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KANGA!!!!!!

Hey you!! its been a while!

howyadoin? you been missed 'round here.

Gee thanks, that's sweet.

9 months now! wow! I remember when you first posted here.
this is so cool to see you posting and know your doin good.

Yes. And, as always, it's really only one day at a time. I try not to rest in the fact that I've been sober for a certain amount of months. If I do that I start thinking that maybe I could handle a drink. Even after all this time I think it would be very easy to slip if I let my guard down. But, for the most part, I'm doing really well. :tutu:


hey guess what? I went and got saved since the last time you posted here! aint that somethin?

Oh, I can't even tell you how thrilled I am to hear this. :clap: I'm so happy that I could just cry. Welcome to the family of Christ.

Two pieces of advice: there is often a spiritual "high" at first, a honeymoon period. Obviously I'm saying that whatever level of "happy" you are feeling right now might not last forever. But, hey you might be the exception. I'm just talking from personal experience.

Personally I think God creates this period so you are enthusiastic and proactive about finding your place in the body of Christ. Then, when things get back to normal, serving God has become a part of your daily life.

Also, stay in the Word of God. We are so blessed to have a manual straight from our Creator. Often people don't take advantage of this precious gift. I suggest that you find a bible study group, or purchase a devotional that you like, whatever will help you to work reading the Scriptures into your routine.

Again, Praise God that you have accepted the great gift of salvation. :amen: :clap:

May God continue to place people in your life's path who will help you grow strong in your walk with Christ. :D

Monica
 
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Yes. And, as always, it's really only one day at a time. I try not to rest in the fact that I've been sober for a certain amount of months. If I do that I start thinking that maybe I could handle a drink. Even after all this time I think it would be very easy to slip if I let my guard down. But, for the most part, I'm doing really well.




Oh, I can't even tell you how thrilled I am to hear this. :clap: I'm so happy that I could just cry. Welcome to the family of Christ.

Two pieces of advice: there is often a spiritual "high" at first, a honeymoon period. Obviously I'm saying that whatever level of "happy" you are feeling right now might not last forever. But, hey you might be the exception. I'm just talking from personal experience.

Personally I think God creates this period so you are enthusiastic and proactive about finding your place in the body of Christ. Then, when things get back to normal, serving God has become a part of your daily life.

Also, stay in the Word of God. We are so blessed to have a manual straight from our Creator. Often people don't take advantage of this precious gift. I suggest that you find a bible study group, or purchase a devotional that you like, whatever will help you to work reading the Scriptures into your routine.

Again, Praise God that you have accepted the great gift of salvation. :amen:

May God continue to place people in your life's path who will help you grow strong in your walk with Christ. :D

Monica

Hey you! thanks for your kind words and advise. Although I am very familair with christianity (am or was actually an old backslider), still, as far as I am concerned, I am new to Him and His ways. So, I listen to everyone when it comes to a spiritual and recovering walk!


And IT IS good to see you here again! :wave:
 
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Hay you all, keep up the good work. Everyone in your life will thank you for it, I know. So much has changed for me this last year and a half. I don't count weeks or days, and even months ant more, they slip by faster. If I had only quit a year or 2 earlier, It wouldn't have cost me a couple hunderd grand. But life would probably be over for me if I wouldn't have stoped at all. So that I am greatful for. Good luck to all of you, I know you may not believe this, but it does get easier:thumbsup: .
God Bless, Rick
 
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Hay you all, keep up the good work. Everyone in your life will thank you for it, I know. So much has changed for me this last year and a half. I don't count weeks or days, and even months ant more, they slip by faster. If I had only quit a year or 2 earlier, It wouldn't have cost me a couple hunderd grand. But life would probably be over for me if I wouldn't have stoped at all. So that I am greatful for. Good luck to all of you, I know you may not believe this, but it does get easier:thumbsup: .
God Bless, Rick

Hey radrick! welcome to Recovery! :wave:

So, you been clean and sober a year and a half? thats great! I love it! you are so welcome to check out and post in the different threads here and I encourage you to do so.

Welcome to our forums!
 
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Thanks justanobserver, I hope everone is doing fine tonight.
I'll tell you a little of my story, and try not to bore you.
Started playing guitar at 10 years old and kept playing all my life. When I was 16 I was allowed to play in bars. By 18 or 19 it was free drinks for the band it seems, for the rest of my life. It didn't matter if I had money or not, just play and get drunk. Thank God I did get a great job as a printer. I printed for 32 years and made alot of money. Married 2 Xs and 3 wonderful girls, all grown now, 2 in collage. My 2nd X wife is a high school teacher. I was married to her 17 years. Drinking put an end to that. I don't care what I did for the rest of my life, I was a product of my enviorment, and that was bars. The last 5 years I drank Yukon at 5am on my way to work as a printer. Driving the 405 in the san fernando vally drinking on the way to work and on the way home.
I never got arrested in my life and I did some coke when I was young but never got cought up in it, just a drunk. After my devorce, I sold our house and got a check for $49,000, I quit my job after 32 years and drank everyday, from sun up to 2am. everyday for about 8 months, and 50 grand was gone. I met a girl I really liked and we drank togather until the cops came a few times and it scared me and her into trying to quit. Well we did it. Were still together after 3 years and both sober 20 months. I love it. never remember even feeling this way.
We went to 3 meetings a week for the first year, but now only 2 or 3 times a month. I got into God and started my own christian forum. I have many members and it's still growing. Thank God. Well that's enough, thanks. If your new at sobrioty, stick close to sober friends, they really do keep you in check with yourself. If your friends drink, loose them and become a hermet, just don't be around drinking. I don't play in bars anymore, never will again. That just life on my terms.
God Bless, Rick:thumbsup:

I edited this to add one thing that keeps going thru my mind: People say, :If you'd quit drinking , it would solve 90% of your problems. But there wrong! It solves 100% of your problems. It did mine.
 
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There are days I don't even think about a drink. That's a first!!
It will be even better after 5 months! You really do lose the crave and the motions. Keep it up, you'll make it.
God Bless you, Rick
 
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Well, my life really stinks this week. My husband finally left for work today after being here for a week. He came home with bad news [edited out by me because I decided it was TM unnecessary I]. And now he says that he is severly depressed and suicidal. Oh, btw, it's MY fault that he's depressed and suicidal, has NOTHING at all to do with him, or the mess he's making of his own life.

Anyway, mostly I wanted to share my news that I'm 10 months and 10 days sober and very happy to be that way with no plans to change my status.

Hope all had a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday!

Praise God :bow: that I'm sober.

Monica :tutu:
 
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Well, my life really stinks this week. My husband finally left for work today after being here for a week. He came home with bad news [edited out by me because I decided it was TM unnecessary I]. And now he says that he is severly depressed and suicidal. Oh, btw, it's MY fault that he's depressed and suicidal, has NOTHING at all to do with him, or the mess he's making of his own life.

Anyway, mostly I wanted to share my news that I'm 10 months and 10 days sober and very happy to be that way with no plans to change my status.

Hope all had a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday!

Praise God :bow: that I'm sober.

Monica :tutu:
((((((( KANGA!!!! ))))))))))))

Am so sorry to hear what your going thru. But I am so proud of you that your holding up with your sobreity.

I am goign to be off line for a while while I get my job an living situation figured out (got laid off the week before Thansgiving) and tomorrow night is my last night in this house.

But I will be trying to get online when I can at teh library or church to see how you are doing.

please keep this site posted on how you be! I will be praying for you.
 
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Thanks Norm. Wow, that's rough to lose your job and house right before the holidays! And I thought I had it bad. At least I have a roof over my head and hubby's paycheck. Thank God for that much. Dh says that his spirits are lifted now that he is back on the road. We'll have to brace ourselves for a rocky Christmas visit next.

But, wow. You. Have you got a good place to go? What about your things? What happens w/ those? I am so sorry to hear what YOU'RE dealing with. :( I believe that you live across the country from me, otherwise I'd offer whatever help I could to you. Praying for you brother. God Bless.
 
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just posting a quick "hey" to keep the thread alive and going!

Hey you! How about an update??? Last I knew sounded like you were out on the street. So... what's God doing in your life? Please share. ;)

My husband has been so hurtful to me lately. The meaner he gets the nicer I get though. It seems to be my defense mechanism. Whenever I start feeling sorry for myself I makes lists and write letters about what I'm grateful for. When someone is mean to me I write them letters about what I appreciate about them. I'm not sure if this is wise, but it really shut him up. And it definitely helps me to not grow angry if I turn my hurt into love (which I can only do with God's help). I told dh this too. I told him that I choose to love him because God loves him.
 
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hey you! still looking for a job - the ones I am seeking and the pay I need arent easy to find. had one job offer and I was qualified and they wanted me BUT it was at a winery....didnt think that would have been a good idea to work there!

but God has a job just for me. just wish He will let that employer know to tell me when I can start work soon!

Am sorry about your situation with your husband. its been several weeks since you posted - has it gotten better? how are you doing?

Norm

Hey you! How about an update??? Last I knew sounded like you were out on the street. So... what's God doing in your life? Please share. ;)

My husband has been so hurtful to me lately. The meaner he gets the nicer I get though. It seems to be my defense mechanism. Whenever I start feeling sorry for myself I makes lists and write letters about what I'm grateful for. When someone is mean to me I write them letters about what I appreciate about them. I'm not sure if this is wise, but it really shut him up. And it definitely helps me to not grow angry if I turn my hurt into love (which I can only do with God's help). I told dh this too. I told him that I choose to love him because God loves him.
 
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Wow - this is a long thread...... Maybe I can make it longer.

My sobriety date is November 28, 1984, so I had 23 years last month. In those 23 years, many things have happened - good and bad. It's called life.
I like to kid around, that I came into AA at 10 years old - but this isn't true ;) , but I was pretty young at the time. AA has changed in many ways - including having more young people, and more court cards needing to be signed. I went through a six month program, which is/was for low bottom folks. After three visits to the detox at that facility, a lady prayed for me on the floor of that detox - for God to remove the compulsion to drink from me. Thank God he did - I had an spiritual experience/change in that detox. Truly a miracle.
2007 has been a tuff year. My mom went to heaven, and I finally got tired of my verbally abusive husband - and moved away. Still trying to know God's will for me in that area - - I know by faith that he has a plan and purpose for me regardless of what I want! :amen:
Hope all of you have a wonderful Christmas. I know it can be hard for folks like us. We know that we are truly NOT along. We have God, and we have each other to walk through it together.

God bless - Vivister
 
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Wow - this is a long thread...... Maybe I can make it longer.

My sobriety date is November 28, 1984, so I had 23 years last month. In those 23 years, many things have happened - good and bad. It's called life.
I like to kid around, that I came into AA at 10 years old - but this isn't true ;) , but I was pretty young at the time. AA has changed in many ways - including having more young people, and more court cards needing to be signed. I went through a six month program, which is/was for low bottom folks. After three visits to the detox at that facility, a lady prayed for me on the floor of that detox - for God to remove the compulsion to drink from me. Thank God he did - I had an spiritual experience/change in that detox. Truly a miracle.
2007 has been a tuff year. My mom went to heaven, and I finally got tired of my verbally abusive husband - and moved away. Still trying to know God's will for me in that area - - I know by faith that he has a plan and purpose for me regardless of what I want! :amen:
Hope all of you have a wonderful Christmas. I know it can be hard for folks like us. We know that we are truly NOT along. We have God, and we have each other to walk through it together.

God bless - Vivister
Hey Vivian! welcome to the Recovery forums. :wave: :hug:

I been amiss in keeping up in the threads and posts here.

23 years sober. WOW! God is so good! I got just over 3 yrs sober and 4 yrs clean myself.

I hate to cut this so short but am almost out of time here at the library computer.

but again, ple ase allow me to welcome you to our Recovery section and want to encouragre you to post and post often! :thumbsup:

Norm
 
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