Help!

[jesusfreak87]

I am having troubles with stuff....i was raped a couple of months ago by 2 young boys...and now i cant get over it at all..i always think about it and want to rewind things and make everything better again..but i cant..i want to die..i tried to take alot of pills to make the pain go away..but i have this feeling not to do it..so i havent took the pills and wasnt going to now..but im really really upset about this..i wont even go out with guys because i was afraid they would do something also..guys are so immature when they are in high school, but when they get older they get over it eventually...what can i do??

 

[Dicy mind]

Sorry to hear that... I dont know what helps you but I'll pray for you.
Maybe forgiving these guys helps.

 

[Eternal Mindset]

Forgiving the boys who did it to you would definitely.
You being mad at them for the rest of your life won't change what happened, and they'll have to stand before God and try to explain their actions. All being mad at them will do is mess up your life because you're holding on to something instead of giving it up to God.

Also, there's nothing wrong with not dating in high school, but if you really want to start dating again, then you could get mace or pepper spray to help you feel safer. Also, you could go on group dates in very public places.

 

[cwr89]

you'll be in my prayers,
try talking to someone about it, like a counselor, or a pastor,
pills arent the answer, a friend of mine toke 27 pills one day and
he went to the hospital, he almost deied, had he have been 30 min latter.
there are too many people here that do care for you and do wish you
would stay with us.
my advice is talk to someone about it.
~Casey

 

[kingzjewel]

have you told anyone? mabye some good Christian counseling? i was raped before and i know how hard it is to get over that trauma. forgiving is easier than forgetting... that is a step in the right direction. i think that you really need to seek help outside of yourself before you do anything drastic. praying 4 u.

 

[strengthinweakness]

I am so sorry that you had to go through such a terrible thing... I'm really sorry. I am praying for you. Have you told anyone else about this-- your parents, the police, friends, maybe a counselor? These boys should not go unpunished for their crime against you. Also, it might be good for you just to get out the painful feelings that you have by expressing them to at least one other person whom you can trust. Whatever you do, please, please don't hurt yourself. You are a precious child of God, and you didn't deserve what those boys did to you. God loves you so much. Please take care of yourself, my sister in Christ.

 

[relentless1985]

I've been raped too, but it wasn't my fault and it's not yours either.
It is NOT YOUR FAULT. If anyone tells you different they are lying.
I am praying that you will not be afraid to talk to Him about it He has endearing love for you, no matter how ugly you feel

"In my anguish I cried to the LORD, and he answered my prayer by setting me free." Psalm 118:5 NIV

"For He will deliver the needy when he cries, The poor also, and him who has no helper" Psalm 72:12

He is no respector of persons so He will heal you. Look for a book called "Finding Peace for Your Heart" by Stormie Omartian. It has helped me.

 

[Garnet]

Dear jesusfreak-

I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this. Like others said - it is not your fault, and while I know it's easy for me to say, not being in your shoes, you can't take the blame for it. It doesn't matter what the situation was; if they put you through that against your will, it's rape and it's entirely their fault. I think that you should try your best to forgive them, but not at the price of taking the blame onto yourself. It is NO ONE's fault except theirs.

Maybe you should take some self-defense classes or some martial arts classes. I've done martial arts for a long time and it's a great way to let off some steam and to focus on other things. It will also teach you how to defend yourself, which will not only be practical, but will help put your mind at ease. Lots of police departments put on free "R.A.D." (Rape Aggression Defense) courses where you get some hands-on experience. I bet that would help take away some of the fear and help you feel more in control. If you're interested at all and you'd like any advice on styles of martial arts that would be good, I'd be more than happy to help you look. Just PM me.

God bless you sweetie, this is a terrible thing that unfortunately destroys the lives of so many women. But the fact that you have been pulled away from ending your life is a reason for hope! You are obviously stronger than you realize and you can make it through this. God loves you and wants to help with your pain. Please be strong and see what He has in store for you.

 

[darketernal]

What a horrible experience you have gone thru , may you get all the love and support from your family, and from the people around you to support you.

I think talking to a counseller would be seriously a very good thing to do, such a highly traumatic experience cannot be lightly forgotten, or forgiven. We love you, and God does too. And with Jesus guidance of light and love God will cure you, and help you to soothen your wounds on your soul and try to feel compassion and forgiveness for these two unconsious individuals when you are ready to do so. Much Love.

 

[Cara J]

Jesusfreak:
I was raped when I was 16 year old virgin, at a party by some guys older than me. It was by far the worst experience of my life. I tried to kill myself, the first of four attempts to come. It ruined my life for a long time. I know that it is difficult to talk about, but at some point you are going to need to find someone to talk to this about who can help you, ie a counselor. If you have counselor's at school, this would be a good idea. I am in therapy right now, still dealing with some of those issues from the rape, almost 10 years later, because I did not do it when I was younger. I spent years in deep depressions and involved in self destructive behavior.

I remember being petrified to tell anyone when I was your age, but in hind sight, I wish I had. I thought my mother would be furious, but once she found out later on, she cried, and told me how much she wished I had told her, so she could've helped me through it. I know you have more strength than I did, and will seek help. I know now that I could've ask God for the help and the strength to seek the help I needed, but I didn't. The good news is...You Can!! I will pray for you!

You didn't have control over the rape, but you do have control over how you deal with it now. Do not let these boys ruin your life, take back your control over your self worth! You are a strong young woman, with a beautiful future in front of you! God has a plan for your life, and you will get through this and fulfill that purpose! You have the power to heal emotionally from this! Seek help, and ask God to bring you peace and healing. Forgiving the boys may take a long time, so right now focus on getting yourself some professional help. I know it sounds scary, but I can attest to how helpful it is! No woman should have to deal with a rape alone! Period!

Also, it is imparative that you see a doctor and get checked out physically. I cannot stress this enough! You need to make sure you are physically okay, and protect your future for having children and overall good gynecological health.

God Bless! I will keep you in my prayers!

 

[new_beginnings]

I am so sorry to hear this -- I have teenage daughters, and cannot imagine the pain and horror you feel right now. I was also raped, but as a much younger child.

I agree with the others who suggested that you find someone -- in person -- that you can talk to about this. I think it is very important so that you do not continue to internalize the pain. Is there anyone you can confide in?

 

[jesusfreak87]

I don't like it when guys take advantage of us. I did see a counselor, but not anymore. Sorry that I haven't been on to check this thread. I talk to my parents, but now they only let me go to movies or other place with a group not alone with a guy. And I can understand that. They are overprotected sometimes, but they are my parents and they care for me alot especially my dad. He still say that I'm his baby girl. I only forgave one of the boy who raped me, but I don't know if I can forgive the other boy. He deserves to have a punishment, but he just do what he wants