Hello all

[Aces High]

Woah navigating around these forums are tough.

I dont know what im going through, i dont know if its depression or me just being dumb, i was fine until about 8 months ago, i met this girl, and ive fallen for her in such a bad way it makes me cry about it sometimes, i was never like it before, ive tried getting over her(never gone out with her), she only liked me as a friend(we all know that line).

It's not like this is the first time it has happened to me, but this time it is very different, the thought of her haunts me, not in a bad way, but it affects me mentally, when i wake up, i think of her, throughout the day my mind is on her mostly, im always plotting ways to impress her(most fail miserably) and when they do it really puts me down(i bet some can relate to this). Ive tried setting my mind to forgetting about her and getting back my life on track, but ive not managed.

I feel like i cant give up on her, and i have to keep trying to get her, i see a possible very long term relationship with her, whether that will happen or not(doubt it).

Im not here to ask for love help, but rather a way how to get over it all, im sick and tired of it all and i dont know what to do, tried forgetting about her, worked for maybe 3 days and then it all comes back again. It is so bad sometimes it puts me of school work, i tend to get very irritable and have strong urges to attack other guys that flirt with her, and im afraid i might injure some guy soon enough.

HEEELPPP

 

[mariah22]

Hey! I'm sorry you are going trhough this. They are not lying when they say "love hurts". Uhmm I don't really know what to say except try to keep yourself busy and maybe if you can try to not be around her and eventually you will meet someone eles and forget about her. It will take time. You will be okay.

 

[LonelyTraveler]

I'm right there with ya man. I've got someone just like that. On my mind constantly, wondering how she's doing, etc. It sucks, that's for sure. I ain't got much advice, and really all it is is just telling you what WON'T work.

Alcohol - I still thought about her, and with the alcohol in me it was rather difficult to keep the thoughts from leaving the confines of my mind. I let some things slip out when I was talking to her and I really regret it now.

Work - Still thought about her. Got in trouble for using the work computer for "non-work related activities" when I was trying to talk to her.

Driving - Still thought about her. A song would come on the radio and I'd imagine how she'd look dancing to it.

Watching TV or a movie - Still thought about her. Wished that she could be there beside me. I can't even watch G-rated movies because there's always some love sub-plot that makes my mood plunge.

Sleeping pill overdose - Kinda obvious what my intentions were, but it didn't work. I'm still alive, still thinking about her.

She knows, and that's what makes it evern worse. She knows how I feel, yet she chooses to sleep around with guys she barely knows.

So yeah, there's a list of what hasn't worked for me. Maybe something will work for you.

 

[keirberos]

InsaneRecluse—

Hold strong. I think everyone's been where you are, to a degree. Few get as far as you, though... for which I'm sorry, because it must have been painful to get that far, and it will be painful coming back.

Perhaps God is trying to let you know it would not work. Have faith in Him. And, don't limit your interaction with girls to her. Try to open your eyes to others around you— who knows, you could be hurting someone just as much with your indifference as she hurts you. That's... not very kind, I'm sorry, but it is a sobering thought, which tend to work well. Besides, God will have someone for you— be sure you're not ignoring her.

God Bless, and good luck.

 

[inHisgripkim]

Woah navigating around these forums are tough.

I dont know what im going through, i dont know if its depression or me just being dumb, i was fine until about 8 months ago, i met this girl, and ive fallen for her in such a bad way it makes me cry about it sometimes, i was never like it before, ive tried getting over her(never gone out with her), she only liked me as a friend(we all know that line).

It's not like this is the first time it has happened to me, but this time it is very different, the thought of her haunts me, not in a bad way, but it affects me mentally, when i wake up, i think of her, throughout the day my mind is on her mostly, im always plotting ways to impress her(most fail miserably) and when they do it really puts me down(i bet some can relate to this). Ive tried setting my mind to forgetting about her and getting back my life on track, but ive not managed.

I feel like i cant give up on her, and i have to keep trying to get her, i see a possible very long term relationship with her, whether that will happen or not(doubt it).

Im not here to ask for love help, but rather a way how to get over it all, im sick and tired of it all and i dont know what to do, tried forgetting about her, worked for maybe 3 days and then it all comes back again. It is so bad sometimes it puts me of school work, i tend to get very irritable and have strong urges to attack other guys that flirt with her, and im afraid i might injure some guy soon enough.

HEEELPPP

Unconditional Love:

Many of us cannot sit with love because when we love and care about someone in a romantic sense, we tend to emotionally cling at the beginning. Clinging isn't unconditional. I don't know why we cling to things of this world but we do. Especially romantic thoughts of loving someone.


I have been in love with a man for 10 years. We are friends for that is all it can ever be. He is on my mind 24 hours, 7 days of the week. When I realized my feelings years back. Initially I wanted to cling, but I held on to God and knew I needed to love unconditionally and without clinging. When we love someone, truly love someone, we accept any type of love they have to offer, even if it is friendship. We can love someone and be friends with them though the love is romantic. True love doesn't cling. We learn to love and we learn to live with those emotions to a point that they do not hurt us but give us pleasure.

I love this man with all my heart. It does not hurt me that we can only be friends. He is on my mind and in my heart, and touches my soul. I feel no hurt when the emotions of love are stirred up. I rejoice in the feeling now. Here is a lesson.

This is how we should love God. He should be on our minds all day. We should feel Him in our heart and soul constantly. We should feel the love emotion for God and we should rejoice in that love, that feeling, that emotion.

God has given you a gift to feel what love is and how you should love Him. You can love this woman any way that God will's it to be. True love accepts.

Enjoy having her spirit with you in your thoughts. She is with you though she is not. Enjoy that. That is love.

That is also how God wants you to love him.
True love does not hurt. True love does not cling.

Be yourself. Do not try to be anything other than what you are at this very moment. This is how God made you. Do not try to impress. Be yourself. Continue to love, but continue on with your life. Do not let emotions rule your actions. You have rule over your emotions and actions. You have self control, one of the fruits of the Spirit that God has given us.

Clinging scares people away. Do not cling. Let things be. Sometimes when we set things free, they come back to us. Clinging prevents that from happening.

Love unconditionally
Love God

lol kim