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[Rememberme]

I need some encouragement.My husband has been gone for a year and one half.I am having to move from our home we purchased in 2001.I am going through my husbands closet.This is so hard..........I am bringing some things with me because I can't throw him away right now.I am moving into my daughters which I do not want to.Have to.I can"t get myself together for this move.Crying crying, crying.So I called my friend to take a breather and when I told her I have a hard time figuring out how to sort this stuff.She said "this isn't rocket science"I know I am not the only one who has gone through an emotional move.My friend has been there up until today.I am shaking and want to crawl in a hole and die. Any advice will be helpful.Prayers also.Why am I doing this?It hurts so bad.

Thank you,I know someone on this forum gets this.

 

[Jeldist]

hang in there rememberme, i know its really hard and depressing

The main thing that gets me through is I believe I'll be with my Wife in heaven after I die. Its still super hard and I'm lonely as heck, but it helps a bit

Hope you can find some comfort

 

[Jeldist]

hang in there rememberme, i know its really hard and depressing

The main thing that gets me through is I believe I'll be with my Wife in heaven after I die. Its still super hard and I'm lonely as heck, but it helps a bit

Hope you can find some comfort

 

[Christianwidow]

I need some encouragement.My husband has been gone for a year and one half.I am having to move from our home we purchased in 2001.I am going through my husbands closet.This is so hard..........I am bringing some things with me because I can't throw him away right now.I am moving into my daughters which I do not want to.Have to.I can"t get myself together for this move.Crying crying, crying.So I called my friend to take a breather and when I told her I have a hard time figuring out how to sort this stuff.She said "this isn't rocket science"I know I am not the only one who has gone through an emotional move.My friend has been there up until today.I am shaking and want to crawl in a hole and die. Any advice will be helpful.Prayers also.Why am I doing this?It hurts so bad.

Thank you,I know someone on this forum gets this.

Oh dear Rememberme, I do so know what you are going through. When my husband went home to be with the Lord in 2001, I did not want to make any decisions whatsoever. A few months after he died, my son got married and moved to California. I was in Florida at the time. Shortly after that, my daughter went off to college. My son wanted me to move out to CA so I wouldn't be alone, but I just couldn't at the time. I did finally move in 2003. As for talking to my friends - it is hard for them to understand how I felt because they never experienced the death of their spouse. So to talk to someone who doesn't know how you truly feel, is very hard. Yes, they love us and want to comfort us, but unless you have been there, unless you have truly felt what we are feeling, there is no way they can say what you need to hear. It's not that they don't want to help. It's just that they feel awkward and don't know how to help.

It took a very long time for me to finally want to go on with my life. My Savior has been with me all the way. He said He would never leave me nor forsake me. I take Him at His promise. Rememberme, you will get through this but right now it is too fresh for you. You are hurting so deep within. But please trust that the Lord will see you through.

If you would like to talk, please let me know. I will be praying for you that you will that the God of all comfort is right by your side.

Christian Widow

 

[Rememberme]

Thank you Jeldist.I settled down some.It is just bringing all my emotions back.I know you can"t trust emotions.I just so hate this.

That"s what helps me is knowing our future is in heaven with our loved ones.What a day that will be.

I hate giving up my house that my DH worked so hard for.also All memories are here too.I wish I could go under anethesia(sp.) and someone wake me when it's over.

I understand the lonely part.I go to bed early so I can sleep.Only problem with that is you wake up early.

 

[Tellastory]

I know that some widows can do that without help, but then again, there are some widows that do need help.

Packing things up is a grieving process and friends should be available to help when you ask them directly for that help. If they are unavailable, it may be that you need to look for help elsewhere.

Your daughter should come over & help since you are moving in with her.

Lean on Jesus to help you through this process.

Hebrews 13:5 Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. 6 So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.

Hebrews 4:12 For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. 13 Neither is there any creature that is not manifest in his sight: but all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with whom we have to do. 14 Seeing then that we have a great high priest, that is passed into the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our profession. 15 For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. 16 Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.

Philippians 4:11 Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. 12 I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. 13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

1 Timothy 6:6 But godliness with contentment is great gain. 7 For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. 8 And having food and raiment let us be therewith content

Hebrews 13:14 For here have we no continuing city, but we seek one to come. 15 By him therefore let us offer the sacrifice of praise to God continually, that is, the fruit of our lips giving thanks to his name.

 

[Rememberme]

Oh dear Rememberme, I do so know what you are going through. When my husband went home to be with the Lord in 2001, I did not want to make any decisions whatsoever. A few months after he died, my son got married and moved to California. I was in Florida at the time. Shortly after that, my daughter went off to college. My son wanted me to move out to CA so I wouldn't be alone, but I just couldn't at the time. I did finally move in 2003. As for talking to my friends - it is hard for them to understand how I felt because they never experienced the death of their spouse. So to talk to someone who doesn't know how you truly feel, is very hard. Yes, they love us and want to comfort us, but unless you have been there, unless you have truly felt what we are feeling, there is no way they can say what you need to hear. It's not that they don't want to help. It's just that they feel awkward and don't know how to help.

It took a very long time for me to finally want to go on with my life. My Savior has been with me all the way. He said He would never leave me nor forsake me. I take Him at His promise. Rememberme, you will get through this but right now it is too fresh for you. You are hurting so deep within. But please trust that the Lord will see you through.

If you would like to talk, please let me know. I will be praying for you that you will that the God of all comfort is right by your side.

Christian Widow[/QUOTE


Hi Christianwidow.So you do know the moving episode is very trying.I moved from Mi to Fl 23 years ago with my husband 3 kids and a dog.I thought that was stressful.Nothing like this.I know I will get through this with the Lords help.the fact that I needed a listening ear from my friend and she was not there just came at a bad time We are fine now.I know she has no reference point to this and I don't want her to.

In my pain I think I am not running to God.I don't know why.I was divorced from this husband that died for a short time back in 89.I ran to God and He healed our marriage.I know He is the only one that handle this.I can't.

Thank you for your invitation to talk.Very sweet of you.I wish you the best.

 

[Rememberme]

I know that some widows can do that without help, but then again, there are some widows that do need help.

Packing things up is a grieving process and friends should be available to help when you ask them directly for that help. If they are unavailable, it may be that you need to look for help elsewhere.

Your daughter should come over & help since you are moving in with her.

Lean on Jesus to help you through this process.

Hebrews 13:5 Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. 6 So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.

Hebrews 4:12 For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. 13 Neither is there any creature that is not manifest in his sight: but all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with whom we have to do. 14 Seeing then that we have a great high priest, that is passed into the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our profession. 15 For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. 16 Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.

Philippians 4:11 Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. 12 I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. 13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

1 Timothy 6:6 But godliness with contentment is great gain. 7 For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. 8 And having food and raiment let us be therewith content

Hebrews 13:14 For here have we no continuing city, but we seek one to come. 15 By him therefore let us offer the sacrifice of praise to God continually, that is, the fruit of our lips giving thanks to his name.

Tellastory I wanted do this by myself.I don"t want everyone to see me blubbering as I go through things. So it was my choice.

My daughter is waited down with a special needs child and work.I will actually be a big help to her once I am moved in.She offered and I said no.

Thank you for the scriptures and your response.It means much to me.

 

[Christianwidow]

Rememberme - it sounds like you are doing a little better for now. May His peace which passes all understanding be with you always.

Christian Widow

 

[Rememberme]

Rememberme - it sounds like you are doing a little better for now. May His peace which passes all understanding be with you always.

Christian Widow

Thanks Christianwidow.I am doing better now.I actually got more done last evening than expected.I covet your prayers.What a difference a prayer makes.

 

[Christianwidow]

Rememberme - I will continue to pray for you on a daily basis.

Your sister in Christ,

Christian Widow

 

[Rememberme]

Thank you!