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[Lehr]

Hey everyone, well this might not be a very big deal to you all but its a very big deal for me. I am missing my girlfriend so much it is painful to even think about her.. Her parents are over strict and won't let her hardly do anything with me, i can't go over to her house because they won't let me.. Its just very hard because i care about her alot and she cares about me alot but we practically have no time together, we chat every other day or so but its just not enough for me..

I don't know what to think or feal, i just have this huge hole in my heart and i just feal so bad right now... When I do get those rare moments with her, her dad is always with her so bonding with her is practically impossible..

Help me someone because my heart is being torn with each passing day i don't see her..

 

[rocklife]

are you able to write her letters and mail them? those kind of letters can be great way to communicate and even feel like getting a present.

 

[AWorkInProgress]

I got two questions. Did she want the keyes to your heart or was it only you seeking hers? And how old is she?

Parent's, specially the fathers, is to protect their children. Instead of trying sneak under the rules, be honous with them. Work with them so you can make them feel little more easy letting go their grip on protecting her from you.

Remember the scripture of love thy enemy. Use that to help you with them.

 

[Lehr]

she is 17, and I do believe she wants the keys to my heart.. I quess me and her really need to talk. She has told me she likes me alot and she said that she wants to love me but she wants to give the relationship more time first..

 

[AWorkInProgress]

she is 17, and I do believe she wants the keys to my heart.. I quess me and her really need to talk. She has told me she likes me alot and she said that she wants to love me but she wants to give the relationship more time first..

If you love her, then time is not a factor. Love is patient.

Try to guard your heart, and don't give her the keyes to yours. Wait till you two have the freedom to blossom. As much as your heart is racing, remember you have the rest of your lives ahead.

Don't sprint down the field just to lose it all. Slow it down to steady pace.

 

[TrinityLives]

I agree with " a workinprogress". I have two step-daughters and I know when they are 17 if any male wants near them they need me to like them first.
Get to know the parents, be honest with mom and dad with your intentions and why you want to be around their daughter. Dad's know how young men are( they once were young haha) so they know what the majority of boys want in his daughter. Getting to know them will show that your not just trying to get in their daughters , well you know, that you really are trying to get to know her as a person.

Schedule a dinner with them. I know if any boy were to do this for my daughter I would look at them with more respect then if they snuck behind my back to comminicate with her.

Prayers for you , and yes be patient, kind and enduring...

 

[GodsChild07]

she is 17, and I do believe she wants the keys to my heart.. I quess me and her really need to talk. She has told me she likes me alot and she said that she wants to love me but she wants to give the relationship more time first..

I don't want to dampen this, but I need to tell you something. If she said that "She wants to love you", then she doesn't really know the meaning of the word. You don't plan to love someone. it is not something you schedule for the future. Love, true love, is completely involuntary. It just happens. I'm thinking she may be confusing love with sex (maybe). Or even kissing and making out. That is not love. And the fact that so many kids think it is, is the reason for the highest divorce rate in history. True love is where you put the other persons needs above yours. It is where you are willing to compromise and sacrifice for her happiness. It is not based on a physical relationship. Although a physical relationship, based on love is the basis for a marriage that will last forever.

 

[Lehr]

^I think you guys are right, i just got back from a church class and i talked with a friendly deacon that i know (been good friends) and he said I should step back and try to think clearly and stepping back shouldn't hurt the relationship but make it stronger IF its ment to be. Its really hard for me because I do love her (my girlfriend) and i do put her needs before mine and I try to be supportive and everything.. Ok well i am going to tell you her past, she has had a boyfriend in the past that she thought she loved and they had sex, and then after they broke up and left she for some reason had sex with a manager at her work.. Her parents knows she is very aggressive but they dont know that she had sex with 2 guys. I am not an aggressive person, I believe sex is something to charish and savor till marriage. Lately tho I have been feeling that she doesn't like me as much as she use to, because she doesn't call me much anymore and idk she does have alot of things on her mind right now.. Its just so painful for me when she doesn't show how she feels about me, i just don't feel she is trying as hard as I am or if she is even trying.. I am a great guy, and it just really hurts me because i through my heart out to soon and I am just not getting the love and stuff that i want..

Right now i am just really confused, and I am hurt right now because its hard to tell her i want a break..

PLEASE PLEASE PRAY FOR ME!!!

 

[UnitynLove]

I got two questions. Did she want the keyes to your heart or was it only you seeking hers? And how old is she?

Parent's, specially the fathers, is to protect their children. Instead of trying sneak under the rules, be honous with them. Work with them so you can make them feel little more easy letting go their grip on protecting her from you.

Remember the scripture of love thy enemy. Use that to help you with them.

Wow! Great advice

 

[ForAMomentIWillFly]

I know you probably don't want to hear this...

At your ages, if parents are being this strict they have a strong chance of ruining things in the future.

I do understand your feelings. My high school sweetheart's parents HATED me. Told me that. I'm glad it led to my husband though.

(hug) I'll pray. Keep praying yourself.