Hard First Break Up....

[simplee_mandee]

I been with this guy for almost 3 years and we were even engaged and I was trying so hard to make things work but he grew so cold and he started to become a different person by the second year. He started to choose everybody and everything over me. His behavior got so bad that I was suspicious of him cheating because I wouldn't hear from him for a day or 2 on the weekends... He was the best bf the first year and then it went from that to him treating me bad all the time...

When we met he wasn't a Christian but he became one half a year into our relationship. After a while though he started to loose interest and that is what really separated us because he always wants to go to bars and drink and do things that I that I try to stay away from as a Christian.... I'm very attached to him and it hurts so much. We broke up almost a month ago and I tried to stay his friend hoping that maybe he would get his act together and maybe we get back together one day but he always goes out of his way to hurt me...

He lied to me and took another girl to a concert and didn't tell me, I had to find out on fb... I finally am at a point where I see that I have to really try hard to cut him off now because I can't take anymore heartbreak and that is all he seems to do.. Please pray for me to be comforted, to have the joy and peace of the Lord, and for the soul tie between us to be cut... Pray for God to heal my broken heart and for my next relationship to be in God's will. Also pray for my ex Tyler to be brought back to the Lord, for his heart to be softened, for the works of the enemy to be torn down in his life, and for him to follow God's will and not the way of the world.

 

[servant of Merciful Love]

First break ups are tough, but sometimes they are a blessing in disguise.
Sadly....what you see is most likely what you may get in the future with him (personal family experience in this one).
That is a rocky way to start off, when it should be a time of love, and joy about the future you are building together .
Praying for your direction, strength, hope, healing ~ may God's will be done re: your life partner

 

[hypostatic]

Praying!

 

[ThyLovingkindness]

Hi there, my prayer is for God's will in your life, and that you might receive help to get counseling through this time if necessary, perhaps a pastor... blessings!

 

[saved24]

Break ups are hard, so sorry for you. Praying for you.

 

[SplendidTree]

Praying!

 

[Lieniitte]

Hi Mandee!
I wasnt able to sleep well so i just started browsing and came upon your post. I am and will definitely be praying for you! I just have to say though, i am so happy that you have gotten out of that relationship, i feel maybe i should share my story in short, maybe it will help! honestly, i was in the same boat. great first year or so, then treated me veeery badly. he also lost faith. and i also just wanted to help him, and see that maybe he gets better, prayed so much for him to find Christ again. then it got reeeeally bad and once i started growing closer to God myself, truly seeking Him, God just told me, break up with him. he is not your responsibility! you have done what you can, showed love to him but you cant save him.
in the beginning i fell for the guy because of his faith and how he preached about Jesus at the age of 16. well didnt last long.
see, the devil had put in my mind that i needed to save him, and i believed it. ONLY God, our Creator, Jesus our Savior can save us! we just plant the seeds and nurture them, but HE grows.
through a few godly people, older than myself, i learned that the devil sometimes does that, he tries to make us be in a relationship, that we maybe dont even truly want, we just stay in it just because we are attached, and in that way he ruins the plans God actually has for us. to not find the man or woman our Father has for us. to not fulfill His purpose. i was in the same situation, and now i cant even imagine why i wanted to stay with him, since he treated me badly. it was an influence, and i praise God, truly praise Him, for getting people, me, you, out of those situations!
It really did hurt sooooooooo bad for a while, but honestly, not for long, maybe a couple weeks or a month, some sadness after 2 months, when remembering stuff, though it was a 4 year relationship. it didnt hurt long because i realized that it wasnt Gods will, and prayed about it a lot, and kept building my relationship with our Father, accepting the fact that He didnt want me with that guy. i started to realize even more that i myself didnt want to be with that guy and God completely 100% fully healed my heart and made my sort of addiction to that guy go away. and though im not in a new relationship, i still pray that He gives me the right guy, and the past has taught me what kind of a person God actually wants me to be with, and i am concentrating on becoming the kind of woman God wants me to be. btw, i am 21 years old and my breakup was about 8 months ago
GOD WILL HEAL YOUR HEART! just ask Him, ask Him again, and again! rely on Him and have faith, and be at peace and praise Him(!), because you are on the right path to fulfilling Gods plan for your life, He does NOT want you to be hurt and treated badly, he is THE KING, you are his princess. imagine, what kind of king on this earth even, would let a guy treat his daughter badly? she is royalty! he would not tolerate. THE KING has only the best in mind for you!
I will be praying as often as i remember for you! its very tough, and i feel for you! but God can and he does heal, and it CAN happen overnight, though it wont always happen that way, just be thankful and have faith

 

[Linus]

Praying for healing, comfort, strength and that God will bless you with that special one in the name of Jesus Christ. Thank You Lord!

 

[simplee_mandee]

Thank you all for the prayers! I really appreciate it and I really need them... Its been so hard because I still love him and my stomach hurts and I get anxiety because of it but its getting better with the help of God and the prayers and support of friends and family.... I feel so tempted to talk to him but I know I can't because there is nothing else to say after all this and he will just hurt me again...

 

[puppii]

That is hard I know I don't even get involved anymore because of the pain of breaking up. If God wants me with someone I'll be with them otherwise I'm OK by myself!!

Praying for you to get healing so you can find the person God has for you!!

 

[Debby 24]

Praying for you.

 

[LoricaLady]

I been with this guy for almost 3 years and we were even engaged and I was trying so hard to make things work but he grew so cold and he started to become a different person by the second year. He started to choose everybody and everything over me. His behavior got so bad that I was suspicious of him cheating because I wouldn't hear from him for a day or 2 on the weekends... He was the best bf the first year and then it went from that to him treating me bad all the time...

When we met he wasn't a Christian but he became one half a year into our relationship. After a while though he started to loose interest and that is what really separated us because he always wants to go to bars and drink and do things that I that I try to stay away from as a Christian.... I'm very attached to him and it hurts so much. We broke up almost a month ago and I tried to stay his friend hoping that maybe he would get his act together and maybe we get back together one day but he always goes out of his way to hurt me...

He lied to me and took another girl to a concert and didn't tell me, I had to find out on fb... I finally am at a point where I see that I have to really try hard to cut him off now because I can't take anymore heartbreak and that is all he seems to do.. Please pray for me to be comforted and for the soul tie between us to be cut... Pray for God to heal my broken heart and for my next relationship to be in God's will.

I am sorry that he hurt you and lied to you. But it sounds like a good thing, therefore, that he is gone. Praying for your healing and that you will be led away from those who are not going to follow Messiah's ways, and led to someone who will do so.

 

[simplee_mandee]

Thank you I appreciate it! I need prayer so bad right now... I am sorry you had to got through that too ! Thank for sharing your story it is helpful and good to know that I am not alone. Yeah, I was always worried that if we broke up he would be in even worse spiritual condition then he already is but I see now that there is nothing that I can do to help him and the more I tried to help the worse he got...

Yeah, I feel like he has been holding me back for years and deep down I knew we weren't good for each other but I was too afraid to face the pain of being without him so I just let it drag on and hoped and prayed that he would just do whats right but he got worse and more rebellious. That is true I know God doesn't want to see me with somebody who doesn't treat me good and that I am unequally yoked with.

Thank you for the help and advice ! I am so glad that God helped you to recover so much from your break up! I know anything is possible with God's help!

Hi Mandee!
I wasnt able to sleep well so i just started browsing and came upon your post. I am and will definitely be praying for you! I just have to say though, i am so happy that you have gotten out of that relationship, i feel maybe i should share my story in short, maybe it will help! honestly, i was in the same boat. great first year or so, then treated me veeery badly. he also lost faith. and i also just wanted to help him, and see that maybe he gets better, prayed so much for him to find Christ again. then it got reeeeally bad and once i started growing closer to God myself, truly seeking Him, God just told me, break up with him. he is not your responsibility! you have done what you can, showed love to him but you cant save him.
in the beginning i fell for the guy because of his faith and how he preached about Jesus at the age of 16. well didnt last long.
see, the devil had put in my mind that i needed to save him, and i believed it. ONLY God, our Creator, Jesus our Savior can save us! we just plant the seeds and nurture them, but HE grows.
through a few godly people, older than myself, i learned that the devil sometimes does that, he tries to make us be in a relationship, that we maybe dont even truly want, we just stay in it just because we are attached, and in that way he ruins the plans God actually has for us. to not find the man or woman our Father has for us. to not fulfill His purpose. i was in the same situation, and now i cant even imagine why i wanted to stay with him, since he treated me badly. it was an influence, and i praise God, truly praise Him, for getting people, me, you, out of those situations!
It really did hurt sooooooooo bad for a while, but honestly, not for long, maybe a couple weeks or a month, some sadness after 2 months, when remembering stuff, though it was a 4 year relationship. it didnt hurt long because i realized that it wasnt Gods will, and prayed about it a lot, and kept building my relationship with our Father, accepting the fact that He didnt want me with that guy. i started to realize even more that i myself didnt want to be with that guy and God completely 100% fully healed my heart and made my sort of addiction to that guy go away. and though im not in a new relationship, i still pray that He gives me the right guy, and the past has taught me what kind of a person God actually wants me to be with, and i am concentrating on becoming the kind of woman God wants me to be. btw, i am 21 years old and my breakup was about 8 months ago
GOD WILL HEAL YOUR HEART! just ask Him, ask Him again, and again! rely on Him and have faith, and be at peace and praise Him(!), because you are on the right path to fulfilling Gods plan for your life, He does NOT want you to be hurt and treated badly, he is THE KING, you are his princess. imagine, what kind of king on this earth even, would let a guy treat his daughter badly? she is royalty! he would not tolerate. THE KING has only the best in mind for you!
I will be praying as often as i remember for you! its very tough, and i feel for you! but God can and he does heal, and it CAN happen overnight, though it wont always happen that way, just be thankful and have faith

 

[simplee_mandee]

That is hard I know I don't even get involved anymore because of the pain of breaking up. If God wants me with someone I'll be with them otherwise I'm OK by myself!!

Praying for you to get healing so you can find the person God has for you!!

Yeah, I don't know if I will be able to be in a relationship for a while either ... If I do I will have to be really careful and make sure its in God's will. Thank you I appreciate the prayer!

Praying for you.

Thank you I appreciate it!

I am sorry that he hurt you and lied to you. But it sounds like a good thing, therefore, that he is gone. Praying for your healing and that you will be led away from those who are not going to follow Messiah's ways, and led to someone who will do so.

Yeah, I needed to get the pain over with before things got any worse... Thank you I appreciate it! I know I need a strong Christian man now.

 

[Lieniitte]

Mandee, thanks for the invite, i still don't have 15posts, so i couldn't message you
I'm still praying for you, thought i'd let you know!
I'm really happy that you are following Christ and not giving up, that you believe and trust all that HE has told you! it's encouraging for me too, to hear that!
May God bless you today in all His glorious ways! May He give you many many reasons to smile and be happy today!

 

[simplee_mandee]

Mandee, thanks for the invite, i still don't have 15posts, so i couldn't message you
I'm still praying for you, thought i'd let you know!
I'm really happy that you are following Christ and not giving up, that you believe and trust all that HE has told you! it's encouraging for me too, to hear that!
May God bless you today in all His glorious ways! May He give you many many reasons to smile and be happy today!

Np I need more Christian friends! Thank you so much, I know the prayers really help! Well we can talk on here until you get 15 posts . Yeah, Christ is so good! He will always be there for me and never abandon me. I feel that my ex was messing up my relationship with God since all he ever did was make me feel upset. He wanted it his way and his way wasn't God's way. God Bless you too and thanks for the encouragement!

 

[Eurasia]

I prayed for you and for your healing and for that special someone that God intended for you according to God's will.

 

[simplee_mandee]

I prayed for you and for your healing and for that special someone that God intended for you according to God's will.

Thank you I really appreciate it!