Help with my husbands addiciton

[SimplyComplex]

My DH is addicted to chewing tobacco. I discovered this after a few months of dating and he told me he was going to quit. Then he quit before our wedding. Started back up again. Quit again before we had our daughter. And started back up again. I was mad at him so I tired the "tough love" approach. Which didnt work. I asked him exactly what I could do to help him. He told me to just pray for him and be encouraging and supportive because only he could make the decision to quit and go through with it. So I backed off and basically ignored his using because I didnt want to be a nag and be "non-supportive" but Im pretty sure this is just his way of being able to use without getting yelled at by me. I really dont know what I can do anymore for him. If I ask him about it then he calls me unsupportive. If I ignore it and dont say anything (which Ive been doing for the last few years) he continues to use and then acts like he doesnt know what Im talking about or changes the subject everytime I find a tin or laughs it off when our 5 y/o finds one that he hid under the couch. Ive been praying for him and asking God to help him overcome this addiction, asking Him to give me the tools to help my husband but I just dont know what to do. I cant just sit by and be "supportive" and let him do whatever he wants.

 

[benf]

Best advice I can give you is to try tough love again and help him understand that his actions hurt you and aren't something God wants for him.

 

[TomCS]

I don't know what to say to this, all I can do is to pray for you and your husband.

 

[Jamesj]

I'm in the same position as your husband. I've been using some kind of nicotine delivering product for 11 years, I rarely stop altogether, I just switch to something different from time to time. which has been primarily chewing tobacco for the past few years.
The main reason I always go back to tobacco is because I have another, more insidious habit; And the nicotine has always made it easier to abstain from that. It's a lesser of two evils kind of choice for me. Perhaps you should try and find why he does it. Maybe theres an underlying reason behind his turning to it in spite of your consistent disapproval. If there is, than you'll have to start with that, rather than the tobacco use itself.