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[duke145]

Hey, i might be in the wrong forum but i need to ask everyone a question. I have a jewish girlfriend. i am christian. i love her and i want to marry her but she is jewish. to make a long story short, it wont work. she isnt really into the jewish religion so i was thinking maybe she can convert but i dont want to disrespect her feelings. i also love her and in the bible says if u dont accept Jesus as your savior u will go to hell so ill do everything possible so she wont any advise is good


thanks

 

[Henaynei]

Hey, i might be in the wrong forum but i need to ask everyone a question. I have a jewish girlfriend. i am christian. i love her and i want to marry her but she is jewish. to make a long story short, it wont work. she isnt really into the jewish religion so i was thinking maybe she can convert but i dont want to disrespect her feelings. i also love her and in the bible says if u dont accept Jesus as your savior u will go to hell so ill do everything possible so she wont any advise is good


thanks

Shalom,

I can understand your concern and desire in this situation. I am sorry for the both of you and the sorrow this is causing.

I am sure, as a committed Christian, you are aware of the strong admonitions against "missionary dating." The situation in which you find yourself is one reason for those admonitions.

As this young lady is not "really into the jewish religion" most of the issues here are as those you would have with any non-believer in this situation.

You can't force her to "convert" and for her to "convert" in name only to please you or your family will accomplish nothing - worse than nothng. If you have been daitng long enough that you both want to marry and she has not been moved to make a decision for Messiah Yeshua on her own by now it is *highly unlikely* that is going to happen.

It is wrong for you to marry a non-believer. Wrong for your walk with Messiah, wrong scripturally (be not unequally yoked, what fellowship has light with darkness, etc), and wrong for any children you may have (instead of a unified message of "this is Truth" they will get the message of a "choice" of "truths" at best, and have to make the choice between the parent who "is going to heaven" and the one who "is not" at worst - what a cruel situation in which to place a child).

I know you have deep and passionate feelings for this young woman, but your committment to G-d and obedience to Him must come first, always. Yes, pray for this person, connect her with strong young women of faith from your congregation. I also suggest you might take her to a Messianic Jewish congregation in you area (there is usually one within at least 100 miles of most places in the US) and have her talk with the Rabbi there, if she is interested and willing. If she is really unwilling to do either of these you really already have your answer........

May HaShem grant you a heart of obedience and humility, and may He grant unto you both an abiding relationship with Him.

b'Shalom
Henaynei

 

[Sephania]

Hey there! "duke", when would this wedding take place if everything turned out "Kosher"? You sound a bit young to me by your style of posting. Your girlfriend you say is Jewish but isnt' "into" the Jewish religion. I have to tell you that this does NOT stop her from being Jewish, which means she has a Jewish family and traditions even though many may be secularly celebrated and intertwined.

By saying that she isn't "into" it , by that do you mean that she has no belief in G-d? This is the deciding point I would say in determining if you are "unequally yoked" or not , not religion or conversion, which I dont' beleive in anyway.

If this isn't an immediate need to have a decision on right away then I suggest that you take the time to get to know her and her heritage, and see what you both can learn.

Shalom
~ Zayit

 

[debi b]

When two people are not on the same page it might not seem like much to begin with. However, the event of having children more often than not causes a person to really decide what is important to them. And that is when things that layed dormant will rise to the surface. By that time it is a fine kettle of fish! If you don't have children you can't begin to imagine how that will change you, and your view of how the world works. HONEST

 

[Katydid]

Before my husband was my husband I looked at him and told him flat out that anyone I married would be a believer. Yes, he started going to congregation with me just because he is so obssessed with me(LOL). BUT, he truly does believe now. He is our spiritual head. I prayed every night and a hundred times a day, and next thing you know, he did believe. He truly believed BEFORE we took our vows.

 

[RyanLJohnson1]

I have a friend (who is a girl) that is Jewish, and she says that her family "isn't very religious."

Her father is Lutheran and her mother is Jewish.

She (my friend) goes to a Lutheran church occasionally, and sometimes attends synagogue. She told me that she wants to "look at all religions and pick the best one." This threw me for a loop!

Does anybody have any ideas on what I should do? It was my original intention to use her Jewishness to bring her to Yeshua haMoshiach, but now I don't know what to do

I think that this is very common, unfortunately Very similar to Duke's situation.

Love in Yeshua,
Ryan

 

[Sephania]

What a combo! yikes!

Ryan, I would look at this as an oppurtunity that haSHem has put in your path. Now you can get advise from others, hear how they did 'such and such' with a similar situation or their opinion of what you should do, but I think the best thing to do is to put it in G-ds hands and tell him that you are willing to do whatever he wants you to do regarding this friend of yours. Even if it doesn't seem normal, natural, or even appropriate for the situation, if you listen to him he won't lead you wrong.

That said I will offer my 2 shekels as you asked for help.

The only thing that I will comment on is something you said she said in that she is going to "look into all religions and pick the best one". I would use this as an opening to ask her what it was she was looking for, what is her goal to find in searching out these religions? Apparently from what she has said she is looking, her heart is pulling her but she doesn't know where. Try opening up a conversation with this question and just let her talk.................. maybe she doesn't know herself what she's looking for, but talking about it with someone that is just there to listen and not preach or "convert" may reveal more to her. Then do whatever or say whatever the L-rD leads you to.

Remember there is nothing we can do, the Ruach does it all, but we can be used by HaShem to plant, to nurture, to help weed out or to water, but He never asks us to do all the work, so relax and let Him drive!

 

[simchat_torah]

Heya Ryan,

I might start off with sharing with this girl the Jewishness of Y'shua...

usually a generally good place to start.

See where things to from there.

-yafet