Heaven or Hell??

[secretx]

hello, I am just wondering if you could answer my question. (not sure if this is allowed, if it isn't, someone can delete it or whatever)


Well, let me begin by saying that I self-injure... I have for several years.

My question is, does anyone think someone who does this will go to Hell??

My reason for asking is because whenever my mom finds out that I've done one, she screams at me, says she hates me, and that I will go to Hell for this, that there is NO way I can redeem myself in God's eyes ever.

I really don't want to tell her anymore, because I have been threatened with being kicked out and her never talking to me again.


Thanks, advice greatly appreciated

 

[tapero]

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[Finn88]

No I dont think so!

Im really sorry that your mum reacts that way, it must be horrible! but remember it must be really hard for her to see her daughter harm herself like that!

Yeah, SI is a sin, it grieves God to see us hurt ourselves because he is our father! he loves us and wants what is best for us (the same as...in fact MORE than your mother!) but ALL sin is the same in his eyes!!!

Jesus died to pay for our sins past, present and future! so you're covered by his death and ressurection! he went to hell and back...litteraly, so that you DONT have to! Nobody is perfect but God knows your heart! SI is difficult to quit, so you might need to repent a good few times of it as you work it out, but its ok, he'll work it through with you!!! He's there for you, he promises never to leave you or forsake you!

"for God so loved secretx that he gave his only son, that if only she belives in him, she SHALL NOT die, but have eternal life!!!" thats is all that he reqiures of you! just love him, talk to him, walk with him, and he'll help you through it and no, you wont go to hell!

Finnxx

 

[pockleberry]

Hey my counsellor and I were talking about something similar today and I thought it would help to tell you what she said...as humans we tend to put grades on things like this sin is worse than another sin, but God isn't like that to him sin is sin and it's all the same. Jesus died so that you could be forgiven and that includes self harm, just in case someone brings it up with me I'm not saying that self harm is ok but it is forgiveable

 

[berry2000]

No i don't think you will go to hell for self injury. The Bible says there is only one sin that is unforgivable and that is to greive the holy spirit. So as I understand it God will forgive you...that being said I have also come to believe it is a sin ie against God's will that we harm any of his chosen precious children (even ourselves).

 

[cinnabunch]

I think God knows that you do it because your heart is hurting and I think the SI is like the outside scar of the inside pain.

Since your mother isn't helping you, you need to find someone who will She obviously isn't helping you. She is probably scared and confused and thinking that if she says those things to you it will frighten you into stopping. She doesn't understand the problem, nor does she seem to want to.

I do suggest you talking to someone about it. You have made a positive step in talking here. That is awesome!

blessings
cindy

 

[meh]

To put it simply, I cannot tell you how wrong I think your mother is. Jesus knows all your struggles and all your pains. I don't believe he judges us when we are in this torment; I believe He only wants to comfort and bring us out of it. I pray that you have someone else besides your mom to talk to- like a counselor or a pastor or youth leader or good friend. You are welcome to PM me if you ever need to talk. You are in my prayers.

 

[Soulwings]

I, too, believe that your mum is wrong. As previously stated ... all sin is sin in God's eyes. Yes, SI is a sin, because once you've become a Christian, you've given your body to God as a temple - literally, because His Holy Spirit lives in you - in your heart, if you will. You are to use that body to serve Him, and it hurts Him to see you hurt it. But He understands why you do it ... however, once you know and acknowledge that it's a wrong behavior, it's something that you need to repent of. And that forgiveness is something that He will grant - this is the beauty of God's grace!! Self injury isn't unpardonable. God will help heal you from the pain that you're going through - not saying that you shouldn't see a counselor/pastor about it, though, because they both can help you on the path to recovery.

My fiance and I had long discussions on this - I'm an SI'er as well - so this is what he has made me understand.

I'm here if you need to talk. Take care of yourself.

 

[coolchicka]

Thats not true all you have to do is ask for forgiveness and try your hardest not to do it again.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

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[ChristInAction]

I know how it is. When my mum found out. She just kept saying how stupid I was. I didnt have it that bad. Stop it. Then she wouldnt talk to me for a month. Then forgot about it all. Hide your cuts from her.
Like everyone else said. She shouldnt treat you like that.
Your not going to hell. Jesus died so that we can be saved. "by His wounds, we are healed" I like that verse. It reminds me that I dont have to hurt my self. Jesus took all that for me.
Sometimes it helps me, sometimes nothing will.
If you need a friend or someone to vent to. I'm always here. I know what its all like.
Prayers.
xox

 

[jesusfreak220]

If our works can't get us to heaven, how could it get us to hell? The only way to Heaven is through the Son and if you have Him and you trust in Him as the Savior of the world and you've repented of your sins, it doesn't matter what you do. You'll still go to Heaven. That being said, it doesn't give us free rein to sin as we please. Because we're grateful and because we love Him, we want to please Him and to please Him, we obey Him. Just because you SI does not mean you're going to Hell.