Key: Thanks for your very thoughtful post -- It was sort of beautiful in a way. I understand what you're getting at, although I think I'm personally a little less cynical toward the ability of words to communicate something to another person, even if they've never experienced it. (I'm currently trying to write a novel, and even though my own writing skills may not be good enough to achieve that level of communication, I'd like to think it's possible at least.)
But when you asked if I've ever had major stitches done due to cuts, it struck a chord with one of my own experiences, and it made me feel like sharing a story, which may be only sort of relevant here if anyone wants to listen. This is something that I've never really told anyone outside the "real world" (aka offline)...
When I was 16, I had an accident where my entire arm went through a plane glass window. All of the flesh from my wrist to my elbow was pretty much shredded -- there were long strips of skin literally hanging loose. No one was around who could drive, and since this was something that required some serious medical attention (it was bleeding badly) we ended up calling an ambulance.
As the paramedics were arriving, I remember being almost unable to bring myself to look at the injury, and thinking that there couldn't be enough skin left for them to even sew it back together. But instead of allowing myself to panic, I remember thinking over and over again that I was going to a hospital now, there are doctors there, and they'll try their best to fix it. (That was how I "dealt with it," I suppose.) In the end it took 40+ stitches, 60+ staples, and surgery to repair a severed tendon. Five years later, I still have some pretty cool, wicked scars to show for it (and some minor stiffness now and then) but for the most part my arm and hand are as good as new.
But telling that story, even if the listener doesn't understand precisely how it felt when they started putting in the stitches (and the painkiller wasn't working and I could feel each stitch and staple going in), I would at least expect them to understand what happened, how it happened, maybe even imagine what it was like -- I disagree that it would be so far beyond their own experiences as to be incomprehensible.
Now, see here we are on the same page. Like that Sharp feeling, like a quick bee sting as they put the stitch into the skin (When they did not wait for the meds to hit), then that feeling like the skin (As much as it hurts) is being dragged by the thread, and as they tie it down, you can feel the, I swear you can feel the new hole they just put into stretch a little, and the pain is just about blinding as it ever could. Then they put the staple in, and it's quick, all you feel, is the impact to the skin, at first, then it just stings all around the are.
There is the time you are not looking down, but you are at the same time, needing to look at it, you need to know how bad it is, can ya move the fingers, can you move the arm, you don't want to move the arm, but you want to move the arm at the same time. You want to wiggle your fingers to make sure you still can, but you are scared to move the fingers, or anything at all, because, it's all just so bloody and the shock is about the only thing keeping you sane at this moment, but you know, it should hurt more then it does, but, your mind is like, well this, I can deal with this, just a few more moments, and then I'll be ok, I'll be taken care of, and they will just fix me up, and everything is going to be fine, I'm going to be fine, they will fix me up, and it's all going to be ok.
Then they lay your arm down, and put the needles right into the wounds, and pain, and the needled, and the fluid fills into the wound, and first one is beyond the pain of the injury itself, as they shove that needle into you, and all you think of is "Just a moment more, then it will stop hurting, then it will stop hurting, just please stop hurting, they just gonna do it this little bit, and it's gonna stop hurting.
Now, Sure, Other people might be thinking, "Well that sounds Bad, don't it"
But, you and I, well, that's like.. LIFE.. that is REAL to us, we know that feeling, we experienced it, and we know it, and when we talk about it, and our words, have Weight, and Merit, and they have LIFE to them. There is a REALness to those words.. even if other people might sympthise with what that might have been like.. they stil have a barrier there, something that stops them from truly grasping what it was like. That is where the LIFE is my friend, that is LIFE.
And we know, that each of us, Knows what the other is talking about, there is no miscommunication there, there is no problems grasping what was said, or confusion. We have that rapport between us, that binds us.
Same with Christ...
right now I feel strangely like we've found some common ground. Thanks for that.
Always a Blessing
God Bless
Key