Help!! Bored and blaah

[hope4today]

I am so bored and yet I have so much I probably should be doing. I just don't want to do the stuff I should be doing like cleaning, studying, bills, paperwork etc. Instead I'm sitting here wishing there was someone I could chat to online for a while but noone is on my MSN. It's 6.10pm here, far too early to go to bed and yet I'm tired and don't know what to do with myself. I just want the hours to pass so I can legitimately go to bed and sleep. I would love to be out socialising but I'm just sitting here at my computer. Blaahh!! I don't even have the energy or motivation to read. What is going on with me?

The friends I had when I was married are still friends but it is different now. I don't fit the same and I have lost most of my social network. At least when you are married there is someone else around.

oh well that's enough whinging for me. If I keep this up I'll just get myself going down a horrible spiral of depression. Not a good move. Anyone else have nights or days like this?

 

[Gimpy]

I know how you feel. I joke around alot but I do know.

 

[hope4today]

I know how you feel. I joke around alot but I do know.

Thanks Gimpy

 

[Gimpy]

Thanks Gimpy

You are welcome. I hope your life comes together so you can rediscover happiness.

 

[hope4today]

You are welcome. I hope your life comes together so you can rediscover happiness.

Wow happiness.... that's a thought.

I am happy in moments and can laugh and enjoy life but there is still an underlying sadness that creeps up on me when I'm alone.

God is still in the process of healing me

 

[Gimpy]

Wow happiness.... that's a thought.

I am happy in moments and can laugh and enjoy life but there is still an underlying sadness that creeps up on me when I'm alone.

God is still in the process of healing me

I know what you mean. I just read one of your posts about how your husband left you and one of the cold, heartless things he conveyed to you. I dont know how familiar you are with my situation, but sort of the same thing happened to me after over 30 years of marriage. It has been over 5 years. I was extremely bitter. I am not so bitter now, but I still walk around feeling, I think, the same way. I do believe God is healing me too.

 

[hope4today]

I know what you mean. I just read one of your posts about how your husband left you and one of the cold, heartless things he conveyed to you. I dont know how familiar you are with my situation, but sort of the same thing happened to me after over 30 years of marriage. It has been over 5 years. I was extremely bitter. I am not so bitter now, but I still walk around feeling, I think, the same way. I do believe God is healing me too.

I don't know much about your story at all but from what you say here I'm really sorry for what you have been through. Wish I could give you a big hug but this will have to do

I know just how painful it is. I also know that God is the great lover and healer. By his grace he has kept my heart soft and I know he is faithful to all of us. He feels our pain and is holding us through it all.

I have seen your kind and honest heart in these forums.

Bless you heaps.

 

[Gimpy]

I don't know much about your story at all but from what you say here I'm really sorry for what you have been through. Wish I could give you a big hug but this will have to do

Thank you. Sometimes a hug in the spirit is just as warm as one in the physical. Know too that my heart goes out to you too.

I know just how painful it is. I also know that God is the great lover and healer. By his grace he has kept my heart soft and I know he is faithful to all of us. He feels our pain and is holding us through it all.
I have seen your kind and honest heart in these forums.

Bless you heaps.

Again, thank you. I know what you mean, without God, I know I would be dead years ago.
God Bless you, too.

 

[Tumbleweed64]

I am so bored and yet I have so much I probably should be doing. I just don't want to do the stuff I should be doing like cleaning, studying, bills, paperwork etc. Instead I'm sitting here wishing there was someone I could chat to online for a while but noone is on my MSN. It's 6.10pm here, far too early to go to bed and yet I'm tired and don't know what to do with myself. I just want the hours to pass so I can legitimately go to bed and sleep. I would love to be out socialising but I'm just sitting here at my computer. Blaahh!! I don't even have the energy or motivation to read. What is going on with me?

The friends I had when I was married are still friends but it is different now. I don't fit the same and I have lost most of my social network. At least when you are married there is someone else around.

oh well that's enough whinging for me. If I keep this up I'll just get myself going down a horrible spiral of depression. Not a good move. Anyone else have nights or days like this?

This is exactly how I felt Sat night Sometimes I get so lonely I cry myself to sleep...I am with you, I just find a single gal my age to do things with, someone who doesn't drink and isn't a "drama queen" !!!

 

[C.F.W. Walther]

I am so bored and yet I have so much I probably should be doing. I just don't want to do the stuff I should be doing like cleaning, studying, bills, paperwork etc. Instead I'm sitting here wishing there was someone I could chat to online for a while but noone is on my MSN. It's 6.10pm here, far too early to go to bed and yet I'm tired and don't know what to do with myself. I just want the hours to pass so I can legitimately go to bed and sleep. I would love to be out socialising but I'm just sitting here at my computer. Blaahh!! I don't even have the energy or motivation to read. What is going on with me?

The friends I had when I was married are still friends but it is different now. I don't fit the same and I have lost most of my social network. At least when you are married there is someone else around.

oh well that's enough whinging for me. If I keep this up I'll just get myself going down a horrible spiral of depression. Not a good move. Anyone else have nights or days like this?

It's the "two as one" syndrome. Two people join as one in God's eyes. Emptiness and slight depression are there if not followed. Now I know I'll probably get flamed for that but............................
Just my 2 cents worth.

 

[porterross]

I am so bored and yet I have so much I probably should be doing. I just don't want to do the stuff I should be doing like cleaning, studying, bills, paperwork etc. Instead I'm sitting here wishing there was someone I could chat to online for a while but noone is on my MSN. It's 6.10pm here, far too early to go to bed and yet I'm tired and don't know what to do with myself. I just want the hours to pass so I can legitimately go to bed and sleep. I would love to be out socialising but I'm just sitting here at my computer. Blaahh!! I don't even have the energy or motivation to read. What is going on with me?

The friends I had when I was married are still friends but it is different now. I don't fit the same and I have lost most of my social network. At least when you are married there is someone else around.

oh well that's enough whinging for me. If I keep this up I'll just get myself going down a horrible spiral of depression. Not a good move. Anyone else have nights or days like this?

Yes. I've been like that for several days now, too. Maybe it's the weather.

 

[hope4today]

It's the "two as one" syndrome. Two people join as one in God's eyes. Emptiness and slight depression are there if not followed. Now I know I'll probably get flamed for that but............................
Just my 2 cents worth.

Hi Radidio,

Sorry but I don't understand what you're getting at so I don't know why you would be flamed.

Maybe you could explain what you mean.

Hope

 

[hope4today]

Yes. I've been like that for several days now, too. Maybe it's the weather.

That's a great theory except I'm in the opposite weather than you

Maybe it's a change in weather

I am trying to learn to draw in to my Father when I am lonely and unmotivated. I know he is teaching me to let him be my lover and friend.

 

[HoosierCanuck]

I am so bored and yet I have so much I probably should be doing. I just don't want to do the stuff I should be doing like cleaning, studying, bills, paperwork etc. Instead I'm sitting here wishing there was someone I could chat to online for a while but noone is on my MSN. It's 6.10pm here, far too early to go to bed and yet I'm tired and don't know what to do with myself. I just want the hours to pass so I can legitimately go to bed and sleep. I would love to be out socialising but I'm just sitting here at my computer. Blaahh!! I don't even have the energy or motivation to read. What is going on with me?

... Anyone else have nights or days like this?

You've just described my life in a nutshell.

 

[Bridgit]

When you feel like that I would suggest that you pick up a good book, or watch an interesting movie, or if you really have to do some chores, do them with the thought that you won't have to do them later.

I hope you're feeling better!

 

[Jenster]

I write out a list of things I need to do. Don't overwhelm yourself by trying to be too "comprehensive." Just put the major things down or the ones that are overdue. I find that I put off a bunch of little niggly things that are easily do-able but I have a mental block toward. Once they're on my list, though, I get a few of them done, check them off, and feel I've made some progress. That's very motivating.

Of course, there are also times when we are genuinely lonely, and that's understandable. We all have those times. If it happens too frequently, though, it could be a sign we need to put more effort into making new friends or keeping in touch with old ones.

 

[ido]

Hope - I don't have any answers for you. I tend to turn into a hermit for the most part when the boys are gone. I have one friend who is over a decade younger than I that I do things with - or I spend time with my sister and her family. I'm starting to put myself out there a bit more, tho - so maybe we can get ideas from each other as to how we can expand our social networks.

I'm praying for you.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

Uhmmm...hope's original post was from May...

 

[ido]

Well, I still mean what I said, but I hope things are better now than they were in May.

 

[Jenster]

Uhmmm...hope's original post was from May...

Yeah, I noticed that, but I had advice I was just itching to give, darnit, even if it *was* seven months too late.