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Help with my relationship

Bluelion

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Lets look at what you said.

Who's bashing? You're getting awfully defensive, Ashley. The questions I asked were completely reasonable.

Your dad is OK with you having a porn addict boyfriend living in his home?
See your judgement is he is porn addicted? You don't even know the man, Are you an alcoholic if you drink a beer? You never Gave the guy a chance, and your tone is as if you are above him. I mean that is the tone of it.

I fail to see how this statement helps her at all. It is also false Judgement because you don't know the guy, and also you condemn her parents. You said in your first post are your parents Christians, why ask that? Are you a Christian because you sin. At the very least your statement lacks Love, as Love is gentle and you are anything but, See 1 cor 13 for further explanation of Love.



What is your parents stand on this relationship? I frankly can't imagine a father allowing a young man to live in his home with his daughter, knowing that he's using porn while in a relationship with her.


This is more judgment and you have yet to over her any advice as what she can do.

I've given you advice on what you need to do. Are you really ready to receive advice, or are you just wanting to hear what will make you feel comfortable and reassured?

This lacks love, and i wonder what the advice is. Why i say it lacks Love it is a negative tone, negative is darkness and God has no darkness. It is also condescending.

If your parents caveat is that you live at home until the two of you married, why aren't you getting married?

You address her but not what she was seeking help for, will married solve all her problems? I least you gave advice I think, but in a condescending way.


And maybe it is not so much the judgement but the condescending tone in which you go about it.

And you open up with why are you getting defensive. Well lets see you judge a man you don't even know as being a porn addict, you judged her parents and spoke to her in a condescending tone. That would make anyone defenses.

And then you judge me for pointing it out. You can not judge me sorry you are not my God, you are a sinner and certainly no better than me.

but I understand it make you feel good.
 
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Bluelion

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Mark 10
21 Jesus looked at him and loved him. “One thing you lack,” he said. “Go, sell everything you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.”
22 At this the man’s face fell. He went away sad, because he had great wealth.

Sometimes difficult truths are hard to accept, so people don't want to hear them.

God said Judge not less you be Judged. I think everyone gets upset when a human judges them because there judgement are flawed because they are sinners just like the person they judge.

I was unaware God said and You will be Judges on the earth. I am all for God's Judgement not much for peoples. People tend to Judge because it is easier then things like Love Mercy and compassion and forgiveness. It makes people feel like they are Good to judge others. If your going to Judge point the bible verse, but that is not the way of Jesus. Imagine what Mathew would have said had Jesus said you are a corrupt tax collector. Why did Jesus not say that, it was Truth?
 
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At the very least your statement lacks Love, as Love is gentle and you are anything but

Love also:

I Cor 13 ESV
6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

Mark 10 NIV
21 Jesus looked at him and loved him. “One thing you lack,” he said. “Go, sell everything you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.”


it doesn't look like she is coming back..

Mark 10 NIV
22 At this the man’s face fell. He went away sad, because he had great wealth.

Sometimes difficult truths spoken in love are hard to accept, so people just don't want to hear them.
 
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