how can you tell if hes really the one for you?

[Jesuschick514]

i feel like my boyfriend is the one im supposed to marry but how can you truly tell he tells me all the time that he wants to marry me and hes even asked me for my ring size i truly feel hes the one and he treats me amazing and loves me for me. hes a Christian boy and the only one i prayed about dating before saying yes when he asked me out

how can you truly tell if he/she is the right person???

 

[RobinRedbreast]

i feel like my boyfriend is the one im supposed to marry but how can you truly tell he tells me all the time that he wants to marry me and hes even asked me for my ring size i truly feel hes the one and he treats me amazing and loves me for me. hes a Christian boy and the only one i prayed about dating before saying yes when he asked me out

how can you truly tell if he/she is the right person???

Honestly? The best any of us can do in this life is to make the best educated and informed guess we can possibly make as the answer to that question. Are you looking for us to give you a guaranteed list of criteria that will tell you for 100% certain if this guy is a compatible partner for you?

A compatible person to marry is completely subjective and will change from one person to the next. What's more, is that there will always be plenty of different people in this world with which you are compatible, not just one sole person in the whole entire world. At the end of the day, it's all about meeting one of those compatible people and making a life with them.

You say you truly feel he's a guy for you. All right, well if you're so sure about how you feel, why are you asking us

Don't look to others for the answer. Your answer lies in yourself and between you and your boyfriend. We can't validate or invalidate any choices or decisions you make. I understand the need to bounce questions off of other people for advice, but something like this? Gah, it's all about you girl, no one here can accurately assist you (though I'm sure some will try).

 

[unkern]

here are some things highly recommended:

Pre-marriage counseling

Read some books together: Wild at heart, Captivating, the 5 love languages, love for a lifetime

Maybe do some babysitting together and see how he does around kids

Really open up to each other, and truly seek if this is the person for you.

God be with you

 

[The Nihilist]

Nothing will tell you, and nothing will help you make this decision.

 

[The Nihilist]

RecoveringPhilosopher - Did you know the bible tell us that God thinks about us more than every grain of sand, that he knows every hair on your head. He cares more about you than you realize. Who you marry is very important to me.

I don't want to get into a huge debate over this, but my point was, if God didn't bother to stop the worst events in history, why do we imagine he's going to step up to the plate on something as relatively insignificant as a marriage?

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

I think if you have to ask then they probably aren't.

 

[RobinRedbreast]

I don't want to get into a huge debate over this, but my point was, if God didn't bother to stop the worst events in history, why do we imagine he's going to step up to the plate on something as relatively insignificant as a marriage?

I don't think anyone's saying God is going to stop anything, actually. God gave us free will, that includes the freedom to marry whomever we choose, and the freedom to blow each other up in mortal combat... but He cares when we kill each other and He also cares if we screw up our lives marrying the wrong people.

Doesn't mean the gigantic hand of God is going to come down and -stop- it, no (though that would be humorous). But it also doesn't mean He doesn't care either.

.... little hard to talk about this with an atheist though, no offence There's a bit of a barrier between either side understanding the other clearly.

 

[unkern]

Actually God sent a prophet to me and my wife, and told us about our marriage. It depends also alot on how the spirit moves in your life.

 

[pegatha]

If you think he's the one, then just give it time. You don't have to make any decisions in a hurry. It takes a while to understand things like: how the other person responds to a crisis, how well both of you get along with each other's families, how he manages his money, how he's likely to act if there's a conflict between you and his parents. These are all things that have a huge impact on your marriage. There are no guarantees in marriage, but your best chance is to have a good, solid understanding of what makes each other tick, and that simply takes time. (And I agree with the suggestion for premarital counseling.)

 

[FOG]

I think if you have to ask then they probably aren't.

i'd clarify by saying "aren't yet". a year ago, i would have been asking this question about my gf - "she seems right but how do i know for sure?". now, a year later and so much closer, i can easily say yes, she's the one for me without a single doubt in my mind.

as others have said, give it time. no need to rush it, even if you are 100% sure.

 

[GryffinSong]

Time. As others have said. That's what it takes. Take all the time you need to be sure, no matter how long that takes.

 

[Jesuschick514]

thanks guys for your input