my dad took me to church as a young person, while my mom was not a christian for 50 years of her life (she is now a christian), and I did not respect my dad at all when I found all his porno as young teen and also his meanness (he is just christian in name only, he admits he will not follow all Jesus' ways, he says that is being a monk and he won't do it-christianity is not being a monk, but Jesus requires 100%). My mother is from Okinawa, and they are more into ancestor worship and other things more than open to christianity. So I was also open to other things than just christianity, I looked into Buddhism, have been to buddhist temple in Korea, and looked at other things, also things with demons. none of that helped me much.
after really embracing a sinful and bad lifestyle for some years, that started to catch up with my conscience and really over burdened me. I went to doctors who did not help me, they told me stop taking marijuana, but they didn't say how I could feel better, marijuana just helped me dull the pain because I hated life so much, their medications did not work, and marijuana is not good either, judgment is impaired a bit when always stoned.
after my son was born, (which I did not want to be a mother at that time, but his dad lied to me about helping raise him), I needed a change from all this hated life and pointlessness. my partner at that time started becoming even more violent, so I moved and started reading the bible. thinking of death so much made me seek answers (my partner was threatening to kill me, he has tried to kill 2 others that I know of, so I take it seriously, plus he choked me and tried to crash my car with me and my baby in it- we got police intervention). I needed answers what is the point of living, just die and that's it? then I asked God for help and was going to do whatever it took to let God work in my life. I ask Jesus for help, and He cleaned my overloaded heavy conscience, that is very big evidence of His working in my life. doctors could not do that, but Jesus did. I was a thief and criminal, I had big depression from my sinful ways, but Jesus and God helped. so I have found meaning and purpose and life and good conscience with Jesus and God, He also gave me love and to love my family, which I didn't have much of that before. His Holy Spirit is wonderful help, just like Jesus says in New Testament. I recommend reading New Testament and Jesus to learn what christian life is supposed to be, unfortunately many churchgoers are not following New Testament, and we can see the fruit of that with the hypocrits, but even Jesus and New Testament warns so much about bad ones, we must learn what Jesus says is good, so we can stay away and not copy the bad, He gives many warnings in the New Testament, also He gives truth and wonderful life, even if it is hard at times, He does not promise easy life, but He offers eternal life and clean conscience before God. that is wonderful news in this evil world.