Have you learned something out of rejection?

[Not David]

I would be interesting in hearing stories about you pursuing someone but not ending in a relationship and things you learned from it.

 

[Not David]

I have learned a lot of stuff but one I know is avoiding acting needy.

 

[brinny]

Excellent, soul-searching question. It's one of those "gems" that if we delve into, we can be richly blessed, as well as "grow" from. Pain (even the most excruciating kind) always does that, if we are courageous and daring enough to explore that searing pain.

Yet that very pain, learned from, is what develops us into that "pottery", that "vessel", that God can truly use.

 

[SarahsKnight]

I guess I had learned that love need not necessarily be two-sided in order to be "real", when I was politely turned away.

 

[Not David]

I guess I had learned that love need not necessarily be two-sided in order to be "real", when I was politely turned away.

Can you explain what you mean by "real"?

 

[SarahsKnight]

Can you explain what you mean by "real"?

Well I mean, I have just heard in my time (as a kid, mostly) from others who conveniently already had someone, that you can never truly say you love someone unless they returned it and you were actually in a relationship with them. Otherwise most tend to see your feelings for someone as just meaningless pining or something. I am sure that is true in some cases, but not all.

 

[MehGuy]

Its not as fun rejecting someone as I used to imagine. As far as those who reject me, I guess pure anger. If its height related or something.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

I learned that interest can not be negotiated. That you must become the type of person you want to be with. The importance of having good character and looking for the same in your partner. To not take rejection personal because the person who rejected you can't control who they are interested in. I also think rejection leads to self reflection of who you are and you learn a lot about yourself. A lot of it is painful but necessary and you can take two paths when faced with rejection. Either take responsibility for it and do something about it by improving yourself, or blame people and say how superficial they are and how much of a victim of circumstance you are. Clearly only one of those paths can lead to you having a successful relationship. I also learned to love and accept people regardless if they are interested in me or not I believe all will work out in the end and I focus on increasing the energy in people, in the world and not taking it. I no longer think about what this person can do for me but what can I do for them.

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

What I've learned out of rejection is God's mercy and reminder that His timing for "the one" is in His timetable; not mine.

 

[com7fy8]

For a while I could fear being rejected. But now if I know a lady is a really Christian lady, I trust her; and because I trust her and love her, I welcome her to prayerfully evaluate what is right for us. Plus, I am expecting her to be guided by God; so I am trusting God to decide how He pleases to guide her.

Now I can look back to how maybe I was more selfish and getting rejected, and it seems the ones who rejected me also were not so great. While I was selfish more, my ability to evaluate was not so great!

But now, I benefit from knowing any really Christian lady; so I have love with various women who are good for me.

 

[Pavel Mosko]

I would be interesting in hearing stories about you pursuing someone but not ending in a relationship and things you learned from it.

I came into Eastern Christianity because of a crush on an EO girl, the daughter or a priest no less.
The girl was a bad match for me, and I realized early I didn't have a shot with her, but nevertheless the whole experience was good and for the best.

 

[Sketcher]

That I can't trust my own interpretation of how a female acts towards me.

That strong infatuation completely derails my judgement, and that is always harmful.

That I can't do what comes naturally and expect success.

 

[timewerx]

I learned to appreciate rock music.

 

[Sir Robbins]

I learned it's just better to be alone. Frustration and pain are absent for most of the time alone while it would be present a lot if I were paired