Help... please... sticky situation :(

[stephwalker1971]

With the ages of the two involved, I think the Senior pastor should be made aware of what is going on...at 21 he should know better, esp since it is illegal. I am praying for you as you figure out how to handle this!
Steph

 

[mwb]

I do not disagree that what he doing is wrong and should be stopped. From what I have read, he may have kissed her. That is all. Several people have insinuated what he is doing is illegal. This is false. So far, from what has been reported, he is not breaking the law. It could lead to that, but he certainly has done nothing illegal, at least from what has been posted. Perhaps some posters should be less condemning when they cannot be factual.

Other than your last sentence, I agree with you.

 

[christian cutie danni]

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Originally Posted by: ReverendLovejoy

I do not disagree that what he doing is wrong and should be stopped. From what I have read, he may have kissed her. That is all. Several people have insinuated what he is doing is illegal. This is false. So far, from what has been reported, he is not breaking the law. It could lead to that, but he certainly has done nothing illegal, at least from what has been posted. Perhaps some posters should be less condemning when they cannot be factual.



Just because he kissed her doesn't mean that he's not planning on doing anything illegal. I know from experiance that guys that old aren't inerested in being just friends with someone our age. There's always hidden motives, so if you care about your friend, I'd definately take action.

 

[bumblebee62331]

Ok I don't know where you live, but those ages are a huge gap. If they do anything else, it is illegal. Is she mature? Does she know what's happening? I do agree that if she felt she couldn't say no, this could lead to more serious things. She should always feel that she can say no, no matter who she is with or what they are doing.

You risk losing your friend if you say something, but if you don't she might get hurt. Talk to your friend about this. Tell her about the rules they are breaking, tell her about the age difference, tell her everything that is worrying you. If you are truly good friends, she will understand your concern and should appreciate that you are worried about her.

I think all you can do is be there for her. But if anything more happens between them, you should speak up. Go to Michael and tell him that he is doing the wrong thing here. Just be there for her, if they break up or if Michael gets bored and moves on. Also if anything more serious happens. You have to remain her friend.

 

[chippajones]

Anything that is inappropriately done with the sole intention of fleshly satisfactional purpose is sin. This man has committed fornication because of the intent of his heart. He's already lusting after her with his flesh and eyes, and lust of the eyes, lust of the flesh and pride of life are three things that God hates. The young man needs some serious prayer, the whole church need to know what is going on, and the young lady needs to learn how to stay away from men she can possibly be an attraction (note- distraction) to. We're talking more than fleshly desires here. Evil forces (Satan and his demons) are at work here to destroy the church. They both should wait until she is 18 to decide to pursue a relationship geared towards marriage. Other than that, they should leave each other alone.

 

[eturner74]

I think you should go to your pastor. Michael is 21 and he should know better Heather is a child and he should not be in a relationship with a child

 

[Skinster007]

You need to tell the Pastor so this guy can be removed as a youth leader. If the Pastor doesn't take action you need to tell the girl's parents. Yes she will be angry but she also may want it to stop but is afraid to tell anyone else. Give me the church number and I'll call the pastor myself!

 

[iouaname16]

Thanks everyone. My youth pastor has been told, and so has the senior pastor, and Heather's mom.

Heather could use your prayers tho, she really isn't handling all of this to well.

 

[Skinster007]

You did the right thing. Good job!

 

[Savedsis]

Thanks everyone. My youth pastor has been told, and so has the senior pastor, and Heather's mom.

Heather could use your prayers tho, she really isn't handling all of this to well.

I am praying for the situation........God bless.