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wendyt3350

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There is so much going on right now I am so distraught! Please don't be put off by my post-I just have to get this out and see what happens. I had posted about getting into a fight with my mom and my friend. When I took mom to West Virginia Sunday for the funeral of her nephew (that's when the fight happened with me, mom and Marsha) I got a ticket. That was the straw that broke the camel's back on that trip. We had driven for over 4 hours to get there and then when we did the funeral and showing was the day before. My mom and I have made up. Marsha won't talk to me. It's been 4 days. She sends people over to ask questions and I know they are telling her what I say. Her husband asked how my new job was going when he came over to get something I had borrowed and I know he told her. And tonight another neighbor was in Marsha's apartment and came out and wanted to know what happened. I told her "I know Marsha has told you what happened by now, that me and mom had a fight in front of her and Marsha couldn't deal with how I talked to mom" (never mind the fact that mom talked the same way to me and said some pretty mean things) Me and mom have been doing this for years. I have to admit that I was embarassed by it this time though, I wish I could stop. I'm ticked off at Marsha because she has the nerve to judge me! I sit and watch her husband tell her she can't drive the truck that is in her name and that she pays for because he paid to get it washed and detailed! I listen to him tell her it's time to go to bed and that she needs to make him dinner now because he's hungry. And she takes it! Her daughter's girlfriend threatened to "bust in" Marsha's mother's face recently. Then she has the nerve to judge me and end our friendship because of how I fight with my mom! This is like a big gripe session here now but I have no friends to talk to now. I'm not perfect. I'm very depressed. I hate the weekends. I can't sleep because of my neighbors (I went to them and asked them to tone it down and that worked for an afternoon but she refused to talk to me after that. I've prayed and still pray about this and asked for prayer on here.) Then her kids started full force. Running in the apartment while she was at work, have boys inside and outside the apartment, run up and down the stairs in flip-flops, ride skateboards on the patio upstairs, scream in the apartment, etc. Yes, it is that bad... So I wrote a letter to the apartment manager and it calmed down for about 3 days. Now it's started again. I got a letter from the manager stating that since I'm a light sleeper I should move to an upstairs apartment! Why should I move! Why can't they have enough common sense not to move someone with 3 kids in an upstairs apartment especially after when I moved in I said I work nights and need to sleep in the day. That makes me a light sleeper? Don't I have any rights? I'm tired of hearing about how it's normal to hear sounds coming from the apartment. I know that! It is taken into consideration. Two other people in the building have complained to the office about what is going on with her kids and the noise, food everywhere kids hanging out on everyone's patios. That makes 3 out of 7 other tenants complaining and I'm the only one who put it in writing. The office won't even mention the other 2 people to her because it's not in writing from them. I heard from worker's comp and they approved $2000 payment for my injury I got fired for in 2004. The next day I got a letter from unemployment wanting the $6300 back I had received after I was fired. It might not be as bad if I could get help to get back on my antidepressant. I am so negative and angry a lot without it. (That is in another forum and another request) I'm about to lose my mind! While I was writing this to ask for input and prayer I had to stop because my kitty knocked over something on the stove and I had to clean that up and then I knocked over the coffee pot and broke it. After I got that cleaned up I picked up my candle to relight it and wax went all over my tile floor and my white shoe. Nothing horrid has happened (thank God) but I wonder when is it going to stop! It's so hard to focus on anything positive when it seems so many bad things are happening! Hopefully this will be the last post I write like this!
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*On the good side I do have a job right now and the rent is paid! On my job my supervisor and lead like me and I was asked to train someone else how to pick orders on Thursday! She said it normally takes about a week to catch on but that I did in less than 2 days and I was doing great! I was able to pay my phone and cable bill. Money is mighty slim this week!*
 

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Wendy it is ok to get rid of the frustrations. It is better to let it all out here then to explode at work. I am so very happy for you that you have a job and doing so well. I pray that with the help of the Father you will soon be caught up with your bills and will be able to take care of your other needs.

Abba Father grant comfort and peace to our sister that surpasses all understanding. Surround our sister with your favor O Lord. In Jesus name I pray. Amen

God Bless you sister!!!

:groupray: Hugs for you.
 
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Dear Father,

May your perfect wisdom reign over this matter and guide wendyt with your will. We praise you and thank you that you watch over us, protect us, provide for us all the time whether we are aware of it or not. May your presence be strongly felt in wendyt's life and in her family that the fruits of the spirit may manifest especially that of love, peace, patience and joy among family members.

We pray in the sweetest name of our Lord Jesus Christ,
Amen.
 
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I pray peace over you right now in Jesus Name. You need to rest in the Lord. It would be good for you to spend some time in prayer. I don't know where the anger stems from and I am not prying, but, you need to release that anger and pain to the Lord by repentance. He will reveal to you the areas that you need healing in and provide a path to wholeness. God wants you to be whole and have His peace. :clap:


Presently, you are wrestling with unrest because of these thorns that are in your heart that need to come out. I don't know how they got there, others have hurt you though. Freedom comes through forgiveness. This can be achieved through constant prayer and dependence upon God and also by Christian counseling (God will lead you to one of His counselors- take the first step) and intercession through faithful brothers and sisters in Christ. That is where we come in, I will pray, and I know others have posted that they will pray for you. If you were taking medications for anti-depressants, sounds like you were already in counseling. What happened there? Why did you go off the anti-depressants? Seek a professional now with that, you may need to go back on. Either way, it is a decision for a professional to make, and it could help you cope better through this time and work through your counseling/daily life.


I don't know the argument you had with your mom and again, I am not prying. She is your mom though and you need to honor her. The Word of God is clear on that. I realize you have anger and are hurt, maybe now is not the time to dig deep into those issues with her and counseling is where you will receive resolution and understanding. When you reach that point, you will be able to approach her in love and have a heart to heart about what is really going on, if you wish. If she receives you, then healing can begin, if she doesn't, then God will reveal the time as you pray. He will also work on her heart. Does you mom know the Lord? I'm sorry, I am not sure. I believe God wants to restore your relationships with family and friends. You are not alone, He is with you, draw near to God and He will draw near to you. God promises that. Stand on His promises.


No matter what differences you have with your mom, I believe you need to ask her forgiveness as soon as possible for dishonoring her, even in front of Marsha. I am sure you regret having that explosion in front of Marsha. I know you didn't plan it that way, that conversation between you and your mother needed to be in private. You can learn from your mistakes and move forward. About Marsha, talk to her and help her understand that there are deeper issues and that she shouldn't have heard what she did, but, it came out unexpectedly due to your own pain, which you don't have to explain to her. If she is your "true" friend, she will understand and allow you to walk through it. If she rejects you and closes that door, then that is her choice, she may be too immature to understand, I am not sure, but, nonetheless, a real friend would walk with you through the good times and the bad.


Let her go if that is the case, forgive her for it and release her, move forward. God may bring your friendship back at another time, trust Him in that. He will bring other friends to you, healthy ones, those who love Him. Surround yourself with Christian friends, believers in Christ and His Word. Those who would accept and love you as you are right now. Woundedness and all. Focus on God and allow Him to have His way in your heart and life. :groupray:


Don't lose hope, you are growing. Allow the Holy Spirit to move in your heart and life. Surrender to God. Embrace the changes that are happening now without resistance. Remember fear is the opposite of faith, trust the Lord, even through the pain. Are you ready to take this next step? That is a question that you may ask yourself. Don't miss this opportunity to grow in God and receive wholeness. Look at these circumstances as good not bad, all things work for the good to those who love God..(Romans 8:28).

God wants you to move ahead. You may need to be separated for a season to go through this, let the Lord guide you, but, don't believe in the lie that you have nobody, God is with you, you have believers in Christ who are there to support you. Go to church, faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God. Get your name on the prayer list for healing and speak to your Pastor, let him know where you are in this right now, ask him to pray for you.:thumbsup:


Lastly, regarding your apartment situation, love, love, love, sister. Love on that situation, I don't know how or what shape of form it may come in, but, love is the answer. It is grating on you b/c of your inner pain, but, pray to God to show you how you can love that family. God bless you sister. Keep the faith, don't be weary in doing good, press on in the Lord, be kind to yourself,
forgive.....forgive....forgive....again I say to you, freedom comes from forgiveness...I will pray for your healing and may the love of Jesus overtake you.. Jesus loves you, He loves you! He will never let you go!! Did you ever hear that song by Steven Curtis Chapman, "When love takes you in"? Beautiful song, it is playing right now, this song is for you..


God bless you sister! I am here for you if you want to PM. Trust the Lord with everything in your life. Your finances...God knows...Jehovah Jirah! He will provide not only financially but in everyway. Great is thy faithfulness! Put on that praise music and praise Him! Praise Him in every circumstance!!!:amen:
 
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wendyt3350 said:
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*On the good side I do have a job right now and the rent is paid! On my job my supervisor and lead like me and I was asked to train someone else how to pick orders on Thursday! She said it normally takes about a week to catch on but that I did in less than 2 days and I was doing great! I was able to pay my phone and cable bill. Money is mighty slim this week!*
Let each of those negative problems go and ask Jesus for Justice. It never fails to be done...


I want to Praise God With You For This Last Paragraph Of Good That Is The Beginning Of Gods Reparations for Your situation. I am so happy the job is working out for you and in time things will catch up. It will be tuff for a awhile to catch up but once its done... Peace will come upon you. God Bless You Always And Watch Jesus Deal Out the Justice regarding those other matters. Just sit quietly and surrender it to Him. Praise God !


'Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name,
your kingdom come,
your will be done
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us today our daily bread.
Forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from the evil one'
Amen
 
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:prayer: Lord, please bring deliverance, peace and protection from Satan to this sister. I ask that your Holy Spirit invade her life and saturate her in your wisdom, love and peace. I ask in Jesus' name, amen. God bless you.
 
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Lord touch wendy,let her mother and her get along,stop the name calling,i've been there because me and my mom are like that.send Wendy peace,hope,happiness,bless her,I ask that these problems with her appartment be removed in the name of Jesus.Let the noise stop.Touch her and her sister,let her sister see all that is going on around her,remove the scales from her eyes,let her hear the truth,bless this family in the name of Jesus,amen.
 
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