- Aug 7, 2017
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This is something I am praying over when I complete my personal introspection I will approach my community of faith for some extrospection.1. You will never get anybody to agree on this. The best solution is to talk to your pastor and to God and go from there. Personally, I think it’s too early to start worrying about remarrying. Decide on and get through a divorce first.
Right now their place is the most stable place for my son. I can move too far away because of his school situation. He is autistic and I don't want to upend his life anymore. As a mother the least I can do is develop a thicker skin and take the teasing with good humor. Please don't judge then they are truly good people. For all my sister in law's husband's immature jackassery, he had been very kind and has refrained from joking around my son. My second point of introspection want meant to criticize my benefactors it was more something that lead me to consider if my own moral compass was out of whack. Basically it is just a shocker when people who openly profess their rejection of social morals and normatives ate the ones who show the most love as compared to those who champion the social order.2. You are on the Titanic. Worry less about the furnishings of your potential rescue boat and more about getting off the Titanic. I get your family isn’t in the area, but with the jokes and insensitivity, I’d find a new place to stay.
Glad to know it's normal but still feels not right though3. That is a 100% normal and rational feeling. You’re not wrong for feeling it.
For me the question is not as simple as "should I reject morality to live more comfortable? "The answer to that is emphatically no. My question is more over arcing and is more of what exactly is moral or immoral? For the longest time I believed that my sister in law and her husband lubed an immoral life because they engaged in fraud, decite, and rebellion. I believed that my husband and his parents were moral because they always maintained the social normative. Now my husband and his parents argue that I am overreacting because nothing my husband has done violates the morals or rules of the social normative so they say I need to repent my lack of forgiveness. My sister in law and her husband on the other hand have been nothing but supportive(with exception to the teasing ) yet they openly reject the social normative. So the question is now who is really more moral? It now irks me to think of my father in laws reaction to finding out sister in law's husband hired a crew of undocumented laborers compared to him finding out about his son's online activities. When he found out about the laborer issue he blew his top. He was screaming at sister in law's husband about the illegally if what he was doing, about how it is unfair to American workers and how he is cheating the entire country. Then when I told him about his son's online activities, the money he spent on pormography, I wad the one who was considered unreasonable. So really what is more immoral? Is it really more immoral to pay a group of men willing to work to work, or is it more immoral to squander much needed family resources on something as corrosive and damaging as pormography (which by the way exploits the actresses as well)? So these questions l lead me to my next, why not start living more like my sister in law and her husband? Are they really that immoral ? If they are really more moral than those who tout the social order why not enjoy what they enjoy?4. There’s what we see in others, there’s what they show us, and there’s what there is. I would not throw out my morality because people who are immoral to my standards appear happier than me. Morality doesn’t promise we will have easy lives. It just promises we aren’t inviting more problems from bad decisions on top of the problems we all get. Again, I’d look less outward and more inward. Your truth will never will live up to the comparisons made by somebody else’s best.
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