Help me please!!!!

[HunnyBee]

I agree with everyone who has given you advice in getting rid of this pathetic excuse for a man. You said that you know what you need to do and it's hard, but your life is going to be so much better without him. Let him go because you deserve so much better than that. Please feel free to PM me anytime.

 

[coolchicka]

ive been trying to get away from him but he keeps threatening me to the point im afraid to tell anyone what he is threatening me about. Last year 2007 towards the end of the year I make a couple friends at work. I was also friends with a guy about 17 at the time. Me n the guy were just friends. But My bf thought differently. Well one night after work the gals asked me if Id like to join them out to eat after work so I said yes. I went with them they drove. Well I didnt know them very well at the time. Well I started telling them stuff about my bf how he makes me try on tight leather outfits etc.... I was just telling anyone at this point that I thought would help me get away from him.

Well as we got out to eat a couple guys they knew I didnt know them. Aparently these guy have gotten in trouble with the law a lot I found out. Well my bf called me while I was eating n got mad that I was with them n now him. So one of the girls grabbed my phone outta my hand. N started talking to him. Then one of the girls told one of their guy friends what was going on so then one of then grabbed my phone n They started cursing back n forth on the phone. Aparently trying to pick a fight. Well My Bf gave them his address ! I heard it over speakerphone. Then there like were going there!I didnt want them going there but they did anyways. So I heard they didnt wanna fight him when they saw what he looked like. And then I tried to break up with him. He started threatening me. Saying its been video taped. He says u can get in trouble for sending them over here. But they went on there own I wasent even there. Hes like u can get in trouble because they attended to do bodily harm to me. So after that he also says that they have been coming around him and his ants place about 2am in the morning trying to stick nails in their tires letting air out of the tires. HE says they do this everynight. One time he said they started an egg fight throwing them at their vechile.

He told me he caught on of the eggs that they threw threw it back at them and it splattered on their face. He says when he chases them off to their cars theres about 4 of them they always holler if this goes down we will tell that she sent us here which I did not. He says they still come by his even to this day. N thats why im scared to leave him cause he says if I leave him it would go down n then id be the one in trouble because they would tell athority that I sent them to do it. So I feel like I have to do everything he says so it dont go down including having sex with him exc Ive already told a police officer what happened but I mentioned no names they didnt seem too worried but im still scared. the bf hes trying to say that attent to bodily harm is a low grade felony but the police officer told me it was not. I really am serious that I wanna leave im just scared about what will happened with the situation if I leave him will it go down will it not is he lying about the whole they come by everynight around 2am n start stuff what > Im so scared.

 

[Blackguard_]

Good to see you've done something finally.

Your bf is manipulative lying POS. You need to get that through your head. You shouldn't trust it to give you the correct time.

ive been trying to get away from him but he keeps threatening me to the point im afraid to tell anyone what he is threatening me about.

You need to break contact completely. change your phone numbers etc. Don't listen to a word he says. look into your legal options, such as a restraining order.

Don't let him get a hold of you to threaten you. Don't open the door to him, answer his calls etc.. Look into self-defense and trespassing laws in your state (e.g. he doesn't have the right to pound on your door all day until you come out) and get a restraining order if you can if he won't leave you alone.

How is he still contacting you to threaten you and what have you tried to break off contact? Why did you answer his call when you were out to eat?

Remember that blackmailing into sex is rape, so if he's said anything along those lines you have him on much worse than he supposedly has you and he has nothing on you as you know and the cop confirmed. You said yourself you had nothing to do with them going over. The POS is just playing on your fears.

Then there like were going there!I didnt want them going there but they did anyways. So I heard they didnt wanna fight him when they saw what he looked like. And then I tried to break up with him. He started threatening me. Saying its been video taped. He says u can get in trouble for sending them over here. But they went on there own I wasent even there. Hes like u can get in trouble because they attended to do bodily harm to me. So after that he also says that they have been coming around him and his ants place about 2am in the morning trying to stick nails in their tires letting air out of the tires. HE says they do this everynight. One time he said they started an egg fight throwing them at their vechile.

I was afraid something like this would happen. If you're going to use extra-legal means to deal with a guy like this you feed him to pigs. Not this this childish crap that gives him a pseuado-legal grievance and leaves him still around and madder.

anyway. break contact completely and explore your legal options if he wont leave you alone, from restraining orders and other anti-stalker stuff to lighting him up should your state's self-defense/trespassing laws permit should it go that far.

BTW, what did you talk to the cop about? just about the fighting/vandalism thing? You need to tell the police if he's threatening you won't leave you alone etc. there are laws to deal with stalkers and those like them.

I really am serious that I wanna leave im just scared about what will happened with the situation if I leave him will it go down will it not is he lying about the whole they come by everynight around 2am n start stuff what > Im so scared.

leave him. He's lying about you getting in trouble. It doesn't matter if they come by at 2 everynight. Why should it? you didn't send them and why would they be believed? You need to realize the POS is using your fears to manipulate you.

 

[coolchicka]

He even made me try on tight leather outfits when I was 16 . Awhile back I was at his house and managed to take one of the pictures he took of me when I was 16 years old. Can I use that as evidence?

 

[coolchicka]

Hes gone now! Me and this guy that I met at a Skillet concert back in march well he treated me to Cedar Point for my birthday. Well I wasn't hardly calling my so called boyfriend. Well I told hiim I was out with a one of my friends for my birthday to a haunted house. Well Sunday the day after Cedar Point He called me around 4pm.

Well, I didn't answer I dicided I wanted to go to the police station in the town were this incident aparently took place according to (him).. Well guess what theres no kind of a record of it or anything. So I got home with my friend. We were back at my house about a half hour and he just comes over unwelcomly without asking. He knocks on the door asks if im there.

I comeout of my bedroom tell my friend to stay in my bedroom I shut the door. Well he just walks in the house. Hes like who you hiding in your bedroom Im like no one. I push him cause hes in my face. Well he pushed me back opens my bedroom door without permission. And was acting like he was trying to pick a fight with my guy friend.

I run to the bathroom shut the door he comes back there I shout LEAVE ME ALONE! He storms out the door saying im going to the courthouse to get the money you owe me!. Well as soon as he left, I went to the police and made a report. Now im afraid. He hasn't called me sense though.

But im afraid somehow hes stalking me like trying to see were I am so he can threaten me some more. JUst pray for me everybody.

 

[Blank123]

do what you can to make it as hard as possible for him to contact you right now until he realises he needs to back off and get a life.

change your phone numbers so he can't call you. Move, even if its just temporarily, in with a friend or family member he doesn't know, change churches, if you're working see if its possible to take some time off or find a new job. If you're going to school try to take a few weeks off or change your schedule to make it harder for him to track you down, it may even be wise to consider transferring elsewhere.

most importantly tell only those who must absolutely know about all the changes in your life. the fewer people that know the less chance of him being able to track you down again.

 

[lilphotographer88]

Hes gone now! Me and this guy that I met at a Skillet concert back in march well he treated me to Cedar Point for my birthday. Well I wasn't hardly calling my so called boyfriend. Well I told hiim I was out with a one of my friends for my birthday to a haunted house. Well Sunday the day after Cedar Point He called me around 4pm.

Well, I didn't answer I dicided I wanted to go to the police station in the town were this incident aparently took place according to (him).. Well guess what theres no kind of a record of it or anything. So I got home with my friend. We were back at my house about a half hour and he just comes over unwelcomly without asking. He knocks on the door asks if im there.

I comeout of my bedroom tell my friend to stay in my bedroom I shut the door. Well he just walks in the house. Hes like who you hiding in your bedroom Im like no one. I push him cause hes in my face. Well he pushed me back opens my bedroom door without permission. And was acting like he was trying to pick a fight with my guy friend.

I run to the bathroom shut the door he comes back there I shout LEAVE ME ALONE! He storms out the door saying im going to the courthouse to get the money you owe me!. Well as soon as he left, I went to the police and made a report. Now im afraid. He hasn't called me sense though.

But im afraid somehow hes stalking me like trying to see were I am so he can threaten me some more. JUst pray for me everybody.

Girl you need to get a restraining order against this guy!!! Like yesterday. I have been there done that! And trust me unless you do something drastic it's not going to stop for a long time... I used to have a guy that would call me and stalk me and even when I moved into a dorm room at college he followed me one night when I was coming back from my house and found out where I lived. He's harrasing you and he's threatening you!! Get some witnesses and get a restraining order... all you have to have is like 2 witnesses, (I think) depends on where you live, that can vouch for you that he's threatened you and harrasses you! Do it now please!! Before it gets worse...
In my case I got lucky... the guy that stalked me got picked up for possesion with intent to sell and he also got hit with a sexual abuse charge... so he's in jail for a while... and I moved since then so he won't be able to track me down now... but I am still scared to this day and my poor fiance he doesn't mean too but he has scared me a couple of times... Like one day he came ove to my house and I didn't know he was coming and he pulled in front of the house and I was walking out the door when he was walking up the walk and I screamed bloody murder ran to the house before I saw who it was and I grabbed my gun. Scared him and me to death... afterward when he was calming me down... I just cried... cause I am still scared to this day.