Help!! Important!!!

[Spherical Time]

I'm against it due to the age issues, but at the very least he should have asked a friend to come with him. He's not taking precautions for his safety into serious concern.

 

[rachel27]

I text him like 10-15 minutes ago and he hasnt text back yet. I dunno...i told another friend and they were gonna text him and i told them he hasnt text back and they havnt replied.
Now my phones gone dead and i cant find my charger.

 

[rachel27]

I offered to go with him but this person was already there and my friend just said there was no point...

...ive found my charger so i can keep texting him. Im gonna wait 5 minutes then im gonna ring him.

 

[NateBlack]

If this older guy has any shred of integrity, he'll introduce himself properly to your friend's mom. IF it's even legal for a 20yo to date a 16yo...

Dating is complex... but knowing there is such a dramatic age difference, you'd think the older guy would want to set the 16yo's parents at ease... Unless he is just going to use the younger guy... or worse.

 

[karen freeinchristman]

I'm against it due to the age issues.

In the UK, the age of consent is 16.

 

[NateBlack]

Tell him if you don't go with him, you're calling his mom.

 

[fillerbunny]

I offered to go with him but this person was already there and my friend just said there was no point...

I'd be leery of going with him. You don't know this guy, and if it turns out he isn't who he says he is, you could be putting yourself at risk as well.

If they were going to meet up, they should've taken separate cars, told others where they would be and when they expected to be coming back, and met in a public place. I wouldn't advocate your getting in this guy's car under any circumstances.

 

[rachel27]

They're not even dating...it's just a "so you want to meet" thing.

My friend already has a boyfriend. Which is a whole different matter altogether which i dont agree with.

 

[Spherical Time]

In the UK, the age of consent is 16.

Where I live, way back in the day, heterosexuals passed a lot of strange age of consent laws.

Here, it would be 14.

Still, I'd rather see the guy be safe than sorry.

 

[NateBlack]

They're not even dating...it's just a "so you want to meet" thing.

My friend already has a boyfriend. Which is a whole different matter altogether which i dont agree with.

Tell him you're going to call his boyfriend. That should get his attention.

Ask for this guy's phone number and his vehicle license plate.

 

[rachel27]

I cant get in touch with them...

...and if i phoned his boyfriend which i cant do because i dont have his number then he wouldnt care. He'd deny it, i know he will.

I'm going to get in touch with my friend i told and ask them if they've got in contact with him.

 

[rachel27]

Okay...hes fine.

He told me where he is and that hes going to ring me when hes in. I didnt sense any danger and ive calmed down slightly.

 

[NateBlack]

Good. Your friend is blessed to have someone who cares about him so much.

You make sure he knows that. And tell him if he scares you again, you're going to kick his butt.

 

[rachel27]

Thankyou. I think i'll probably be such a nag when he rings me when he gets in. I'm glad he's okay.

Thankyou all for your advice.

 

[full_of_faith]

I totally dont know which forum to put this in and at the mometn i dont care. I just need someone to answer it.

My friend rang me up to say hes going to get in a car with this stranger. He said hes being talking to this 20 year old gay guy over msn for about a month. He also said this guy was coming over to pick him up in his car and he didnt know where he was going.

My frined is also gay and only 16. I know they both like each other but they have never met in person.

My friend told me he has taken a pocket knive and his phone.

I dont know what to do. I dont want to get him into trouble but i might have to phone his mum. I really dont want him to get hurt and i need to know hes okay. Im just sat here unable to do anything. And anything i do do, i dont know if its right.

Please help.

Call his mother if you haven't done so already. You are being a good friend by saying something to his mother. If you don't say anything and somethign happens, you aren't going to feel like a good friend.

 

[chalice_thunder]

Thankyou. I think i'll probably be such a nag when he rings me when he gets in. I'm glad he's okay.

Thankyou all for your advice.

I came to the discussion late, but I agree with most of the advice given here.

You are indeed a good friend, and he's blessed to have you in his life.

After you are done kicking his butt, give him a hug and say: "Next time you want to meet somebody from the internet, meet them at the pub or starbucks!"