I am a single mom and I have a 10 year old son. My son and I are having a lot of friction lately. He seems to be angry with everything. If I say "no" to anything, he flips out. I know that he is at the age where he needs a little freedom. I am trying to give more than I ever thought that I was capable of. He still seems angry and he can't wait until he goes to dad's. (Which, of course, sends me right over the edge). I am always the mean one. I am frustrated and feel like I am about to erupt.
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quitespirit
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Hello
First off, sorry you are going through this. Also that this is the first advice your getting. Anywho!...
I don't know the answer, but have a couple questions to ask yourself.
Do you have a pastor you can talk to?
I wonder if perhaps his problem is not that he wants more freedom and is 'acting out'. Could he just be out of his role, and not respecting you? COuld it be better if instead of giving him more freedom if you held back more? Make him earn it with obediance and respect?
He can't wait til he goes to dads? That must be hard, I'm sorry Is dad a decent man who can hold a line? Could he work with you or would he allow your son to get away with bad behavior? If dad is a good dad could you warn son that he better behave or he will get his wish and then have dad lay down the law? Kind of a divide and conquer thing?
Good luck
Lianne
First off, sorry you are going through this. Also that this is the first advice your getting. Anywho!...
I don't know the answer, but have a couple questions to ask yourself.
Do you have a pastor you can talk to?
I wonder if perhaps his problem is not that he wants more freedom and is 'acting out'. Could he just be out of his role, and not respecting you? COuld it be better if instead of giving him more freedom if you held back more? Make him earn it with obediance and respect?
He can't wait til he goes to dads? That must be hard, I'm sorry
Is dad a decent man who can hold a line? Could he work with you or would he allow your son to get away with bad behavior? If dad is a good dad could you warn son that he better behave or he will get his wish and then have dad lay down the law? Kind of a divide and conquer thing?Good luck
Lianne
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I am not a single mom, but i have a 12 year old brother and my parents are divorce. I stay with my dad but when my brother is here i am like mom. For the longest time my brother acted the same way here with me and my dad. Though this may not be what you want to here and it's a tough process. We kept saying no to him. We gave him thing when he worked hard and deserved it by besides that we kept to the norm and gave him freedoms slowly but we also told him with age come more freedom but also responsablilities. He could not have these freedoms without handling his responsibilities. He was upset for a few month and since he was not stupid enough to argue with my dad he le tit out on me and i just kept my foot firm. I did not back down and i didn't take his yelling at me. I mostly walked away from his tantrums and yelling or ignored them like they didn't get to me even if they did. When he did get to me i confided in my friend just to get it off my chest. My mom bend to my brother need and she buys him whatever he wants but deep down my brother actually enjoys earning his allowance and extra money for stuff and i know in the end when my brother matures he'll be thankful for the tough love i give.
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