Having a "Icky" Morning

[PrairieGurl]

Couldn"t sleep last night. My 17 year old was out at a party. He was drinking (as he told me he would be picking up a micky (don't know the spelling) of vodka and some orange juice. The phone rang at 3am. Didn't get to it on time and the phone # was unlisted. He came home around 4:30 am. He's still sleeping and I'm sure he will till mid afternoon.

The pdoc, addictions counselor, and GP all say to take care of myself, get stabalized. I'm barely holding up and it feels like both our sons take advantage of that.
Thanks for letting me share.

 

[spdnet75]

WantToBe, I know nothing about parenting, but I was 17 once and I understand the difficulties you feel with your illness.

One thing to bear in mind is that your boys are going to do certain things whether you like it or not.

I am wondering if you might make an impact with them if you lay your dificulties, heartache and worry out on the table for them to see. Letting them understand that you are battling your own problems as well as trying to look out for their well being, might cause them to think. Also, letting them know that you care and offering them the opportunity to call you when they need a ride or any other help, might make both sides feel more safe.

I wish for you and your family the best. God bless.

 

[PrairieGurl]

Thanks Spdnet75,

I have tried both your suggestions. The 17 year old says it doesn't matter as he is old enough to make his own decissions and my health has nothing to do with him (which of course is false as it affects the whole family). Of course most teens don't want to listen to their parents as they "know everything about life '
In your opinion should I explain again?

I guess I just lay him at the foot of the Cross.

Thanks again

 

[goldenviolet]

yes, lay him at the foot of the Cross.

my oldest son decided to do stuff like this. two years of this or that and now he's settingling down some. he learns the hard way. you just have to remember it's not your fault. it's just a part of life for him and the Lord.


you are the seed, Christ is the Savior.

 

[lemonflavor]

Lay him at the foot of the Cross and then get the belt out.

 

[Alive again]

Praying for you and for him!!! I have a son who did similiar things, 20 now and still at it some, but he was also bp and refusing to take his meds. So I understand the very difficult times you are going through. pm me anytime!

 

[PrairieGurl]

Lay him at the foot of the Cross and then get the belt out.

Lemonflavor how do I get the belt out on a 6 foot, large boy???? I'm only 5'5'' :-(