How Can You Tell?

[JourneyRain]

Okay, I'm in the mood to ask weird questions. So here we go.

How can you tell if someone is looking at you because say their curious about you or looking at you just because your in a position where they would be looking at you? If that made any sense at all.

I'm pretty good at telling when guys are interested in me but I don't want to assume this guy is doing that. Because I don't know him whatsoever. He's in my class that I just started on Monday. He's not bad looking at all. Ironically though he looks like one my "best" friends in the face which is probably why I keep glancing at him but he's also in that line of eyesight when you have to look at the prof.

I just moved to the area about 12 hours away from everyone I know. And I'm open to the possiblity of finding that someone but because I'm trying to heal from some bad situations over the past 6 months I'm mainly looking for friends and a CHURCH.

There's something in my spirit that's telling me this guy could be one of the above. A friend or maybe he's my ticket to a church. I just don't know what to do. Any advice?

 

[MrDude]

If he looks at you more than once, he's interested. Go talk to him.

 

[chanis]

befriend him!

 

[Fatolia]

If he looks at you more than once, he's interested. Go talk to him.

What?! That's not necessarily true. Usually, if a girl pays any attention to me whatsoever, I entertain her. That doesn't mean I'm interested in 'something more.' I tend to look at people and try to detect their moods so that I can provide comfort or support if need be. But yeah, sure you ought to approach him and talk with him. I seriously doubt he'll blow you off.

 

[Eagle_Wings]

Def talk to him...you're both in the same class, so you've got something in common to start off with!

 

[mixiejoeusa]

go and make a new friend, it can't hurt, if something happons from it, then bounus, if not friends is always a good thing!

 

[JPPT1974]

What?! That's not necessarily true. Usually, if a girl pays any attention to me whatsoever, I entertain her. That doesn't mean I'm interested in 'something more.' I tend to look at people and try to detect their moods so that I can provide comfort or support if need be. But yeah, sure you ought to approach him and talk with him. I seriously doubt he'll blow you off.

Do that as well as learn more about that person's thoughts and likes and dislikes.

 

[Sketcher]

If you get to know him, do watch out for bad vibes. Don't get yourself a stalker.

 

[vibrant]

i agree, befriend him.

 

[VivDaGurl]

That's right...start off with by being his friend first. Get to know him and hang around with him.

 

[justasinner]

There is a saying that goes "You can never have enough friends". So, use the fact that your new to the class and make a friend with him. Maybe even ask for his point of view of the class and how things work with this teacher. Later as friends you could tell him that he reminds you of a friend of yours.

The harm in doing this is nothing except maybe making a friend. The positives are that you may have a friend that can help you heal from your troubles or lead you to someone that can help you heal.

And if he is interested in you, well in talking with him you will know!

 

[JourneyRain]

That's what I'm going to do...befriend him...but so it isn't obvious i'm going to talk to others around him. they all know i'm new to the area. i just don't know how to approach him without it being blatenly obvious that i'm interested in getting to know more in that way...other then the fact that i seriously need a church and there's something in my spirit that's speaking to me...i won't see him til Monday so I have time to think and pray and think and pray some more..
keep coming with the advice..its helpful

 

[SDSUMarcus01]

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[JourneyRain]

Well, it was by God's design that I talked to the guy today. I was one of the first in class and he walked in right behind me. So we talked for a few minutes. His church isn't that close but I still found one anyway that's right 4 me and he had heard about it.
The rest of class he kept glancing at me in a weird way. Of course, that could be my overanalyzing self...oh well...I just am going to form a friendship and see where it is by July as that's when class ends. If nothing, maybe I'll run into him during the fall semester.

 

[ladylike]

I LOVE reading about body language! Allan Pease is a good place to start. There's a book from the eighties about analyzing body language in situations.

In my personal life, whenever a guy looks at me alot I think that it's a fluke or I am really not 100% sure whether they like the look of me.