HI--new here

[Springrain]

Hope it works.

 

[bcauser]

Yes you do and what a nice pic it is. Mind if I use it sometime? You also have enough blessing to do your character, if you want. For info on it go to the FAQ and it'll tell you how to do it, when you get stuck ask one of us. Good luck.
Bless
B

 

[bcauser]

 

[Spudgrandma]

Welcome to you both.

 

[Springrain]

Image is from photobucket..welcome to it.

 

[Bubbi]

I am with you Springrain--learning. I am just trying to get a signature and lost 100 pts in the process lol.
Live and learn as they say!

I love graphics and love how this site allows them

 

[ContentInHim]

Dear Bubbi,

You are soooo like my 75-year-old friend, Bubbe - what a coincidence. She was a PCA, among other things, and cared for her mother who went home to be with the Lord last year at age 96.

God bless you!

 

[Bubbi]

Hi,
My mom is only 75 but along with early dementia she has several other health issues. She came to be with me 10 yrs ago. She won a battle with breast cancer only to be left with heart disease due to radiation damage. Breast implants that ruptured (silicone) and now diabetes which is fast taking its toll.

She fell on new yrs day and broke her leg--after 10 days in hospital i am doing 24/7 care. My prayer has always been to keep her home and out of a Nursing Home. Her doctor wants her in a home but I will care for her as long as i can.

It is getting harder as my own physical limitations become more apparent but with Gods strength I am not ready to give up.
Bubbi

 

[bcauser]

Hi,
My mom is only 75 but along with early dementia she has several other health issues. She came to be with me 10 yrs ago. She won a battle with breast cancer only to be left with heart disease due to radiation damage. Breast implants that ruptured (silicone) and now diabetes which is fast taking its toll.

She fell on new yrs day and broke her leg--after 10 days in hospital i am doing 24/7 care. My prayer has always been to keep her home and out of a Nursing Home. Her doctor wants her in a home but I will care for her as long as i can.

It is getting harder as my own physical limitations become more apparent but with Gods strength I am not ready to give up.
Bubbi

Boy I give you so much credit. I lost my Dad almost 2yrs. ago and now my Mom is a handful. She has almost late stages of dementia and insist on staying in own home. That is where we are trying to keep her. She will not come and live with one of us and we all live away. We have just recently stopped her from driving and that was taken hard. We have set up meals of wheels and an aide comes in and checks in on her. I to feel the Lord has a hand in all of this she is a Christian and no amount of dementia will change that. I'll pray for you please pray for me also.
Bless You
B

 

[Springrain]

Congatulations..

 

[Bubbi]

B,
I sure will pray and covet all prayers. I feel for you--it is very hard to have to limit ones own parent. Even with 30 yrs of nursing--when your caring for your own it is very hard to tell your mother or father he or she can no longer do this or that.

I am blessed to have a seperate portion of the house made into her own apt. But I live with a baby monitor on 24/7.
Sometimes my mom picks fights over the silliest things but I know its hard for her to realize she cant do what she once did.

For me--the hardest part is not to react when she gets mean etc.. Not get my feelings hurt.
Like yours--my mom is a Christian and I will do everything I can to keep her at home God willing.

Springrain--Yes--got the character and she represents me well (although younger)
Bubbi

 

[C.F.W. Walther]

B,
I sure will pray and covet all prayers. I feel for you--it is very hard to have to limit ones own parent. Even with 30 yrs of nursing--when your caring for your own it is very hard to tell your mother or father he or she can no longer do this or that.

I am blessed to have a seperate portion of the house made into her own apt. But I live with a baby monitor on 24/7.
Sometimes my mom picks fights over the silliest things but I know its hard for her to realize she cant do what she once did.

For me--the hardest part is not to react when she gets mean etc.. Not get my feelings hurt.
Like yours--my mom is a Christian and I will do everything I can to keep her at home God willing.

Springrain--Yes--got the character and she represents me well (although younger)
Bubbi

One sad problem in this society is that we don't "honor the hoary head" (reference to our parents and older people). Why is it so easy for us to sequester our parents in a nursing home when they get older? Easy, we don't want the hassle. That's why I admire children who care for their parents when they get infirmed and love them no matter what. You're a saint Bubbi.

"Honor they father and thy mother. That it may be well with thee and thou mayest live long on the earth"

 

[Bubbi]

Radidio,
Not a saint--just seems like the right thing to do. I need prayer to be able to see this through.
Prayer for my mom that she doesnt hurt herself beyond what I am able to handle.

That is my worst nightmare............

 

[davedajobauk]

One sad problem in this society is that we don't "honor the hoary head" (reference to our parents and older people). Why is it so easy for us to sequester our parents in a nursing home when they get older? Easy, we don't want the hassle. That's why I admire children who care for their parents when they get infirmed and love them no matter what. You're a saint Bubbi.

"Honor they father and thy mother. That it may be well with thee and thou mayest live long on the earth"

Yes I cared for my mother over her final year with us
she had had a number of strokes that robbed of limb movement and strength and then later her mind also
she spent her last four days in hospital
'immobile, adrift somewhere else and doubly-incontinent

I dont think she could have been cared-for
so-respectfully elsewhere (in hospital)
Harrowing well yes ! but I owed her my every effort

My siblings took no-part in her care
and would relieve us for just two hours to get in the xmas munchies and all the presents

I disowned them
though I have on-occasion seen them since
I would preferred not to have done so

dave

 

[ContentInHim]

One sad problem in this society is that we don't "honor the hoary head" (reference to our parents and older people). Why is it so easy for us to sequester our parents in a nursing home when they get older? Easy, we don't want the hassle. That's why I admire children who care for their parents when they get infirmed and love them no matter what. You're a saint Bubbi.

"Honor they father and thy mother. That it may be well with thee and thou mayest live long on the earth"

I agree on so many levels, but for many of us this is not an option. I was fortunate that my parents moved to a "life care" community. Dad had a stroke and was cared for in the nursing wing. He returned and dementia crippled him. Then Mom got cancer and was in the nursing wing while Dad went to assisted living. They were soooo well cared for - I know how fortunate I was! And then I could be with them and love them (I lived in their onsite apartment during the end) and we could all keep our dignity. There are good things about both ways - as long as the care is excellent!

 

[davedajobauk]

B,
I sure will pray and covet all prayers. I feel for you--it is very hard to have to limit ones own parent. Even with 30 yrs of nursing--when your caring for your own it is very hard to tell your mother or father he or she can no longer do this or that.

I am blessed to have a seperate portion of the house made into her own apt. But I live with a baby monitor on 24/7.
Sometimes my mom picks fights over the silliest things but I know its hard for her to realize she cant do what she once did.

For me--the hardest part is not to react when she gets mean etc.. Not get my feelings hurt.
Like yours--my mom is a Christian and I will do everything I can to keep her at home God willing.

Springrain--Yes--got the character and she represents me well (although younger)
Bubbi

My Mom would later complain to nurse and doctor
that I and my children bullied her
that we were after her money
and that we would keep turning over the tv program
she was watching "They are wicked people"
She asked to look after her own money
some two weeks before going into hospital
she lifted her frock and placed it inside her underwear
she gave it back to me later to "put in the tin"
we kept her money and accounts in
Incidents forgotten
Thankfully she was not aware of her predicament
and left this life very peacefully to be with Dad and Jesus

I honoured my Mother and my family honoured my
wishes to care for , when she could no-longer
do this for herslf
In such a way we had each other for-longer
(I believe) than, had we simply relied on the hospital
to support her
I had her moved to the hospital when she would no longer be roused (would simply lay there) and her breathing became a little rattly and the children were becoming concerned
four days later, she passed-on without waking again

It was a struggle with double incontinence
she had a buzzer but fell unable to attach
relevance to its usage and we would on two occasions
arrive in her room, to see her sat on the floor smiling
having moved-around the room quite a lot
It was on occasion a very harrowing time
She deserved that care from me


davedajobauk

 

[Springrain]

We are caregivers

 

[sk8Joyful]

My husband and I are caregivers for his mother (my mother-in-law).
She prefers to stay alone in her own home with her dog at 94. We have been able to make her wish come true.

We stay with her when she needs more attention and then leave for a while in our RV if and when she is up to staying alone. We got her to wear a life line monitor. There are neighbors on all sides that we have communication with in emergencey too. When we are traveling, we call Mom on the phone two times each day to be sure things are going well. When she doesn't answer we call a neighbor to go check. Our time away helps all of us to cope. Yes, it gets tough when she gets a little irritable. She is still doing really good considering she can cook, pay bills and balance her checkbook. She is a lucky woman. She may make it to 100. My husband and I have always been close with our parents and enjoy the duties of caregiver. We have stayed in the house with her on occasions of illness and to tend to maintenance of the house for months at a time but the time off in the RV really helps.

Our fathers are both passed but we did for them whatever they needed.

I am wondering if my own children will have it in them to be able to do this.

Hi Springrain

Your post was delightful to read. Good for you! and Good ! for your parents

This is how God designed/created us. Bless you!

And I understand about wondering... too.
Having worked cheerfully with more than a handful of *Positive-centenarians*,
we are wondering, and living for various dreams, Goals, & futures together... GOD willing.

Cheers! Annie

 

[sk8Joyful]

Do I have enough post points to post images yet?

Giving it a try here. Hope it works.

Hi Springrain

and

anytime, you need more of the same, and Bubbi too -
Feel FREE - getting some , as well as Adding more Huggies here in
this thread I started: http://www.christianforums.com/t4483449-good-hugs-.html

Annie

 

[Bubbi]

I agree on so many levels, but for many of us this is not an option. I was fortunate that my parents moved to a "life care" community. Dad had a stroke and was cared for in the nursing wing. He returned and dementia crippled him. Then Mom got cancer and was in the nursing wing while Dad went to assisted living. They were soooo well cared for - I know how fortunate I was! And then I could be with them and love them (I lived in their onsite apartment during the end) and we could all keep our dignity. There are good things about both ways - as long as the care is excellent!

You are so right Content. For many it is not an option--it isnt an easy thing to do and in many cases not even a possibility.

Much depends on the health status of the parent and even the caregiver.
Not to mention those that have to work etc...

Caring for anothers physical and emotional needs is not something everyone is cut out to do.
For me it was simply an extension of what I was already doing being in nursing.

What matters is love and respect. There are many ways to give this to our elderly parents.
Bubbi