Hello.

[berry2000]

Hi,
I'm Meredith. I've been around here posting mostly on the self harm, and bipolar sections. When I brought up the idea of BPD to my therapist. She said no, she didn't think I had it. But I still do. I totally relate to all those feelings. The black and white thinking, the trouble w/ interpersonal relationships, although I don't have any trouble w/ impulsiveness so my relationships stay intact...the emotional end of it is the same for me. I have the push/pull love hate. But mostly I have extereme identity problems, self esteem issues, and abandoment issues. How could my therapist not see it? Anyways thought it'd be cool to come and hang with you all. It's always nice to find people who understand.

 

[lmarie23]

welcome meredith . I'm bipolar/BPD. I post on here, on the bipolar forum, and on the depression forum sometimes... glad you've come to hang out with us!

Lynne

 

[madison1101]

It could be that you may have a Personality Disorder NOS (Not Otherwise Specified) with Borderline features.

In order to get the BPD official diagnosis, you must have five of the nine criterion. If you are missing one, then the therapist may simply say you are Bipolar with borderline features, or Personality Disorder NOS.

The diagnosis is not as important as the therapy, IMHO. The important thing is to have a good cognitive behavioral therapist who can work with you on the issues that you are dealing with.

Glad you are here.

Hugs,
Trish

 

[Romanseight2005]

It could be that you may have a Personality Disorder NOS (Not Otherwise Specified) with Borderline features.

In order to get the BPD official diagnosis, you must have five of the nine criterion. If you are missing one, then the therapist may simply say you are Bipolar with borderline features, or Personality Disorder NOS.

The diagnosis is not as important as the therapy, IMHO. The important thing is to have a good cognitive behavioral therapist who can work with you on the issues that you are dealing with.

Glad you are here.

Hugs,
Trish

This may not be the right place for this, forgive me if it's not, but, my husband's daughter was kicked out of the army for having bpd. So I looked it up on the internet, and it sounded just like my husband. I read the traits to him, and he said who does that sound like? So my question is, if my husband indeed has this, what do I need to understand about it? What can I do to help him? He has never been officially diagnosed, but he has everything on the list that I saw for it, anyway.

 

[berry2000]

Thank you all for your warm welcome. I have been reading your replies. Funny thing is that I have well over 5 of the criterion. Sometimes i feel like marching into therapy w/ the criterion in hand and say here check off which of these apply and then tell me you don't think I have BPD. But with the stimga and all I figure, why bother. I know i have it.

Romanseight, there are many good books about BPD I'd read up on it so you can be informed. I found once I understood some of the reason I do certain things my husband and I became a little more compassionate in understanding the behaviors, which alone helped to minimize some of the symptoms.

 

[madison1101]

Thank you all for your warm welcome. I have been reading your replies. Funny thing is that I have well over 5 of the criterion. Sometimes i feel like marching into therapy w/ the criterion in hand and say here check off which of these apply and then tell me you don't think I have BPD. But with the stimga and all I figure, why bother. I know i have it.

Romanseight, there are many good books about BPD I'd read up on it so you can be informed. I found once I understood some of the reason I do certain things my husband and I became a little more compassionate in understanding the behaviors, which alone helped to minimize some of the symptoms.

Take the criterion into therapy and do just that. Stigma or not, understanding your diagnosis and having the therapist work with you on it is the best as far as my experience tells me.

I do understand the stigma. In that I am recovered from it, I work in a psychiatric hospital. I would never tell my coworkers my diagnosis, past present or whatever.

 

[berry2000]

I don't know if I could actually do that. Last time i felt feeling lame for implying that I might actually have it and getting shot down and I felt stupid for trying to self diagnosis. She thinks I'm a self help junkie. WEll i suppose there could be worse things to do?