Have you ever...

[Living4Him03]

Have you ever developed a friendship with someone and didn't really know you liked them romantically, until something happened that made you realize you have romantic feelings for them? I know it sounds funny, but sometimes I don't realize I have those kind of feelings for a guy until something happens and I realize that I really do like them! Does that make sense?

 

[invisiblebabe]

Yep, I totally hear ya.

Junior year in high school, I was friends with a guy. He and I worked retail together, and for about a month we'd talk and joke around whenever we'd be in adjacent departments. He was soft-spoken but friendly and personable, Christian in name and in the way he treated people, and an all-around great guy. I didn't really see him that way though; he just wasn't my type. We hit it off really well though.

One day, he came in to pick up his paycheck and he was just leaning on the fitting room desk talking to me, staying longer than the obligatory two minutes you took to get your check and sign the payroll. Out of nowhere, I thought, Wow, he's cute!

But alas, he had a girlfriend. So nothing ever came of the attraction, though we did become good friends over that year.

 

[Xen_Antares]

Oh yeah it makes sense, something happens that makes you look at them in a different light. Happens all the time, well not to me, but you know what I mean. Reba McEntire did a song like that, the video showed people who see eachother everyday, they pass eachother on the street or the waitress at the cafe and something happens where they bump into eachother quite literally or the waitress spills coffee on the guys lap and they get eachother attention (of course having coffee spilled on your lap will get your attention).

 

[TriptychR]

I think that's the way it should most often work. I would like to be good friends with someone before I realized that I might love them. That doesn't seem to be the case with a lot of other people, though.

 

[chickenfeet]

yea..

i've only fallen for one guy in my life. and he was my best friend. the timing was all wrong and it didnt end out working. but i also believe in friends first. its more meaningful and fulfilling.

 

[PurpleBunny]

Have you ever developed a friendship with someone and didn't really know you liked them romantically, until something happened that made you realize you have romantic feelings for them? I know it sounds funny, but sometimes I don't realize I have those kind of feelings for a guy until something happens and I realize that I really do like them! Does that make sense?

Hehe... that is the story of my life. When I was single, that happened to me with almost every guy I was friends with.

 

[invisiblebabe]

I think that's the way it should most often work. I would like to be good friends with someone before I realized that I might love them. That doesn't seem to be the case with a lot of other people, though.

I guess it typically doesn't work this way with me because I have a very clear idea of what I want in a future spouse, and some attributes (esp. intellectual and personality quirks) are very rare. So, if I find someone who meets what I know could very likely be compatible with me, and I am attracted to him, chances are, I will realize very quickly that the potential for love exists.

 

[Living4Him03]

What about being attracted to that person, but thinking that because you are so comfortable around them or in talking to them that you must not like them, then discovering you probably like them more than you thought? lol

 

[TriptychR]

I guess it typically doesn't work this way with me because I have a very clear idea of what I want in a future spouse, and some attributes (esp. intellectual and personality quirks) are very rare. So, if I find someone who meets what I know could very likely be compatible with me, and I am attracted to him, chances are, I will realize very quickly that the potential for love exists.

True, but how do you know if they have those quirks unless you take the time to get to know them? Just how quick is quick?

 

[Tuffguy]

No, i haven't had that happen to me. But it did happen to the girl that i'm currently seeing. She saw me with another girl (just a friend) and got really jealous. She then asked herself,,,wait,, why am i jealous,, i'm not dating him.
Course, i got wind of this through another friend, and by next week we where dating.

 

[Sinless_angels]

hey that just happened to me last week haha - with my next door neighbour of all people. I used to think he was a real jerk but since i have been hangin out with him again ive learnt alot about him that i had no idea about ae. Then he told me he liked me and then i realizes i did really like him. It came as a bit of a shock to me haha.

 

[renaistre]

Yup, that has happened to me. There was this one girl I started getting to know from church, and she was just someone I could talk with a little easier than most other girls. But it was never anything deeper than that. Then I found out that my sister thought I liked her, and I realized that I did and didn't know it. Nothing ever came of it, but it was an interesting experience.

 

[waterbear]

Have you ever developed a friendship with someone and didn't really know you liked them romantically, until something happened that made you realize you have romantic feelings for them? I know it sounds funny, but sometimes I don't realize I have those kind of feelings for a guy until something happens and I realize that I really do like them! Does that make sense?

No, I'm aware given a select amount of information (which I get pretty early on) whether I'm romantically interested or not.

 

[Singing Bush]

Have you ever developed a friendship with someone and didn't really know you liked them romantically, until something happened that made you realize you have romantic feelings for them?

More or less yes. Latter half of high school I developed a good friendship w/ someone I had known only superficially from church after she changed to my school. While I noticed she was a very attractive girl and that we got along rather well, I was waaaay too preoccupied w/ another friend of mine that I had been swooning over before my other friend and I's friendship had ever really developed. Plus, she was usually dating some guy most the time anyway, so that further inhibited me from every giving her any consideration in such a way. Once I started college though I realized how blind I had been. We actually did try a long-distance relationship of sorts, but eh, she didn't know what she wanted and I'm pretty sure it aint me. I bet she's gay.

Actually, as an addendum, I think this phenomenon only really occurs when I got it really badly for another girl and so am rather distracted/tunnel visioned. Needless to say, it has only occurred once.