Homosexual marriage...what to do???

[RainbowLady]

Well,you mentioned that he is a good friend,right? It doesn't matter if he's a homosexual or not. It's not about his sexual orientation, it's about his happiness. If you are a good friend, you should go!

 

[TooCurious]

Your friend is lucky enough to have found someone to love, who loves him and makes him happy. He values your friendship enough to want to include you in one of the most important and happiest events in his life. If you respect and care about him as a good friend, then you should attend his celebration and be glad that he has someone to share his life with.

 

[καλλιστι]

Your friend is lucky enough to have found someone to love, who loves him and makes him happy. He values your friendship enough to want to include you in one of the most important and happiest events in his life. If you respect and care about him as a good friend, then you should attend his celebration and be glad that he has someone to share his life with.

...because once his life is over, he has all of eternity to burn in the lake of fire.

 

[Maxwell511]

my question to everyone is should i go to this wedding because he is a good friend or should i not because it would be considered supporting that lifestyle (which i do not). im just torn because he is a great friend and i don't want to hurt his feelings by not going.

There is nothing wrong with monogamy. Someday if you meet someone really special you will understand his desire for an monogamist lifestyle and to get married.

When I got engaged alot of my good friends didn't understand it. But now they have accepted my lifestyle choice and will be coming to the wedding.

 

[TooCurious]

...because once his life is over, he has all of eternity to burn in the lake of fire.

I thought Christian doctrine taught that people were saved by faith and grace, rather than by their actions? The OP said that he thought that his gay friend "is a believer but does not believe that homosexuality is wrong." There are denominations of Christianity that do not consider homosexuality a sin, and if the OP's gay friend is a member of one of these, no amount of counterproductive "my church is better than your church" bickering is going to accomplish anything productive--and that's precisely what the OP would be doing if he started in on his friend about the evils of homosexuality. Even if homosexuality were a sin, doesn't Christianity teach that all people are sinners, and that one sin is just as bad as another, and that's why people need Christ?

As an aside, I am genuinely saddened to think that you revere a deity that would torture someone forever for finding love and happiness with another person, and pledging to be true to that one person for the rest of his life. But that's not relevant to the OP's concern.

 

[bshoe421]

wow a lot has been said since i was on last!

When I got engaged alot of my good friends didn't understand it. But now they have accepted my lifestyle choice and will be coming to the wedding.

I agree! i actually am engaged and many people don't understand why i have chosen the lifestyle of getting married at a young age.

correct everyone is a sinner and no one is perfect, therefore any wedding i were to go to would be between 2 sinners, and the Bible does say that there is no one sin that is worse than another. i guess im really digging too much into this. thank you all for pointing out the other side of the situation.

it is so great to have people to talk to and discuss different situations with!!

 

[Joykins]

no he hasn't sent any invitations yet but he has already told me that im invited and showed me the guest list. he knows that i am a strong christian but we really never discussed about Christianity and homosexuality, im a big people pleaser and try to avoid conflict as much as possible so im not one to say to him that i disapprove of his choices, i know that i should witness to him, but that is a hard thing for me.

also i believe that he is one of those people that is a believer but does not believe that homosexuality is wrong. its just a tough thing for me. i try to be the best christian i can but i know that i should be witnessing to him...

So do you think that boycotting his wedding would be a good way of showing him the love of Christ?

I would go.

One of these days you might discuss with him some of these issues but if you haven't done it yet you might think about why this is.

 

[Trevorocity]

If you're invited I'd say just go. I've gone to friends' weddings when I've disapproved of the choice in the bride but I went anyway because he loved her and that was the important thing. If you act like a jackass you'll just lose your friend and he'll do what he wants anyway. Men are like that.

 

[StarCannon]

Oh for the love of the gods...

Just go to the wedding, drink lots of champange, eat lots of cake, and have a good time.

 

[ReverendDG]

also i believe that he is one of those people that is a believer but does not believe that homosexuality is wrong. its just a tough thing for me. i try to be the best christian i can but i know that i should be witnessing to him...

i think its a better idea to be a good friend and forget about whether or not you approve of the "lifestyle"
i think witnessing is a poor choice at this time, it would more than likely make your friend angry that you bring up what you think is sin at a happy time

but thats just me

 

[Skaloop]

i think its a better idea to be a good friend and forget about whether or not you approve of the "lifestyle" or not.
i think witnessing is a poor choice at this time, it would more than likely make your friend angry that you bring up sin at a happy time

but thats just me

Judging by most of the responses, it's not just you at all.

 

[quatona]

What´s the problem with being happy that someone is happy even though it´s not the thing that would make you happy?

 

[bshoe421]

well i had wanted to go from the begining becuase i really didn't see the problem but my fiance had said that she didn't think that she could go because she can't support it so thats what brought up this question. i just don't think that she understands because she has never had a good "gay" friend and actually neither have i untill i met him! i just want to be there because he is a good friend! i think that if she knew someone like that she would prob want to go but she doesn't know him that well so maybe thats why.

 

[stan1980]

Go to the wedding. And tell your girlfriend that Stan from the internet says she is a bigot.

 

[bshoe421]

HA! sounds good!!

 

[Aeris]

well i had wanted to go from the begining becuase i really didn't see the problem but my fiance had said that she didn't think that she could go because she can't support it so thats what brought up this question. i just don't think that she understands because she has never had a good "gay" friend and actually neither have i untill i met him! i just want to be there because he is a good friend! i think that if she knew someone like that she would prob want to go but she doesn't know him that well so maybe thats why.

Ya I've always thought that alot of the people who are strongly against homosexuality have never really met a homosexual, it makes it easy for them to believe they are these evil people and all the stereotypes that go along with it, but if you have a good friend or a family member that is gay (I have both, my best friend and my cousin) then you know they are just like you, being gay is only a small part of who they are. I think you should go to the wedding, if you fiance doesnt want to go she doesnt have to, but dont loose a good friend just because your fiance doesnt approve of who hes marrying when she doesnt even know him or the other person.

 

[AnonymousAdvocate]

take your disapproval and can it. a great friend is a great friend. you should be so lucky as to have one of those. no matter what, do not let yourself be deluded by others. think about in the proverbial "shoes" of your friend. what if you were having a wedding that no one would go to because they didn't approve of something you did?

go to the wedding IMO

 

[Robbie_James_Francis]

Ya I've always thought that alot of the people who are strongly against homosexuality have never really met a homosexual, it makes it easy for them to believe they are these evil people and all the stereotypes that go along with it, but if you have a good friend or a family member that is gay (I have both, my best friend and my cousin) then you know they are just like you, being gay is only a small part of who they are. I think you should go to the wedding, if you fiance doesnt want to go she doesnt have to, but dont loose a good friend just because your fiance doesnt approve of who hes marrying when she doesnt even know him or the other person.

That's a really good point. I know a lot of people who you might expect to be a bit homophobic but because they know me as a person and not just 'a gay' they're not. It would be nice if everyone knew someone that was gay...I think it would change a lot of perceptions. It's a lot easier to have respect for a group of people if you know one of them as a person, and they're not just some abstract individual defined solely by one characteristic.

When one of my cousins found out that I was gay he just said 'Well, Rob's Rob' and that was it. It didn't change who I am as a person.

 

[Natural1]

I don't agre with homosexual unions either, but if I were in your shoes I would probably go. After all, it's better to create more happiness in the world than misery.
Another 'yea' vote.

 

[Rebekka]

I apologize for the off topic post, just wanted to say I like the Elegy on the loss of two dead cats you've quoted in your signature. I only wish that I remembered Dutch better (it's been almost 30 years since I spoke it).

Thank you. I'm glad that someone can read it. I lost one of my cats recently, and this is in honour of her, my sweet Okki.

(Yes, off-topic too, sorry.)