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"What I found most appealing wasn't physical. It was their principles and substance."
Very refreshing to hear...
Jesus made an exception if one's spouse cheated on them, they could divorce them and remarry. But if I go by the original point of no divorce and remarriage in Christianity, then I am definitely screwed as the divorce rate is high. I have ZER0, let me repeat, ZERO, desire for celibacy (so I guess if that's a sin to passionately desire {I'm don't mean idoltary} marriage and I have not confessed and repented of it, I suppose I will have to give an account at the Judgement Seat of Christ) . I don't feel called to go to remote parts of the world on missionary trips or other dangerous things only an always-single person could do. So I don't feel bad about wanting marriage based on Genesis 2:18, 1 Corthinians 7, (and based on my understanding of Proverbs 18:22, I do not have favor with the Lord). I just don't understand why everyone else who wants to gets married either gets married or encouraged to while I am not. If God truthfully does not intend for me to get married, then I can only surmise He has planned an early departure from this world for me. I just wish if I am truly supposed to forsake marriage, He would find it fitting to let me know for sure instead of me always feeling the desire for a something God has called good for people (am I just the pathetic exception?) I have no wish to spend a long lifetime without a partnerOne issue that can help to lend a bit of clarity is to recognize that in Christianity, there is no divorce and remarriage; you get one shot. I realize that is very unpopular, but it is what Jesus taught. That means you need to be very careful about how you select the one, but you should also keep in mind that, while marriage is not wrong or forbidden, both Jesus and Paul did strongly suggest that celibacy is the superior option. It may not be for you, and that's okay, but it's something worth praying about.
I have ZER0, let me repeat, ZERO, desire for celibacy (so I guess if that's a sin to passionately desire {I'm don't mean idoltary} marriage and I have not confessed and repented of it, I suppose I will have to give an account at the Judgement Seat of Christ) .
I don't feel called to go to remote parts of the world on missionary trips or other dangerous things only an always-single person could do.
I have to eat and so I work to have money to buy food. I already try to help the poor and promote teaching of Jesus. Just the though of a lifetime of singleness is a major distractionAll Christians are called to be missionaries. That's what it means to be Christian i.e. go into all the world teaching others to obey my commands (Matthew 28:19-20). That's not a suggestion. It's a command. You can still do that with a wife; it just means you need to be all the more careful about choosing wisely. You don't have to go to remote parts of the world, though you should be willing to. The main thing is to stop using your time working for money and the things money can buy and start working to promote the kingdom of Heaven whether it be helping the poor or promoting obedience to Jesus' teachings on the streets, or online, or where ever.
I have to eat and so I work to have money to buy food. I already try to help the poor and promote teaching of Jesus. Just the though of a lifetime of singleness is a major distraction
No, I am not and have a unique church situation as I attend church about 70 miles from where I live so I only go to Sunday service (I usually stay with family in the area so I don't have to drive that every Sunday)It is important to connect with the Lord and seek His input on our lives. What He requests of one does not hold true for the next. Our experiences, gifting, and makeup play a significant part in our purpose.
Most aren’t called to the mission field or full-time ministry. The majority function as beacons of light on the job, school, neighborhood, and so on.
Are you part of a local men’s group or willing to join one to meet godly men?
Yours in His Service,
~bella
No, I am not and have a unique church situation as I attend church about 70 miles from where I live so I only go to Sunday service (I usually stay with family in the area so I don't have to drive that every Sunday)
Thanks
You may want to start a thread requesting suggestions for online groups and resources for Christian men. Given the demographic, you should receive a lot of feedback.
There’s also a private men’s forum on the site. You can request access here.
@Cormack, This is right up your alley if you’re willing to chime in.
Yours in His Service,
~bella
That’s very neighbourly, cheers Bella.
Thank you for your prayersTo OP...
Infatuation is deceptive (been there many times, even on the mission field in 3 different countries!) You should have asked on first meeting if she was a Christian. Big mistake. Now if she's not, you wasted a lot of time and energy for nothing.
God will lead you to the right person if you trust him to do so. Now are you looking for what you want, or for Gods best for you? I didn't marry till 35, (20 years ago, met my wife). A good friend was 46 when he did. Will pray the same for you. God bless. [Pro 18:22]
(We don't get a say anything in the singles forum so this is nice.)
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