...but also remember, no matter how much you care, you can't change them. the only way they will change is if they come to on it on their own terms. all you can do is, at least in my opinion, lend a hand out to help out. and if they deny everything, and will not change, my best advice is still be there for a friend.
This is a very good point, one with which I agree, and one that is hardest for most people to handle or understand; the possibility of an undesired, yet inevitable, outcome. If, after all your efforts, your friend continues on his present path, don't blame yourself. I've known counselors, social workers, child service specialists, and some medical professionals who left their professions because, despite all their years of training, they were unable to come to grips with the concept of failure in the face of futility. Each had refused to accept this one unfortunate reality; You can have all the education, all the technology, all the talent, and yes, even all the faith humanly possibly, but in the end, you cannot save a person from themselves.
But please, don't take this to mean you should ever stop trying. Even if all you do right now is unsuccessful, don't ever give up. Continue to love your friend with the most pure and unselfish love that you are able. If you have mutual friends who feel as you do, please, ask them to do the same. One day he may come to realize the fallacy of his chosen path, and when he does, he will feel his entire world has fallen apart. He might be too embarrassed or humiliated to come to you at that time, for fear of having to admit such terrible mistakes. But he will also, at that time, be desperately looking for a way to return to solid footing within himself. If you are strong and steady, then he will know that you and any other faithful friends can be that rock for him. And remind him, always, that whether you believe he is right or wrong, first and foremost, you are his friend.
Proverbs 11:14 "For lack of guidance a nation falls, but
many advisers make victory sure."
17:17 "A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity."
27:5 "Better is open rebuke than hidden love."
27:9 "Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of one's friend springs from his earnest counsel."
27:17 "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another."
Brightest blessings,
-- Druweid