hola
i am sorry to burden anyone with this... but i am plagued by hopelessness. i feel like a failure as a woman, i have pushed my husband and family away... i feel ugly and useless... i think i am losing my faith, prayer has not relieved anything and i truly feel alone in the world... i want to give up
has anybody experienced this or does anybody know how to pass through this?
gracias
I can not know what you are going through at the moment but I know that you can pass through whatever you are going through at the moment.
I believe you can take comfort in knowing that people have gone through what you are going through and have survived.
I believe you can take comfort in who God wants you to be:
Snowbunny is patient, Snowbunny is kind. She does not envy, she does not boast, she is not proud. 5 She is not rude, she is not self-seeking, she is not easily angered, she keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Snowbunny does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 Snowbunny always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Snowbunny never fails.
I believe that God can use you and give give you joy especially when you fill hopeless.
PS 51:17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit;
a broken and contrite heart,
O God, you will not despise.
When you are weak, with God's direction and love you can be strong.
4 For to be sure, he was crucified in weakness, yet he lives by God's power. Likewise, we are weak in him, yet by God's power we will live with him to serve you.
2CO 13:5 Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you--unless, of course, you fail the test? 6 And I trust that you will discover that we have not failed the test. 7 Now we pray to God that you will not do anything wrong. Not that people will see that we have stood the test but that you will do what is right even though we may seem to have failed. 8 For we cannot do anything against the truth, but only for the truth. 9 We are glad whenever we are weak but you are strong; and our prayer is for your perfection. 10 This is why I write these things when I am absent, that when I come I may not have to be harsh in my use of authority--the authority the Lord gave me for building you up, not for tearing you down.
Jesus died for us, especially when we were without hope.
You said you fill useless? I believe that you can
always be of use.
You can always loose the chains of injustice.
You can always untie the cords of the yoke.
You can always cast your burdens.
You can always share your food with the hungry.
You can always provide the poor with shelter (to the extent that God enables you).
You can always pray for your situation and God will heal you or answer you.
You can always clothe the poor.
You can always pray for others.
You can always be rock for your family.
Do you feel useless? I believe there is no end to how useful you can be.
I believe you can be a precious wife.
PR 31:10 A wife of noble character who can find?
Snowbunny is worth far more than rubies.
PR 31:11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
PR 31:12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
PR 31:13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
PR 31:14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
PR 31:15 She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.
PR 31:16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
PR 31:17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
PR 31:18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
PR 31:19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
PR 31:20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
PR 31:21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
PR 31:22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
PR 31:23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
PR 31:24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
PR 31:25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
PR 31:26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
PR 31:27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
PR 31:28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
PR 31:29 "Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all."
PR 31:30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
PR 31:31 Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
Forgetting the past, I pray that you look forward, because there is always hope and you can always be useful, as long as you are breathing.
You said you feel ulgy? Peter had this advice
1PE 3:1 Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. 4 Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. 5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, 6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.
Snowbunny, you are beautiful - the flesh counts for nothing, you are who you are and
want to be. You can be gentle, reliable, and peaceful. I am certain that your husband needs you otherwise he would not have married you.
You said you feel truly alone in the world. I suggest finding encouraging christians. I would also say that God is with you, God loves you and wants to be your Father.
I believe that you can't be alone. David wrote:
PS 139:8 If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
PS 139:9 If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
if I settle on the far side of the sea,
PS 139:10 even there your hand will guide me,
your right hand will hold me fast.
PS 139:11 If I say, "Surely the darkness will hide me
and the light become night around me,"
PS 139:12 even the darkness will not be dark to you;
the night will shine like the day,
for darkness is as light to you.
PS 139:13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother's womb.
PS 139:14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
PS 139:15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place.
When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,
PS 139:16 your eyes saw my unformed body.
All the days ordained for me
were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
PS 139:17 How precious to me are your thoughts, O God!
How vast is the sum of them!
PS 139:18 Were I to count them,
they would outnumber the grains of sand.
When I awake,
I am still with you.
This can be true for you, if you believe. If there is nothing else you are sure of, be sure that God took an interest in you before you were born, He is still interested in you and still wants the best for you.
All these things I am saying are not out of your reach. They are tangible, they are practical, they are possible. I pray to God that you will see yourself as God sees you, in Jesus' name.
You said pray hasn't works? Why not even try giving? Paul said:
7 Each man should give what he has decided in his heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. 8 And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.
At all times, he can make all grace abound to you.
Snowbunny, you are not useless, you are not ugly, you are not alone, and you are not failure as a woman, if you take action and actively let God loose on you to do his work.
37 Then he said to his disciples, "The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few. 38 Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send out workers into his harvest field."
You are needed, by the rest of humanity. More Snowbunnies, please!
I think most people pass through difficult periods in life. I know you are not muslim but the Quranic advice is the only advice I can give you, I hope you will not get offended.
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