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[RaeDev]

My boyfriend says he wants to be friends. He says he wants us to learn how to be friends then maybe get back together. he also wants me to be more mature. Im 18 and he's 24. he also mentioned the age difference. He also mentioned we were too different. Is he thinking about another girl? Because on the Jeff Foxworthy comedy tour he says if anyone says they just wanna be "friends", they already have someone else in mind.I know for sure its for the best that were not together. Any input would be appreciated.

 

[RaeDev]

Thanks Lynn Its only been the 3rd day we've been broken up. Its gonna take me a while to get over him. It was a 2 yr relationship this june. In fact, we started dating on 06/06/06 lol... he said hes never gonna stop loving me...

 

[RaeDev]

one more thing... whats the point in having these stupid relationships if you're just gonna break up anyway!?

 

[peanutbutter12]

To find someone whom you can share your life with, of course.

Sometimes you have to go through things like this in order to weed out the ones who just won't work out.

 

[RaeDev]

Thanks TerraSin

 

[Jonesie]

I personally don't have problems with age differences, but it sounds like this relationship might not work. The better question may be, why were you dating a 22 year old when you were only 16? You guys are going through very different things in your lives right now. You may want to continue seeking a friendship with him, but try keeping your options open for someone your age. That's probably not what you wanted to hear, but it sounds like he may be looking for someone his own age. This doesn't mean that you are immature by any means, but you guys are dealing with different stuff. Hope that helps.

 

[christinagart]

you might just wanna be straight to the point with him. lynn had a point, while blunt about, but it may not be all. just ask him, if he's gonna do this, let you know if there is anything else you need to know. tell him there is no sense in hiding if there's nothing to lose. God Bless

 

[mahalia]

it could be good for you guys...

i love the guy i'm with now, we want to spend our lives together. we started out dating and then i broke up with him - becuase... i don't know why.

regardless, we became best friends and now that we're together i find that that friendship foundation is a wonderful thing for our relationship to be built upon.

don't despair - you don't have to get "over him", but work on the friendship part.

 

[K9_Trainer]

I think Lynn pretty much said it.

He told you exactly why he's doing this, take what he said face value.

Some of them may not make sense to you, but it's his feelings, not yours.

Just realize that he may not be the same person he was 2 years ago. His goals in life may have changed. That age gap can be a huge issue for some couples. He's 24, he's at the age where he's probably looking at getting a good job with a steady income (if he doesn't have one already) and starting a family, some things that may not have been on his mind 2 years ago. Your 18, barely out of highschool and he probably feels your still a bit too young to settle down and actually start a family and be a wife and take care of all the responsibilities that come with that.

I know that's the exact reason I couldn't be with a guy that much older than me at this point in my life. Hence why my bf is almost a year younger than me. I love his wild, adventurous, rebellious spirit, it suits me perfectly. We're both young, barely entering the adult world and we now we get to share those life experiences together, have fun being unsettled and crazy, and we'll probably both hit the "time to settle and start a family" stage at the same time and jump right into it.