He almost left me stranded!1!

[LovebirdsFlying]

Some people are actually addicted to the drama. That isn't because they're in a bid for attention. It's because there is an adrenaline rush associated with it. Some people mistake that feeling for the excitement of being in love, and that's when the more normal and healthy relationships appear "boring" by comparison. It's like, "I'm sorry. You're a nice guy, but I'm just not getting butterflies in my stomach." When some men complain about how the nice ones finish last, they've got a point. I've learned the hard way, to heck with those butterflies. They're overrated.

Howdo, everyone in this thread is pretty much unanimous in advising you to get out of there while you still can. Either you listen or you don't, but that's in your control and nobody else's. I hope you do listen. I don't know what other advice anyone could possibly give you.

 

[HondaMan]

I grab him. Hug him. And I play right into it.

Huuuuh?

 

[KWCrazy]

Get out now. Nothing between you will get better once you're married. It will only get worse. He clearly doesn't trust or respect you.

And next time, stop playing house with someone to whom you aren't married. This diminishes you in his eyes and displeases the Lord.

 

[Rick Otto]

Some people are actually addicted to the drama. That isn't because they're in a bid for attention. It's because there is an adrenaline rush associated with it. Some people mistake that feeling for the excitement of being in love, and that's when the more normal and healthy relationships appear "boring" by comparison. It's like, "I'm sorry. You're a nice guy, but I'm just not getting butterflies in my stomach." When some men complain about how the nice ones finish last, they've got a point. I've learned the hard way, to heck with those butterflies. They're overrated.

Howdo, everyone in this thread is pretty much unanimous in advising you to get out of there while you still can. Either you listen or you don't, but that's in your control and nobody else's. I hope you do listen. I don't know what other advice anyone could possibly give you.

Yes.
I'm beginning to suspect drama addiction is at work here.

 

[LaSorcia]

And so I tire of all of this.
Get real or get ignored.
You act like you are addicted to self destructive drama.
Run for your life or or start selling ads.

Speak the truth, yes. But speak the truth with love.

 

[Swan7]

I do believe that is called tough love. Sometimes we need it.

I wonder if she'll ever talk to that attorney.... before everything goes well... goes downhill. I feel very sorry for the son that has to hear all of this nonsense. I hope he doesn't develop this habit of mistreating people. Kids are always the biggest concern for me.
I can't have any, but I have 4 nephews to spoil

 

[Dave-W]

minime555, (your handle over at gracecentered) you are getting the same advice. Leave and leave now. Do not get married. Do not sign any "commonlaw" papers.

http://www.gracecentered.com/christian_forums/christian-marriage-forum/he-almost-left-me-stranded!/

 

[mina]

^ good find! Interesting to note that she claims to have a daughter on that site, instead of a son. Anyways, this is her: http://www.christianforums.com/threads/considered-reconciling-discovered-im-pregnant.7891152/

and this: http://www.christianforums.com/threads/what-would-you-do-with-this.7843673/

I'm sure there were several other threads started by her with different user names about the same bizarre situation. Either she's the trollest troll that ever trolled or (if it's real) she is a person severely incapable of making good choices. I shudder to think what became of the baby, if it existed.

IF she's real, she needs to leave this clown, stay single, get good intense counseling to understand why she makes the choices she does, and focus her time and energy on the son or daughter.

 

[Dave-W]

I wonder now if the whole bizarre mess is made up.

 

[howdoitknow2]

no. It is all unfortunately real. The problem is i couldn't post new messages after a certain point. I think the site blocked me. I kept returning because I need help and anonymous feedback.

As for the baby, I had a miscarriage.

I wonder now if the whole bizarre mess is made up.

 

[Dave-W]

So - you claim to have no child?

 

[Dave-W]

So assuming this is true; I must echo the words of my cyber- friend ChosenOne - a moderator over at Grace Centered:

"How many more times will you come here with another new name and be told to leave this awful, controlling, manipulative, paranoid, immoral and evil man and do nothing? You have been told what will happen over and over, and you ignore it time and time again. You know what you need to do so go and do it. Leave him today or your whole life will be miserable and desperately unhappy. Leave him and leave the area and cut off all communication before you get further into his spiders web.
YOU ARE WARNED YET AGAIN.

If you marry him your life will get even worse."

 

[mina]

Seriously, every person on both sites have given you the same good advice over and over and over and over again - at each stage of your bizarre tale. Either you follow the advice or you don't. and you clearly don't; so why try to seek out people's opinions? You are just going to do what you want anyway. Your poor kid.

 

[howdoitknow2]

I am moving forward this week. I found an apartment near my son and I am going to quietly leave when I have all set up.

I need a place to live and I'm trying to prepare for leaving.

He keeps telling me that if I want to leave I need to just tell him and he won't freak out. He will "help" me and give me some money for the transisition. But, I don't know if I can trust that.

Seriously, every person on both sites have given you the same good advice over and over and over and over again - at each stage of your bizarre tale. Either you follow the advice or you don't. and you clearly don't; so why try to seek out people's opinions? You are just going to do what you want anyway. Your poor kid.

 

[mina]

How old are you? Please get counseling.

 

[howdoitknow2]

I am 40.

 

[ValleyGal]

Oh, wow, seriously... this goes all the way back to your ex, who you also claimed was abusive, you were a public figure, etc. Either you thrive on drama, or you really seriously need counselling. Pack your bags and go to the nearest women's shelter and get yourself the counselling you desperately need to find out why you choose abusive men and feel the need to hop from one abusive man to another before one is even done....moving in with them before marrying, etc.

Once you are out and getting counselling, you might also look for a mentor who will lead you to Jesus.

 

[LovebirdsFlying]

MOD HAT ON

I'm going to have to close this thread for review.

MOD HAT OFF
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