gifts.

As far as I know, this doesn't include people in your situation Neenie.

Why is this so hard for people to grasp

 

[Orthosdoxa]

I understand what you're saying Tigercub. We were in the trenches of TTC for two years, with little hope of ever conceiving due to some physical problems I have, when I suddenly fell pregnant with our twins. So I've been there. It IS hard to see people that don't appreciate their kids, and you just wanted to let off a little steam, not be preached at. Nothing wrong with that.

Keep on keepin' on. God answers prayer. I have a friend who just got her very first BFP after 13 years of trying.

 

[tigercub]

I understand what you're saying Tigercub. We were in the trenches of TTC for two years, with little hope of ever conceiving due to some physical problems I have, when I suddenly fell pregnant with our twins. So I've been there. It IS hard to see people that don't appreciate their kids, and you just wanted to let off a little steam, not be preached at. Nothing wrong with that.

Keep on keepin' on. God answers prayer. I have a friend who just got her very first BFP after 13 years of trying.

Thank you!

That's pretty much how I feel.

 

[shaslove]

There's no need to be rude. I don't take kindly to the way you've phrased your response to me.

Others said they thought your comment was insensitive - you responded "it should be in an appropriate place". My opinion is that it is in the appropriate place. You started a thread about child abuse. Neenie was drawing on her own experience to point out that each situation is very complex and we can't really understand what happens. Only God knows.

It isn't fair that people are not blessed with children, when they are obviously ready for it. I feel your frustration - I am in the same situation. But I think if you focus on other people and how you want what they have - you will end up becoming bitter. The only person you can change is yourself. I hope this happens for you soon. (motherhood I mean, not "changing")

This is not the appropriate thread for that. She was venting, and said so...if you feel her frustration, you should be able to understand why Neenies comment was not appropriate for this thread.

 

[Amazon]

if you feel her frustration, you should be able to understand why Neenies comment was not appropriate for this thread.

I'm genuinely sorry, I just don't. I don't see that Neenie did anything wrong... There's some sort of strange rule here that applies to venting threads that I clearly don't get. If someone is venting, you are only allowed to reply if you are going to say "absolutely - spot on! you go!". Is that right?

I also don't understand how it's OK to reply to someone with head slapping emoticons. I think that's so offensive and nasty.

I feel as if I've wandered into some alien land where I don't understand the local customs. If you can help me understand that would be great.

 

[tigercub]

I also don't understand how it's OK to reply to someone with head slapping emoticons. I think that's so offensive and nasty.

Actually, sometimes posting a head-slapping emoticon is the nicest possible way to convey one's frustration. Well, it's a lot nicer than what some people would really like to say, anyhow. Plus it's not against the rules. At least I don't think it is...

For instance, I am feeling pretty frustrated right now. Though, rather than post anything that might be me reported again. I will just say this*takes deep breath*;

This is the TTC sub-forum. Now in an ideal world, this should to be a place to give (and receive) support and prayers, and share pointers, tips and testimonies with other forumites going through the same sort of thing. In my honest opinion, I do not think this section is really the place for criticism or debates amongst members.

I think we should support each other here, and allow each other to vent their frustrations (coz as most of us know, there are a lot of those on the TTC journey! ) without condemnation or judgement.

Like I said though, in an ideal world....and this obviously isn't. So in the face of problems; I'd like to suggest the use of the 'private message' function, if confused or offended by a particular post. Often the problem is a a mere misunderstanding, and the solution is much more likely to be reached via PM, as opposed to a public slanging match.

Wishing you all a funfull day/night/other time appropriate to your location!

*wanders off to find some dinner*

 

[Beth1231]

Amazon, I can say from two almost three years of CF that some of the replies in this thread are generally atypical.

I'm pretty sure tigercub just needed to vent, so maybe the emotions were running a bit high.

I also get angry when people get pg without any kind of thought to being responsible and then worse, they choose to hurt the innocent ones they conceived.