Hi, i need advice or help

[Jin19]

hello there, thanks for taking the time to read my topic. Ok so heres the deal......I'm 19 years old ive been a christian for about 4 years. Being a christian these past 4 years has been rough and just amazing at times. My biggest problem right now is anything to deal with sex. I just moved out to l.a. to persue my dance,acting,and modeling career. I came from a suburb near chicagoland area and went to a great little christian church. Being out here in la has changed me so much and has made me stronger as a christian especially!!BUT, when it comes to sex or girls thats my weakness.......everything out here and anything dealing with my career theres always some type of sexual activity involved.....Trust me i pray about it and i try so hard to think pure thoughts.....but man o man its hard when ur dancing with half naked girls (girls with bascially bras and underwear) on stage right next to you.....very sad but thats how dance is out here, i hate it....but anyways can anyone help me out and tell me what more i can do to help not think about sex and girls all the time......I havent had a g/f in 3 years.... the thougths and hormones are gettin worse......I have found great churches though, i go to a church called mosaic and saddleback......I really dont know anyone there so i cant really just talk to them so thats why i am asking here!....please help i greatly appreciate it. Thank and God Bless

 

[Elboy]

I have always used the idea of getting a symbol and remembering a verse in the bible that will deter me from thinking about it, for example wear a ring and when ever you think about sex, look down at the ring and remember the verse.........it always detered me from doing wrong things

El

 

[apologia25]

hello there, thanks for taking the time to read my topic. Ok so heres the deal......I'm 19 years old ive been a christian for about 4 years. Being a christian these past 4 years has been rough and just amazing at times. My biggest problem right now is anything to deal with sex. I just moved out to l.a. to persue my dance,acting,and modeling career. I came from a suburb near chicagoland area and went to a great little christian church. Being out here in la has changed me so much and has made me stronger as a christian especially!!BUT, when it comes to sex or girls thats my weakness.......everything out here and anything dealing with my career theres always some type of sexual activity involved.....Trust me i pray about it and i try so hard to think pure thoughts.....but man o man its hard when ur dancing with half naked girls (girls with bascially bras and underwear) on stage right next to you.....very sad but thats how dance is out here, i hate it....but anyways can anyone help me out and tell me what more i can do to help not think about sex and girls all the time......I havent had a g/f in 3 years.... the thougths and hormones are gettin worse......I have found great churches though, i go to a church called mosaic and saddleback......I really dont know anyone there so i cant really just talk to them so thats why i am asking here!....please help i greatly appreciate it. Thank and God Bless

Well bro, I will start with a story. Long time ago I was the best singer in my high school. I decided to try out for this really popular Jazz choir called Genesis. All my hopes and dreams were involved in it. Well I didn't make it in. Later I found out why, first of all I avoided saying that my passion for singing came from the Lord and also because God was protecting me. The group did weird stuff together and tons fo drinking parties and drugs. I would have put myself in the worse position. It would seem that your in a position all right. I would encourage you to witness for Christ hard as that may sound. I would also say to start really praying for a wife. You are in a hotzone of testing. Somehow by witnessing Christ others may get saved(being optimistic) and others will be turned off by your being a Christian. Continue to hold your thoughts captive and remember 1 cor 10:13 God has a way out for you from sinning. Also I feel like saying on the highway of God there are warning signs, stop signs, and offramps be open to the lords warnings his stop signs and his offramps. I will be praying for you feel free to PM me and keep me updated on your situation

 

[Johnnz]

You are in a sexually stimulating environment. Naturally, you will respond.

You have two choices. One is to move out.

The other is to be really honest about yourself, make sure you have a really good understanding of what is normal and healthy sexuality, then distinguish what is genuine lust versus mere stimulation. You can then work at attitudes and values that will sustain you.

Christians often run away from confronting their sexuality honestly and healthily by using labels too easily. Lust is one such label. But we exist in other very seductive situations without too much comment - career competition, consumerism, fashion, body image, dealing with success etc. We don't totally avoid these situations (in fact we can't as they are all around us and part of our daily lives).

We need to be just as robust in our faith in living within a sexually saturated society. The second option is by far the harder, but long term, the most effective.

John
NZ

 

[JeremiahJ]

Sexual desire and purity of all kinds is not something that is very easy to just advise and fix the situation. This message board will not do much in helping you stay pure. My advice is to surround yourself with people who are passionate about following God. From what I know about Mosaic, it's a pretty good church... get connected, get involved. Find a group of friends who you can relate to who are in love with Jesus Christ and also want to strive for purity. It doesn't seem like (I might have misunderstood) the people who you spend the majority of your time with are the best influence. "Bad company corrupts good character." If those closest to you are those who are also following Christ, they will "spur" you to become a person of stronger character. Only good things can come from that.

As a fellow 19 year old male, I have somewhat of an understanding of your situation. Some things that I try to keep in mind that I personally find helpful are:
1. Thoughts are sin, and entertaining thoughts leads to physical sin.
2. The poor girl who is making herself an object. She's a person who is desperately in need of God's love, as she's seeking it in the wrong ways. Prayer for the girl(s) inciting sexual desire often helps think of them in a God-honoring way. And they need your prayer.
3. Impurity is sin, and therefore leads to death... death of spirit, death of passion, death of character, death of peace, death of joy - sin can do nothing but hinder you from life. And, I want life, I want to be more alive everyday. Why would I think, do, or say anything that is going to prevent me from obtaining the life that comes from the endless love of Jesus Christ?

I hope I helped a little...

 

[jezic]

look to an example of purity like the Blessed Mother or Saint Joseph and ask Jesus to help make your thoughts like theirs. (even though you aren't Catholic, that is alright. )

Wish you the best
remember to always keep up the fight

 

[HEAVENBOUND4EVER]

Hey Brother,
I Will Pray That The Lord Will Keep Your Mind Off Of Sex And Girls. But You Know That It Is The Devil Causing You To Have Those Thoughts. So When You Start To Have Those Thougths Just Say "devil, In The Name Of Jesus I Damand You To Leave". If You Say It Like You Really And Trully Mean It, Like In The Name Of Jesus, Then The Devil Will Have To Flee. Well, I Hope I Have Helped. God Bless
- Tiffany

 

[Goldfinger]

Get married? There was a perfectly logical reason why people used to get married at 16yo.