Hard to be Alone

[WhiteRain]

Hi All,

I'm fairly new to these forums, but just reading the posts here have already helped me a lot. It is a relief and blessing to know there are people out there going through the exact same things, and also praying for each other!

I have a prayer request - it's kind of silly I guess, but one I've been wanting to submit...It's about friends.
I've always found it hard to have a lasting friendship, because my Dad was in the army and we moved a lot. But I still always managed to have a few while in school. Last year, I graduated College and left school for good (or at least a long while). Now I've got a good job and settled into a routine, but it's very hard to find anyone who could be a true friend. I'm finding it very hard to find people my age who both share my values and are close enough to build a friendship with. The people at my Parish are either younger or older than me, and the people I know from work who are my age just want to go out and drink (and do *other* things...). Maybe I'm just whining, but it's really hard not to have someone to go out with or talk to in my daily life. I feel very alone...

I'd appreciate any prayers or advice you can give me. I've tried hard, but perhaps my depression is scaring people away too?

 

[TimmyPage]

Rainchild, don't feel alone. Even if the people in your Church are a different age than you, you still have someone in them. I know exactly what you mean about people your age just want to go out and do.. all forms of immorality. True friends will come at you when you least expect it, just when you need it. Maybe go out for a drink with your workers, even if you don't drink, you might by chance meet someone true there.

If nothing else.. don't give up your values, ever. The friends you gain without your true values will not be true friends. Sorry, it's all the advice I can offer at the moment.

 

[lovesbrightpink]

i feel the exact way.every day i havnt talked to friends in months.

 

[AWorkInProgress]

Tell your father I thank him for his service. Sorry to hear about moving about thou.

Well sister your definately not alone. Just turned to god, and still struggling to meet new friends who have same faith. Joining the men's minstry but so far not much luck. Thankfully I have atleast this forum to meet other christians.

 

[UnitynLove]

believe there are two vital steps anyone wishing to overcome loneliness must take:

• Know that God is with you all the time. In the Bible, God reminds us that He is always with us...that He'll never forsake us. Loneliness often leads us into asking ourselves all sorts of questions that can't be answered, such as: "What if I am alone for the rest of my life?" "What if this pain I am feeling never goes away?" "What if a problem arises that I don't know how to handle on my own?" "What if...what if...what if...?" The questions could go on and on, endlessly. Chances are, you'll never be able to answer the "what if's" in life. But as long as you know that the Lord is with you, you can be assured that He has all the answers you need.​

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• "Press aggressively" into a new life. Not everything in your life is over; just one part of it has ended. One season has passed, and another can now begin if you are willing to take action. Don't just passively sit and wait for something to happen or someone to come along. Go make new friends. Find someone else who is lonely and be a friend to that individual. You will reap what you sow, and God will return that friendship many times over.​

Let the loneliness you feel turn into compassion for other lonely people and then decide to do something about it!
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[.chrys.]

UnitynLove,

Wow! What incredible insight! Thank you for sharing this with us.

~Witness

 

[WhiteRain]

Thanks so much to everyone for reading, and for the encouraging posts! It's great to have someplace to go where people will listen...

I am trying to reach out more to make friends - taking baby steps, but I hope it will be working..

Thanks again!

 

[UnitynLove]

Praying for you sis.

 

[Bay]

Thanks so much to everyone for reading, and for the encouraging posts! It's great to have someplace to go where people will listen...

I am trying to reach out more to make friends - taking baby steps, but I hope it will be working..

Thanks again!

I gladly pray for you,Hi and welcome here! i Pray you will meet some other fantastic people in the every day world. But also..I have met a few I dearly love on here too.

 

[Catherineanne]

I'd appreciate any prayers or advice you can give me. I've tried hard, but perhaps my depression is scaring people away too?

Hiya Rainchild. The best advice I can offer, fwiw, is to stop looking for friends for yourself, and look to be a friend to as many people as you possibly can, around you.

Friendship is a gift, like grace itself, which comes when least expected. It is not about age, as much as about sharing common ground in faith or lifestyle, so you might be surprised how many friends there are around you, just waiting to be found.

I wish you well.

 

[fushiarose]

I will pray for you.

 

[soyness]

I don't think ur depression is scaring people away... that is just our perception. well, hiopefully you will find someone whom you could very much relate to.