My husband and i have been married for 10 yrs, I have been a christian for 2 yrs. My problem is this- He has recently come to me telling me that he is not in love with me any more but still loves me? There is a woman at his work that keeps persuing a close friendship with him ( he says nothing is going on) tonight i discovered he has purchased a prepaid mobile phone, had it for aprox 4 weeks, only this woman has his new number? he denies having an affair. what di i do? i have prayed endlessly, god told me to wait that was a week ago. I am so lost and am trying to trust the lord. What do i do?
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You go to his work and chew her a new one in front of God and everyone. Throw stuff off her desk, scream at her, and generally be unhinged. Make it clear for her it would be bad for everyone involved for her to continue to pursue your husband. Get angry and let her have it. On your way out give your husband a hug and a kiss and tell him to have a terrific day.
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cazza said:
I remember when my husband told me that. Shook my world. He left the same day with every intent of starting divorce proceedings immediately. After two days of receiving worldly advice that was not unlike the post above, God told me to flee my current counsel and come back to Him. I sought my counsel with God from that point on. God also told me to wait among other things. God has told you to wait and you are. What do you do? Keep the faith and stay the course. Do not be shaken from it! Continue to pray. Pray for the strength to hold fast to His instruction. Pray for God to send you a woman with a heart for God to give you counsel and to encourage you and lift you up. Spend time silent in His presence and give Him the chance to speak. I believe from your post that all of this is what you've been doing. Be encouraged that you are on the right path.
God took our once dead marriage and restored it, renewed it and breathed life into it. Today, my husband is my beloved and I am his.
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thanks sarah marie, its good to hear some validation. It is so hard at the moment, every fibre of my being wants to throw him out but that resonating "WAIT" keeps reverberating in my head.
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cazza said:
The more you submit to the Holy Spirit's instruction, the more God will be able to bring every fiber of your being in line with his will.
Having been through that spiritual battle myself, I know how excruciating it is...it was more horrible than my worst migraine! I'm not sure how to explain it, but from the moment I began to hand it over to God there was a peace and even a joy that began to cover and overtake the pain. I kept handing the battle to God over and over again. I didn't conquer Satan's lies, God did. All I did was make myself a willing participant in the battle, but the battle plan belonged to God. All glory to him, He won and my husband and I get to bask in the blessing of that victory!
Praise the Lord for everything He does. All of it is good. Even in our suffering.
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i trust in the lord but it is a struggle, espesially when my husbank can't tell me if he wants to leave or stay! I have asked him to cease contacting this woman at work but he thinks that is unfair for me to ask.
I keep reading Psalm 27 : 14
Wait for the Lord;
be strong and take heart
and wait for the lord.
and Isaiah 40 : 31
but those who hope in the Lord
will renew their strength.
They will sour on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.
I keep reading Psalm 27 : 14
Wait for the Lord;
be strong and take heart
and wait for the lord.
and Isaiah 40 : 31
but those who hope in the Lord
will renew their strength.
They will sour on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.
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Cazza,
My dear, I so feel your pain and understand what you are going through. I had almost the same scenario 2 years ago. My hubby also had a female co-worker that was persuing him. I did not go to their work and make a scene. My hubby also was upset that I requested for this to end. I explained to him that if she is only a friend; she would be more than welcome to call our home number or even come over to meet the family. As you can imagine the surprise he had at my attitute. I gave him the benefit of believing this was only a friendship. I finally got hold of the number and called her. I think what finally stopped her calling was that she felt shame due to the calmness I had during our conversation. I simply explained that she was in the wrong seeking a married man that was currently having marital problems. Of course she denied everything even her asking my hubby out to dinner and a trip to the movies. I told her that if she was truly seeking only his friendship that she would be more than welcome to call our home. I also told her that I would not want to have it on my conscience that I would break the heart of the children involved. I told her that I had no ill feelings towards her and that I would simply pray for her to make better decisions in her future. The next day she went up to my hubby and told him that she could no longer be in contact with him. They still work together; however, there is no communication between them any longer.
I think men or woman are intrigued when they find someone who is interested in them. However, it is when you follow that feeling that problems arise.
I did wait as the Lord instructed me and I can honestly say that we are now on the same page. This took quite a bit of prayer and falling onto my knees and giving Him complete surrender to guide my life. Only He knows what lies ahead. Pray for patience, wisdom, and guidence. Everyday will be a battle in your mind until this has been resolved. Also pray to keep peace in your heart and mind.
Let your hubby know that you are still there for him while he is going through this trial. This is after all what it is a trial a new season in the marriage. My hubby has a new respect for me and is amazed at the fight I put on to save the marriage. Only in God was this possible.
I will say a special prayer for you tonight. If you ever need to chat, pm me. I know the feeling sometimes you just need to let it out. Once you do you get a new sense of energy.
God Bless
My dear, I so feel your pain and understand what you are going through. I had almost the same scenario 2 years ago. My hubby also had a female co-worker that was persuing him. I did not go to their work and make a scene. My hubby also was upset that I requested for this to end. I explained to him that if she is only a friend; she would be more than welcome to call our home number or even come over to meet the family. As you can imagine the surprise he had at my attitute. I gave him the benefit of believing this was only a friendship. I finally got hold of the number and called her. I think what finally stopped her calling was that she felt shame due to the calmness I had during our conversation. I simply explained that she was in the wrong seeking a married man that was currently having marital problems. Of course she denied everything even her asking my hubby out to dinner and a trip to the movies. I told her that if she was truly seeking only his friendship that she would be more than welcome to call our home. I also told her that I would not want to have it on my conscience that I would break the heart of the children involved. I told her that I had no ill feelings towards her and that I would simply pray for her to make better decisions in her future. The next day she went up to my hubby and told him that she could no longer be in contact with him. They still work together; however, there is no communication between them any longer. I think men or woman are intrigued when they find someone who is interested in them. However, it is when you follow that feeling that problems arise.
I did wait as the Lord instructed me and I can honestly say that we are now on the same page. This took quite a bit of prayer and falling onto my knees and giving Him complete surrender to guide my life. Only He knows what lies ahead. Pray for patience, wisdom, and guidence. Everyday will be a battle in your mind until this has been resolved. Also pray to keep peace in your heart and mind.
Let your hubby know that you are still there for him while he is going through this trial. This is after all what it is a trial a new season in the marriage. My hubby has a new respect for me and is amazed at the fight I put on to save the marriage. Only in God was this possible.
I will say a special prayer for you tonight. If you ever need to chat, pm me. I know the feeling sometimes you just need to let it out. Once you do you get a new sense of energy.
God Bless
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Stage 2
It look like the kids and I are moving out next week. My hubbie will keep the house to fix up then sell and settle with me. It looks like the end now. If it were not for the Lord I would not be able to get through this. He places people and contacts on my path at just the right time so I know I'm going to be OK!
So whats it like to be single after 11 years? Will I ever be happy again?
I don't think there is any chance we will reconcile cos he doesn't love me any more. He isn't a Christian.
Live in Hope
It look like the kids and I are moving out next week. My hubbie will keep the house to fix up then sell and settle with me. It looks like the end now. If it were not for the Lord I would not be able to get through this. He places people and contacts on my path at just the right time so I know I'm going to be OK!
So whats it like to be single after 11 years? Will I ever be happy again?
I don't think there is any chance we will reconcile cos he doesn't love me any more. He isn't a Christian.
Live in Hope
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I was married for 20, life does go on.....Its about to get real different though....cazza said:Stage 2
It look like the kids and I are moving out next week. My hubbie will keep the house to fix up then sell and settle with me. It looks like the end now. If it were not for the Lord I would not be able to get through this. He places people and contacts on my path at just the right time so I know I'm going to be OK!
So whats it like to be single after 11 years? Will I ever be happy again?
I don't think there is any chance we will reconcile cos he doesn't love me any more. He isn't a Christian.
Live in Hope
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