Help with names

[runningair]

I'm going to take a girl out this weekend who has the same name as my mother, only spelled differently. Their names are a little unusual, which probably makes this a little more complicated. Of course, there is that thought in the back of my head saying, "what if we keep seeing each other, or one day we get married?" Has anyone been through similar situations?

For one thing, there is absolutely NO concern about them not getting along. That isn't a problem at all. Me telling my mom for the first time is probably going to be awkward though. Any suggestions?

What I really wonder about is family situations. Having two people so close in relation, sharing the same name, is always a little complicated. What should I do to be the "mediator"? I think it's kind of up to me to smooth things out with each side should things go any further. Thanks for your help.

 

[lilray]

i don't think it's a big deal but you could give your gf a nickname she likes.

 

[TriptychR]

I'm honestly not seeing the problem here...

 

[fishstix]

What is there to smooth out? I've heard that some people get offended if someone else is wearing the same dress as them but I don't think that sharing a first name is ever a big deal. If anything, it should give them something to talk about as an icebreaker when they first meet. And if you ever do get married it shouldn't be any more complicated than the millions of families that have ___ Sr. and ___ Jr. and ___ III etc. Probably less so because they won't ever be living in the same household.

 

[skaaat]

My mom and dad had the same surname before they got married. Both of their parents weren't particularly pleased about that, but it ended up working out (obviously, since they're married now ). I don't think you have anything to worry about in all honesty.

 

[fishstix]

My mom and dad had the same surname before they got married. Both of their parents weren't particularly pleased about that, but it ended up working out (obviously, since they're married now ). I don't think you have anything to worry about in all honesty.

That would actually be kind of cool - no worries about one spouse having to change their name on official documents or anything like that I know of a couple of families that live near me that have the same last name as each other but aren't related at all.

 

[runningair]

Thanks for the responses everyone. Despite the tone of my post, I'm not really worried, I was just trying to "paint the picture" so to speak, for everyone to understand. What makes this situation unique is that my mom in particular will be excited to know someone else with the same name. This only happens maybe 4-5 times per year, and she always gets a kick out of it.

 

[TriptychR]

Now your girlfriend and your mother liking each other, that's something to worry about. You don't want them in cahoots and dominating your life!

 

[KeilCoppes]

If you have a girlfriend, thank the Lord for it - if she had two heads, then I'd start worrying.