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For a few years I hear people say "you can't run your life on feelings" or something like that. I just don't get it.
We are humans with feelings. Our feelings affect every moment of our lives. How can we just cut them off? What do we have instead?
 
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I don't think it's an absolute statement against following your dreams and passions but make sure you cross all your (T)s and dot all of your (i)s.
 
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For a few years I hear people say "you can't run you life on feelings" or something like that. I just don't get it.
We are humans with feelings. Our feelings affect every moment of our lives. How can we just cut them off? What do we have instead?
Well, you can't run your life on only feelings, because sometimes they would lead you into a bad direction even if you have a heart that is usually full of love.

We need the direction/guidance/wisdom/instruction from God, as we have from Christ. And also to pray for aid as Christ taught, in addition to following His instructions to us.

And we have all of that! :)
Such as in chapters 4 though 25 here:
Matthew 4 NIV

So, we want to use our 'new heart' we are given to love others! We definitely need our heart.
 
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For a few years I hear people say "you can't run you life on feelings" or something like that. I just don't get it.
We are humans with feelings. Our feelings affect every moment of our lives. How can we just cut them off? What do we have instead?

Our lives revolve around emotional connection. I recommend not making important decisions based on emotions. Don't allow people's opinions to alter how you feel inside. We are human!
 
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We need to follow what Scripture says instead of how we feel.

Here's a couple of examples. Do we wait to pray til we feel like it? While Scripture says pray all the time (I Thess 5:17). We're to love and forgive (Matt 22 & 5). Sometimes we're so hurt or angry, we don't want to forgive and definitely not love.

But God knows we need to maintain our communication and our relationship with Him. He knows we have to have His help to love and forgive.

Hope this helps.
 
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I think humans need to learn to control emotions. If we cannot, our feelings lead us into poor decisions. Ever hear that saying "Don't go grocery shopping on an empty stomach."?
 
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For a few years I hear people say "you can't run you life on feelings" or something like that. I just don't get it.
We are humans with feelings. Our feelings affect every moment of our lives. How can we just cut them off? What do we have instead?
Honestly I have never heard that this is a bad way to run ones life . I'm sure you have heard the phrase "emotional decision", at times it could be catastrophic yet it could also be the best way to handle a situation. I guess what it boils down to is balance. Have a bit of emotions and feelings with common sense and discernment.
Blessings
 
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For a few years I hear people say "you can't run you life on feelings" or something like that. I just don't get it.
We are humans with feelings. Our feelings affect every moment of our lives. How can we just cut them off? What do we have instead?

What is hard to get. You don't run your life on feelings you run it on rational thought. No one expects people to cut off their feelings. Just don't run your life on them. One shouldn't act based upon emotion because emotion tells you nothing real it only tells you what your reaction is to wht is real. Instead act upon reason. Don't take stupid decisions because it feels good or you feel bad or your afraid or you are hurt or elated etc. Make decision based upon what is the best course of action based upon information and logical thought.
 
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For a few years I hear people say "you can't run you life on feelings" or something like that. I just don't get it.
We are humans with feelings. Our feelings affect every moment of our lives. How can we just cut them off? What do we have instead?

The Bible has several instances where we are taught not to be ruled by emotions, but rather we should do what's right regardless of how we may feel.

If someone hits you it makes you angry and you're one emotion in that moment is to react in anger, but Jesus tells you not to be ruled by emotion, but rather offer the offender the other cheek as well.

In another parable Jesus talks about the Master who gives money to his servants and one servant was so afraid of loosing what was given to him that instead of investing the money he buried it. Jesus ended by stating that was the incorrect reaction, instead of being too fearful to make any move whatsoever he should have invested...

The good Samaritan is praised for taking care of the man who was beaten while the emotional reaction of the Jews who didn't want to come into contact with an unclean thing was rejected as wrong.

Actions based on emotions aren't the way... Having emotions isn't wrong, but they aren't the guiding principles of our lives. Fear shouldn't be a bar to trying to do what's right, neither should anger or disgust etcetera...

Your emotional reaction of feeling like your finally home shouldn't be the basis of buying a new home, rather the affordability, the area, the school district etc should be... The emotional reaction of liking a house is last, and not the basis for such a big decision.

In the end, our actions and decisions should be guided by reason. If you can't separate your emotions from your decision making, your not an adult yet.
 
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All worthy answers. You all explained it very well. It was hard for me to think of it As a blanket statement that doesn't work. you can have feelings about any decision but acting on it with common sense as someone posted. I don't think the two can be separate.
Thanks all.
I can be very dense:)
 
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Thanks all.
I can be very dense:)
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Well . . . you might feel dense, but I offer that God's word says we need and help one another . . . because all of us need help.

So, in case your feelings tell you that you are the only one who can be . . . in need of correction and help - - don't let yourself feel isolated like you're the only one!

:doh::help: :pray::groupray::prayer:

In Jesus we are family; so God has us so we need each other and He makes each of us able to help any other person in Jesus.

So, you are not alone, plus you can help others while you get blessed.
 
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For a few years I hear people say "you can't run your life on feelings" or something like that. I just don't get it.
We are humans with feelings. Our feelings affect every moment of our lives. How can we just cut them off? What do we have instead?

Imagine a forest. Now fires come upon the forest from time to time. Should you put them out? If you do then after a long period of time the forest will reach a state where the next fire will be unstoppable and burn everything down to the ground. Had you let the little fires burn then this wouldn't have happened.

As a practical matter with people, maybe they should be divided into two groups:

1. People who just go unlucky.
2. People who created the mess they are in.

Helping #1 is fine. Helping #2 will eventually make everything worse unless they want to change.
 
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For a few years I hear people say "you can't run your life on feelings" or something like that. I just don't get it.
We are humans with feelings. Our feelings affect every moment of our lives. How can we just cut them off? What do we have instead?
Good question. We need to know that we are a tripart being, spirit, soul and body. The spirit is the real us. It is the part that is born again.

The spirit is fundamentally conscience, intuition and faith. When we are born again, we are like newborn babies spiritually. Our "food" is the Living Word of God - Christ Himself.

The soul is the organ of expression. We have the ability to choose, think and feel among other things. Adam's choice in Eden was simple. Would he choose to live according to the knowledge of good and evil or by the fruit of the Tree of Life. God warned Adam that the fruit of the knowledge tree was deadly. Adam rebelled, and the rest is the sorry history of the human race.

When we are born again, in effect we face the same choice. We can live according to self will, intellect or by feelings. The strong tend to choose self will. They are the drivers, movers and shakers, who get things done - even when they don't need doing. Some are bookworms, studying much and ensuring that everyone knows how clever they are. Some will only do something if they feel like it. Most people have a mixture of all three. And women are more likely to be governed by emotion than men.

God wants to impart His knowledge to the spirit man. Once we know something in the spirit, nothing can take it away. If I can talk you into something (intellect) another person can talk you out of it.

Having a motivator encourage us is good - unless they are operating in their won strength and wisdom. Satan sure motivated Adam.

Emotions can change quicker than the weather. I was utterly depressed one day and the Lord nudged me to eat. The depression lifted straight away.

Lord Jesus said that His words are spirit and life (John 6:63). He is the "Bread of Heaven", the true manna. Just as the body needs physical food, so our spirit man needs spiritual food. Satan does his best to hinder us. He uses distractions and feelings against us. "I don't feel like reading the Bible". Guess where that comes from. We need to know who we are in Christ and who Christ is in us. It does not come automatically. We need to know the Living Word and we need to know the written Word also. God can bring scripture back to our memory when we need it.

An example may help. I was driving in rain so heavy that the windscreen wipers were useless. The road was curved and I feared running off the road. There were cars behind me and I was afraid that one would run into me. I asked the Lord to stop the rain. He said, "I did not send it and I will not take it away". I remembered how Lord Jesus dealt with the storm on the Sea of Galilee. He rebuked the storm. I did the same. The storm cleared up in moments.

God wants us to live by His Word, by principle, not feeling. We need to put our faith in God's facts. If we do that, good feelings often follow. If we trust our feelings, we will be like a cork on the ocean, constantly tossed about by the waves.
 
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Feel what you're feeling in the moment and move to the next one. One thing to avoid absolutely: basing your actions or decisions on emotions. There's a beautiful quote that says:
"Never reply when you are angry. Never make a promise when you are happy. Never make a decision when you are sad."

 
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Feel what you're feeling in the moment and move to the next one. One thing to avoid absolutely: basing your actions or decisions on emotions. There's a beautiful quote that says:
"Never reply when you are angry. Never make a promise when you are happy. Never make a decision when you are sad."
This reminds me of something that happened some years ago. I had left the docs office under an anesethic and was told not to make any important decisions for a few hours. Walking out of the office I needed to mail my bill payments so I verbally looked for a mailbox in the lobby. A woman offered to mail it for me. This was not a person related to the docs office but a stranger. So I gave her my bill payments checks and all. Lol, it wasn't til hours later that it hit me. Like that, without the anesthetics?:)
 
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Honestly I have never heard that this is a bad way to run ones life . I'm sure you have heard the phrase "emotional decision", at times it could be catastrophic yet it could also be the best way to handle a situation. I guess what it boils down to is balance. Have a bit of emotions and feelings with common sense and discernment.
Blessings
Thanks for the short and sweet. You make it easy to understand.
Blessings to you also:)
 
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