having a roommate that is not a believer

[faithandglory]

I have a delima: one of my best friends that is also my roommate does not believe in God. well I won't say she does not believe in God but whe does not want to live saved. she was there before I got saved and not that I am saved I ahve changed majorly!!!

I do not do the same things that I use to and this thing is difficuly.

I can't get her to go to church and we had a converstion about going to heaven

she seems to think that because she has not done anything like kill someone or something big like that she can still go to heaven.

I do not know what to do. I try to live right before her and everything but there are times that I fall short. there are times that I get so mad that I cuss people out and I still smoke (butI am trying to stop that)

I do not have sex, I go to church, I get up most mornings for the 5 am prayer line and everything that the Bible tells me that I should do as a christian.

how am I suppose to deal with having her as a friend and live with her?

can anyone help me with that?????

 

[breatheprayer]

I've had a similar experience with my mom. She was a party animal, and I was a Christian. We had virtually nothing in common. She drank and hung around people that did the same things. We didn't have much to talk about.
She was to the point that she didn't even want me to say anything about God in our conversations. I continued to pray, and pray I did for about 10 years.
For many years, I felt 'responsible' to get her saved. Finally about a year ago, the Lord showed me that it wasn't totally my responsibility to get her to be a Christian and that true love is shown through actions rather than words. So I followed the Lord's lead and stopped talking about it, and showed her love through actions like being there for someone to talk to, be with her through surgeries, send her notes of encouragement, etc. I was there to plant a seed. For the seed to grow, that was up to the Lord.
Praise God! About a month ago, she called me and said she had been fighting the urge to have a relationship with God for a long time, and she began going to church! Now we have a lot to talk about!
I know it hurts deeply when someone you care about is not in a personal relationship with Jesus. You will see some positive things from them from time to time, then it will seem as if they take three steps backward.
I cannot stress it enough to pray for your roommate! He hears our prayers! He heard my prayers for my unsaved mother AND sister, and He hears yours, too.
God Bless You...The angels in heaven are rejoicing over your new life with Christ!
PS- I was a heavy smoker for 15 years. My husband and I both prayed (for a couple of years) that I would quit and not desire to smoke anymore. One year ago this month, He took that desire away from me. Now I can't get through a cigarette without gagging (needless to say, I quit)! Even though you smoke, don't think that you are any less of a Christian. Pray about it, and He will take that desire away. God is a God that takes us and loves us just the way we are.

 

[Chopinzee]

Here is what ChrisBot would say:

Interesting. I have a lot of answers to silly questions. delima one of his or her best friends that is his or her roommate does not believe in GodInteresting info: You said won't say she does not believe in God but whe does not want to live saved. What happened to her?Oh you don't, do you? Do you mind if I tell other people: You said can't get her to go to church and we had a converstion about going to heavenshe seems to think that because she has not done anything like kill someone or something big like that she can go to heaven. Try watching TV.I'm not sure if I would like to try to live right her and everything but there are times that he or she fall short. What's it like?Try to be less subjective.What is it to you.

Have you tried asking God?Suppose they do.

 

[bethdinsmore]

amen to breathprayer's post. They will know we are Christians by our love.

I know this isn't about roommates (and that we don't have to submit to them), but here is an encouraging verse:

1 Pet 3:1-2
1 Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,
2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.
(NIV)

and also, in preparation for the future:
1 Pet 3:15
15 But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect,
(NIV)

It wouldn't hurt to have a gospel tract or a marked Bible around for her to find. Not in an obvious place, but you could pray that she would find it at the right time. I've seen that prayer answered before.

I'll pray for you both, friend. I'm sure this is a very hard situation to be in.

Aloha in Jesus

 

[Living Soul Dance]

Remeber that is not You who can save your roomate.

Only Jesus can Save Us! ​

Remeber that you can not deliver yourself from the bad habits of cursing & smoking.
​

Only Jesus can do that!​

Only through the Holy Spirit can we recieve deliverance.
And only the Holy Spirit can open up your roomates heart, so that she can recieve the revelation of who Christ is.

The best thing you can do, is what you are already doing. Praying!

Just keep on praying & do your best to walk in love.
As God begins to change you, your roomate will witness the changes.
Then she will wonder what in the world has happen to you.

She'll say, "You stopped Smoking & Cussing. Why & how?"
That will be your chance to witness to her.

Your roomate needs to see the mircles of God working in your life and as long as you keep praying, they will.

Then your roomate will give God her heart.

Work out your on salvation and God will save your roomate!

God Bless,
Youth Minister Richelle

 

[faithandglory]

thanks guys. and minister Richelle I will try to do that. I pray for her often but sometimes I get discouraged and give up praying for people that I do not see change with. but I have to not give up hope on them because God did not give up hope on me!!!!

but I guess that if I change more in visible ways that she can see it would help.

 

[Godslilgurlalways]

Amen

 

[OkieNikki]

You know, sometimes God places non-Christians in a Christian's life & we think "Whoa is me! Why did God put a non-Christian in my life?" Actually, that's the best place for them to hear the truth & the gospel. We are NOT to love them to hell or simply avoid them, but rather they're placed in our lives for a reason. Yes, God could've put you w/ a Christian set of parents, but MAYBE just MAYBE God wants to use you to witness to her.

 

[simpleheart123]

i have a roommate who is Hindu. at our university, it is required that we take a bible course. right now, she is taking the new testament and she is having a hard time understanding the language and the concepts, so i'm helping her with that. i totally feel for her having to jump into this text being of a different religion. in return, she's taught me alot about Hinduism and some of the stuff is really quite interesting. while i don't believe in what she believes and vice versa, i respect her religion and do not try to change that. i don't agree with pushing my religion on anybody because i would not want them doing it to me just because they believe they are right.

not that that's what you're doing but i guess my point is: don't sweat it if your friend hasn't come to God yet. just pray for her well-being and don't let it getcha down. i'm sure she knows better, just chooses not to listen. maybe in due time she will let Jesus into her heart. but it certainly won't be your fault if she doesn't.

God Bless you sweetie!

 

[Godslilgurlalways]

you might be the person that talks to her and God might use you to tlak to her and her end up giving her life to the Lord. While you are there your need to stay in prayer about her andask God to cover you with his blood.Pray to God and ask him what to do never can go wrong with God God bless

 

[ChrisinMI]

I've had a similar experience with my mom. She was a party animal, and I was a Christian. We had virtually nothing in common. She drank and hung around people that did the same things. We didn't have much to talk about.
She was to the point that she didn't even want me to say anything about God in our conversations. I continued to pray, and pray I did for about 10 years.
For many years, I felt 'responsible' to get her saved. Finally about a year ago, the Lord showed me that it wasn't totally my responsibility to get her to be a Christian and that true love is shown through actions rather than words. So I followed the Lord's lead and stopped talking about it, and showed her love through actions like being there for someone to talk to, be with her through surgeries, send her notes of encouragement, etc. I was there to plant a seed. For the seed to grow, that was up to the Lord.
Praise God! About a month ago, she called me and said she had been fighting the urge to have a relationship with God for a long time, and she began going to church! Now we have a lot to talk about!
I know it hurts deeply when someone you care about is not in a personal relationship with Jesus. You will see some positive things from them from time to time, then it will seem as if they take three steps backward.

This is almost exactly what happened with me and my Mom! Isn't God Good? He is working even when we don't see it.

Pray for her! Pray faithfully! God's will be done!