- Mar 6, 2018
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My daughter is 17, and we have allowed her to start dating, provided the young man she chooses meets our standards- namely possessing a growing relationship with Jesus and tremendous respect for our daughter in every sense. She dated a boy for about one month, and he began sexting her and we were all pretty shocked. So that quickly ended, then this year we have had similar experiences with 2 other boys who just casually texted her and it turned racy very quickly- at our private Christian school. What an epidemic! About 10 months later there is a young man very invested in her that meets all our criteria but she's decided she no longer is interested. This boy has been very attentive, supportive and her reactions to him have been very authentic and open and trusting, which was such a relief to finally observe. I believe her feelings changed because a key friend doesn't like him (or perhaps feels jealous?), but we have carefully watched his texts and actions and feel he is pretty rare compared to all the other boys who show interest in her and he gets along with our family. So, problem is now we're attached and he's attached and she is putting distance and acting rude to him. I know I can't force her to see his good qualities, but it's just hard to watch your kids throw away good things. I've overstepped by emailing back and forth a few times with this boy the past few months after he spent time with our family. Now I feel like I encouraged him, not knowing she would take this turn. Any advice?