Homelessness

[MollFlanders]

I just need somewhere to vent. Hope this is the right place. I'm down on my luck and all thanks to my evil father-in-law. Like the devil in the story about Jesus being tempted in the desert, he took me to a large house and offered it to me, when I was pregnant with his first grandchild. He told me that I would not have to pay him any rent and that it would be a permanent home for myself and my children. He did not add the bit about bowing down and worshipping him but he may as well have done.

Four children later, he was charging us rent and referring to himself as "Landlord". He spoke with authority and expected us to "worship" him as our lord and master. When we tried to ignore him and live our own lives, he harrassed us and ended up evicting us. (We had to ignore him because he is a petty fraudster and thief and we did not want to get sucked into his crimes.)

Now we are homeless and he still behaves as though he cares about the children, in front of them, but behind their back it is obvious, to us, that he does not care about them. He insists that if we move back to his house, he is going to charge us the maximum amount of rent and he is going to harrass us and make our lives hell (like before). He does not care about the fact that his grandchildren are homeless.

We are expected to spend Christmas with him. We do not feel that it is appropriate for him to pretend that he cares about the children, when clearly he does not. We are facing misery and hardship, having to move home every few months but, because of his personality disorder he is unable to empathize with us or the children. Never having been homeless himself, he does not realise what we are going through. To make things worse, his sister, who is schizophrenic, is also out of touch with reality and expects us to spend Christmas with him. How can we?

 

[Ruth~]

Wow, I am sorry you have to go through such a tough time. Can you find another place to rent or don't you have any money? I am praying for you.

 

[LovesTruth]

If he is a fraudster and engaged in crime, don't go to his home for any reason. God does not expect you to do so! That is not what honoring parents means.

You are far better off away from the man.

I am confident you will find a home. You have learned a valuable lesson: A man must leave father and mother and become one with his wife. Your hubby will not accept free handouts again, but will stand alone on his own two feet and provide for you.

This is good, not a bad thing for your family. Do not be discouraged. You have options you do not yet know.

 

[vespasia]

As you are in the UK, contact your local council and register as homeless and contact SHELTER for some seriuos legal and general housing advice. They can also help you refer on to assorted housing associations lists too.

If money is a problem contact the DSS through your nearest DSS office as a matter of extreme urgency.

Finally the Salvation Army is in most cities, they may have an emergency hostel or be able to put you in contact with one.

The UK police are the ones to speak to in regards to any form of criminal activity that may be fronted by 'money luadering' such as 'property'. Again the Citizens Advice or SHELTER can offer decent legal advice on this area.

 

[LovesTruth]

Yes, and local churches and local orgs in the USA offer similar help free of government control... and ofcourse there are always gov't programs.

It used to be that the private sector provided such care instead of the gov't. We Christians did so for far less cost and the taxpayers prospered. Someday this will be the case again... All in due time.

 

[praying]

Yes, and local churches and local orgs in the USA offer similar help free of government control... and ofcourse there are always gov't programs.

It used to be that the private sector provided such care instead of the gov't. We Christians did so for far less cost and the taxpayers prospered. Someday this will be the case again... All in due time.

When was that that the private sector took care of the poor?

 

[MollFlanders]

Thank you all for your advice and prayers. I have not tried contacting SHELTER yet but will do so soon. So far, our dealings with the housing associations have proved unfruitful because they are all controlled by the government. Whilst the government freely gives housing in our area away to immigrants, if we try to move to another part of the country, we are told that they will give priority to their residents. So, we are caught in the middle of this discrepancy.

We did spend Christmas with my fraudulant father-in-law (for the sake of the children). He had on his best act with the children. After months of ignoring them, he pretended to be interested in them. When the discussion got round to our housing situation, however, he showed his true colours. He could not conceal his hatred towards his own son. He hates the fact that we have moved on and are not willing to go along with any more of his money-making schemes. He thought that, once we were desperate enough, we would move back to his property, on his terms i.e. to the tune of £1,400 per month in rent. He was hoping that we would agree to get this amount for him in benefits. He was, therefore, extremely angry when my husband told him what he could do with his property.

We have finally seen him for what he really is. I thank God that my husband has been able to see through him at last. The illusion is shattering and we are moving on.

Thanks be to God.

 

[vespasia]

SHELTER have a website here. http://www.shelter.org.uk/associations/?r=gaw&WT.srch=1
This page takes you through the various UK countries housing legislation inc. housing associations. You need to target a housing association that has a founding ethos that fits your families situation.

IF your father in law was attempting to get 'housing benefit' above the monthly rent of the property in your area the council and the DSS would love to know about this. It is a form of fraud. The DSS has some pretty heavy legislation on its side and frauding the DSS carries heftier penalties than some forms of ABH. Again speak to SHELTER about this.


Nota Bene.

Housing Associations in the UK are not controlled by the government; they are controlled by their trustees and their foundational ethos enshrined in legal and binding documents.
Council housing is controlled by local government not central government. It is given to those deemed at greatest risk and various from council to council.
To be honest most of the UK asylum seekers end up in condemned short life housing as they ever have done that no one who has a choice would want to try and live in. Please do not assume the headlines of 'daily mail' represents the reality.
Please refer to the Immigration and Nationality Directorate webpages for full details of UK immigration legislation.

 

[vespasia]

In the UK the outcomes of the Beverage Report 1942 highlighted the need for central government to cohesise and devise an 'access to all' policy to the best of their ability within the social structuire of the time.

There were indepandant charties providing some provision but they used a variety of screening methods ie. concepts of 'deserving poor' and so on that marginalised more than they included.

 

[LovesTruth]

When was that that the private sector took care of the poor?

We always have. The fact that you didn't know this is the fault of the modern liberal education system that censors facts favorable to conservativism and Christianity.

Christians and other people of faith have been caring for the poor for millennia, with far better results. We have enabled the poor to work and gain dignity. The modern welfare system merely keeps them alive, trapped in poverty, and dependent... and voting for liberals. That is the shame and dishonor of liberalism.

The Christian solution is to provide aid until they can work, and if they refuse, then to allow them to starve. That has an amazing success rate!