Help.. How to tell someone..

[I am saved15]

I need some advice please.
I have been cutting/SI for 5 years. It is getting to be worse and I want to tell someone. I just don't know how. I cannot tell my parents because they don't understand. I am afraid. I want to tell somoene who is not going to tell my parents. I don't know if I should tell someone at church or just keep it to myself. I know that I cannot tell anyone at school because they have to tell. I feel so alone an confused. I just want to get it out.. Part of my wants to quit, but the other part of me is afraid. Can anyone please give me some advice? I really appreciate it!

 

[4childofgod]

I need some advice please.
I have been cutting/SI for 5 years. It is getting to be worse and I want to tell someone. I just don't know how. I cannot tell my parents because they don't understand. I am afraid. I want to tell somoene who is not going to tell my parents. I don't know if I should tell someone at church or just keep it to myself. I know that I cannot tell anyone at school because they have to tell. I feel so alone an confused. I just want to get it out.. Part of my wants to quit, but the other part of me is afraid. Can anyone please give me some advice? I really appreciate it!

Hi nice to see you around lately what about sharing with a youth leader or confide in someone you trust in the church. Don't struggle alone it will just get worse and worse. Every week my counselor asks me if I am suicidal if I have had thoughts of hurting myself it helps keep me accountable. The urges are of course still there but it helps so much LOL

 

[I am saved15]

Hi nice to see you around lately what about sharing with a youth leader or confide in someone you trust in the church. Don't struggle alone it will just get worse and worse. Every week my counselor asks me if I am suicidal if I have had thoughts of hurting myself it helps keep me accountable. The urges are of course still there but it helps so much LOL

Hi! Thanks for replying! I have thought about telling my youth leader.. But the youth leader in also the pastor of my church. I really like his wife. I think I may tell her.. My problem is this. Well, there are a few. The fist is, I don't know what to say to her! I don't know how to bring it up to her. I am also afraid that she will tell someone.. Like my parents. I really don't want them to find out. That would be just bad!!! I just want to get this off my chest. If I can get all this figured out before Friday, (that is when I have youth group) I will approch her then. I am afraid.. I don't want them to think any less of me or throw me off all the teams that I am on.. I know this sounds silly! I hope someone can help me..
Thanks to everyone who replys.
God bless!

 

[oneandlonely]

I need some advice please.
I have been cutting/SI for 5 years. It is getting to be worse and I want to tell someone. I just don't know how. I cannot tell my parents because they don't understand. I am afraid. I want to tell somoene who is not going to tell my parents. I don't know if I should tell someone at church or just keep it to myself. I know that I cannot tell anyone at school because they have to tell. I feel so alone an confused. I just want to get it out.. Part of my wants to quit, but the other part of me is afraid. Can anyone please give me some advice? I really appreciate it!

Hey there hun. telling someone who will hold you accountable really does help, it is scary, but it is worth it.
Could you talk to your youth pastor? Or youth leaders? Your youth pastor doesn't have to tell your parents anything unless he thinks that you are in real danger (like if you wanted to kill yourself), at least that is what mine told me. I really suggest finding someone at your church that you can trust to talk to. It really does help.
As for telling them, just talk to them. and if you can't do that, do like I did and write a letter.
I totally understand not wanting parents to know. I didn't want mine to know either.

Bethany

 

[I am saved15]

I have decided that I am finally going to tell someone at church. I have decided to tell my youth pastor's wife. I just don't know how to approach her. I just don't want anyone to think that I am crazy. If I tell her, will she tell my parents. I just don't know how to tell her.. I may write her a letter, but I don't know how to tell her.. I am sorry if this is just a ramble.. I just can't figure this out. I really would appreciate the advice.
God Bless!

 

[oneandlonely]

I have decided that I am finally going to tell someone at church. I have decided to tell my youth pastor's wife. I just don't know how to approach her. I just don't want anyone to think that I am crazy. If I tell her, will she tell my parents. I just don't know how to tell her.. I may write her a letter, but I don't know how to tell her.. I am sorry if this is just a ramble.. I just can't figure this out. I really would appreciate the advice.
God Bless!

telling someone is the first step to getting help. I am glad to hear that you are going to tell her. What about asking her if you can meet with her? If not a letter is a great idea. That is how I told my youth pastor. I sent him an email about it.
As for telling her. Just tell her that you need help. I think that once you say that the rest will just come to you. Be honest about things too. Asking for help is scary, but it is worth it.

I don't know if this helps or not hun, but if you have any questions, feel free to PM me

Bethany

 

[luv2bowl2008]

atleast have a friend who you can talk to... thats what has really helped me through out the last year... and if they agree to help.. then you got to promise to tell them whenever you do it... after awhile it does get easier because then you don't want to keep telling them that oyu had to... but just have them be accountablitity for you... and set goals...thats the best idea... go a day, a week, a month, ect... will get better i promise and i will be praying for you!! God Bless Kayla

 

[I am saved15]

Thanks for replying everyone!! I just found out that she is not going to be at youth group this Friday but next.. So I still have another week. *sigh* I have decided to write a letter instead of telling her verbally. I don't know if I should give it to her and walk away or give it to her and wait until she reads it. I am afraid that she will think that I am crazy.. The thought of stopping also scares me.. I know that in order to get better, that I have to tell someone.. I am just scared.I am afraid that I will get in trouble.. What if she tells my parents or someone.. I am sorry to keep dragging this out.. I just felt like I needed to vent.. If you have anymore advice, I would really appreciate it!
God bless!

 

[hotglue]

I myself am a hot gluer. I get depressed and hot glue things to my body with a glue gun, so obviously I feel your pain. Last year during Halloween season, I hot glued pieces of felt to my scrotum and dressed him up like a unicorn and Jimbo was the horn! This wasn't the best idea although I did enjoy the pain. Personally I prefer hot glueing to cutting , but that's just me. Man that really hurts! I got 3rd degree burns and was reluctant to tell anyone. The infection and pussing became too severe and the unicorn became crusty. It was very embarassing telling my grandma about it but I recieved help and am now glue free. Can I get a cookie?