Harder Than I Thought

[Tariel]

Ok...I just moved into the college dorms...yesterday But I found that I am missing my fifteen year old brother tremendously (I don't have this problem with my three younger sisters). Anybody have any suggestions for either him or me on how to deal with this??

 

[CrusaderKing]

When you move away from home, one of the first things you miss was the old routine with family. I know it really helped me realize how important my relationship with my parents was because they were now no longer always there for conversation. I try to visit them as often as possible, which is pretty difficult considering I live in a different state.

What I do suggest is keeping the lines of communication open. I try to at least call them once a week. Even if there is nothing particularly Earth shattering occuring, it's still a good idea. If you can visit, it's not a bad idea even if it's just to wash clothes.

 

[septemberskies]

When i first left home i was 16 years old and i went away to a vocational school. I missed my family terribly. I remember when my parents first kissed me goodbye and left i felt so empty... almost like they were abandoning me even though in reality i was leaving them lol. I called everyday sometimes several times a day to talk about really nothing. The second week, I did volunteering in the cafeteria to occupy my time and keep away the loneliness.

After about a month, i was settled into the routine of classes and living in the dorms. Shortly there after I made a ton of friends so I was always doing something.

I guess this all sums up to it's going to take time. Call often but not too often... you have to adjust to being on your own. And if able to, visit your family on a weekend sometime. Get involve with activities too!

*hugs* the homesickness goes away i can assure you.

 

[servant4ever]

Ok...I just moved into the college dorms...yesterday But I found that I am missing my fifteen year old brother tremendously (I don't have this problem with my three younger sisters). Anybody have any suggestions for either him or me on how to deal with this??

I am an independent person, but when I moved into the college dorms, the first week I was like crying because I missed my family. I have adjusted and now living alone by myself and going to grad school! You will get ajusted to college, and it's only been a few days. Try calling them on the phone just to talk, email them, chat with them on IM, etc.

servant4ever

 

[Doubledb]

When i went to undergraduate college i was a little nervous but had a roomate and began having a great time. Through the years i have gottne closer with my family and once i graduated i thoght i was going to stay in my town. Well, later i found a seminary but it was 8 hrs away. It was hard for me last spring - and this fall to be away from them and tell them bye. Part of me knows i have to go away, that it will teach me dependence on God and all c- but another part of me hates having to go away, having to leave my family like society says i should to be alone.. to be by myself. I am independent and an introvert but i dont like being ALONE - i just like only having a few friends. But i beleve God has a plan for me - that he uses these oppurtunities to grow me and make me stronger. In my weakness he is strong - i find this true-er every day

God bless,

Daniel (doubledb)

 

[Tariel]

Yeah...I've met a ton of people, and made a handful of friends...and I think I'm doing better now. There's no way to visit except for things like Thanksgiving. I live 11 hours away from my school

 

[Doubledb]

Yeah...I've met a ton of people, and made a handful of friends...and I think I'm doing better now. There's no way to visit except for things like Thanksgiving. I live 11 hours away from my school

yeah, anything more than 3 or 4 hours is a bit much to be able to visit a lot. It sucks being 8 hours away cause i will have to wait till thanksgiving as well

ha ha.. i love these little icons.

- Daniel (doubledb)

 

[septemberskies]

I'm glad you're feeling better

 

[wiggbuggie]

your 17 and done with high school and live in a dorm right now?

 

[ZACTAK]

Wow... how I feel for you.

I have been at a loss lately to really know what to do. I am in my fifth year of college, but only going into my third year away from home. I chose Missouri State, because I am able to go home on some weekends if I so choose to.... it is only three hours away. My problem now is that my parents moved to Pennsylvania and I now live 13 hours away from them.

When I lived 3 hours away, I came home about every two months to visit... but now I will be lucky to see my parents two or three times a year. I have really felt abandoned lately, and not sure where God wants me to be.

 

[Tariel]

your 17 and done with high school and live in a dorm right now?

yes...is there a problem with that?

 

[Asherz]

your 17 and done with high school and live in a dorm right now?

A lot of people have birthdays later in the year or graduate a year early. They can't just stay home with mom and dad for a whole year and do nothing.

 

[redinfinity]

It gets better with time. What you can do right now is go out and get involved with something. Go out, meet some new friends, go do stuff! It will make things a bit easier.

-Francis

 

[lovesbrightpink]

Missing people when you move away is hard but it helps you focus on you and school. Just look forward to the good times that you will have. Eventually plan a nice day for him to come visit you alone if he can. Show him what your life is like. That way you can make memories where you are and not just where you came from. Hopefully this helps.

 

[lovesbrightpink]

I was 17 when I went into the dorms. I found that I didnt enjoy it because I was too mature for it. Age has nothing to do with it.