Help needed for Attachment parenting

[alexeeah]

I am seriously considering becomeing an attachment parent I started this thread so that I could get support and advice from other Ap parents. I don't really want an arguement or negative feedback about AP so please refrain . I just want some questions answered about this one so that I can learn more about it before I make my final decision. Thanks to all who help me understand better adn hopefully I get a lot of replies.


First question How do you start AP with a 6 year old and a 4 year old???

 

[Mayzoo]

Pardon my ignorance, but what is attachment parenting?

 

[Crofter]

Pardon my ignorance, but what is attachment parenting?

Good question.


soooo.... what is attachment parenting...?

 

[Crofter]

Okay... I just read this on another thread...


... my contribution is... drop the buzz word. Raising kids...well it is called parenting... and parenting is as old as time itself. As parents we love our children and seek to meet all their needs and seek to raise them to become independent and happy adults... how we do this is 100% up to us as parents and will depend on our circumstances and combination of personalities...

I don't think raising children is an academic challenge... so there is no need to study and form ideals on how this should best be tackled or select the trend that best suite your ideal and preconceptions ... but is a natural process.

... what do we need to buy...? well... not a lot... commercialism is part of what makes capitalism a success rather than an indication of what products we need... so there is nothing new on the market we need to purchase in order to make us new up to date super parents...

 

[mamaneenie]

I'm not exactly sure what your definition means. I have heard some things about AP, like they sleep in the same bed with their children and don't do controlled crying. As for a 6 and 4 yo, my son isn't even 3, so I can't advise on that one.

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

My advice, every child is different. Don't put them in a box that demands only one 'style' of parenting. You'll be doing your child a grave disservice.

That said, I used some elements of AP with my son and he did wonderfully. However, my daughter wanted nothing to do with much that was AP and that parenting style made both her and me miserable.

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

by the way, the BEST parenting advice I read was not in one set 'parenting method' book. Read 'The Five Love Languages of Children' and learn about what your child really needs from you.

 

[alexeeah]

Thank you so much blue this was the exact information i was looking for!

 

[Busybee]

Can AP parenting be started past infantcy? I always thought of it as something you start as a newborn. Dunno, will have to do some researching myself because now I'm wondering.

Edited to say: Wow, I just learned something new. You can start APing older kids. I'd love to know how it goes for you and wish you luck since APing has struck such a spot in your heart. You kids are lucky to have you for a mom.

 

[alexeeah]

Can AP parenting be started past infantcy? I always thought of it as something you start as a newborn. Dunno, will have to do some researching myself because now I'm wondering.

Edited to say: Wow, I just learned something new. You can start APing older kids. I'd love to know how it goes for you and wish you luck since APing has struck such a spot in your heart. You kids are lucky to have you for a mom.

Lucky?? I don't think so. I feel like the worst mom in history most of the time. THat is why I want to switch to AP Parenting because I feel like spanking however corrective it is for them (and I agree that it can be when done properly) just isn't for me. I feel like a child abuser when I do it. So I think that this choice of Ap Parenting is going to helpme connect with teh kids in a more loving way while helping me feel better about beinga parent and having better behaved kids.

 

[Blindfaith316]

well.. it sounds like being a typical parent?? what on earth am I missing?? lol!