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How Can I Help Her?
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How can you help her? Thats just it. This all comes from deep within her, and its between her and her mother. Only the Lord can touch that. Does she and her mother know Jesus Christ as their personal savior? If not this would be a great time to introduce salvation to them.
If your grandmother has cancer you might want to talk to your mother about forgiving before its too late. One of them needs to humble themself before the other. And don't forget to pray for them both, that the Lord will call them and send his holy spirit to deal with their hearts.
If your grandmother has cancer you might want to talk to your mother about forgiving before its too late. One of them needs to humble themself before the other. And don't forget to pray for them both, that the Lord will call them and send his holy spirit to deal with their hearts.
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I know my mother knows Jesus and I can only assume my grandmother does as well. I do realize that I can't in any way force my mother to reconcile and forgive her mom and I feel so lost and helpless about this-- but I trust in God to help bring a change in her.
But I also feel as though He is leading me to try and talk with her. I don't really feel confidant in my ability to really reach her and I don't want to offend her or drive her away. I was just wondering if anyone had any advice on keeping everything gentil and encouraging without being 'too soft' or 'wishy-washy'. I don't want her to think I'm judging her, either.
I just wanted to know if anyone had any experience with this (either in helping someone or being helped themselves) or if they had any tips or ideas to keeping the dialogue positive and helpful.
But I also feel as though He is leading me to try and talk with her. I don't really feel confidant in my ability to really reach her and I don't want to offend her or drive her away. I was just wondering if anyone had any advice on keeping everything gentil and encouraging without being 'too soft' or 'wishy-washy'. I don't want her to think I'm judging her, either.
I just wanted to know if anyone had any experience with this (either in helping someone or being helped themselves) or if they had any tips or ideas to keeping the dialogue positive and helpful.
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I've tried to tell people to forgive and just about had my head chopped off. I've thought many times, what could I have done instead?
I honestly don't know. It helps to be convinced of the Scriptures yourself, for example, Matt. 6:14-13 where Jesus says if we don't forgive we will not be forgiven either. It helps also to realize that forgiveness is something every Christian has the capability of giving, as we have been forgiven ourselves, Colossians 3:13.
Maybe pray about this, and ask the Lord to give you the right words and the right timing. He is even more interested in your mother's suffering than you are. And your mother is suffering. In my experience, being full of unforgiveness just causes torment, Matt. 18:34.
If your mother is able to forgive and let go, she will be so much happier.
I honestly don't know. It helps to be convinced of the Scriptures yourself, for example, Matt. 6:14-13 where Jesus says if we don't forgive we will not be forgiven either. It helps also to realize that forgiveness is something every Christian has the capability of giving, as we have been forgiven ourselves, Colossians 3:13.
Maybe pray about this, and ask the Lord to give you the right words and the right timing. He is even more interested in your mother's suffering than you are. And your mother is suffering. In my experience, being full of unforgiveness just causes torment, Matt. 18:34.
If your mother is able to forgive and let go, she will be so much happier.
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You know my mom called me one day before she passed away. My brother has always blamed her for everything bad that happened in his life. We grew up dirt poor and mom was not always there for us, she was out trying to make ends meet and support us kids.
I told her that my brother was an adult now and had been in charge of his life longer than she ever was while he was growing up. And I told her she was a great mom now. Since she can't change the past that was all she could do, is be the best mom she could be now. I also made a point to tell my brother basically the same thing.
Your mom is using your grandmother as a scapegoat for everything in her life that does not go as she planned. So maybe if you can find a gentle way of pointing out that your mom is in control of her own life and has been for sometime it will help your mother realize what she is doing.
If your grandmother has cancer she needs some love and support. She needs you to support her with loving kindness. Refuse to take sides or to acknowledge old grudges. Show them with your actions that you are a Christian, and capable of forgiveness and love. In situations when you can't show them, talk to them about people that you know of who have gone through the same things and solved it in Christian ways.
I will be praying for your grandmothers salvation, your mothers forgiveness, and your peace of mind.
I told her that my brother was an adult now and had been in charge of his life longer than she ever was while he was growing up. And I told her she was a great mom now. Since she can't change the past that was all she could do, is be the best mom she could be now. I also made a point to tell my brother basically the same thing.
Your mom is using your grandmother as a scapegoat for everything in her life that does not go as she planned. So maybe if you can find a gentle way of pointing out that your mom is in control of her own life and has been for sometime it will help your mother realize what she is doing.
If your grandmother has cancer she needs some love and support. She needs you to support her with loving kindness. Refuse to take sides or to acknowledge old grudges. Show them with your actions that you are a Christian, and capable of forgiveness and love. In situations when you can't show them, talk to them about people that you know of who have gone through the same things and solved it in Christian ways.
I will be praying for your grandmothers salvation, your mothers forgiveness, and your peace of mind.
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