im not married, but i need some some Christian advice from some happily married couples...
im a guy with a serious girlfriend, but we have a serious issue in our relationship. ive posted before here on CF but without any really helpful replies. our problem lies with me. sometimes i am tempted to look at other girls. if an nice looking girl walks in the room or comes in my vision, sometimes the temptation will pop in my head to look. i dont want to look at all, and i hate that this temptation is even there. but i want to be 100% honest with my girlfriend and so she knows about this - but its killing our relationship. she feels inadequate - even though she is no way inadequate in any way shape or form! she is so beautiful and cute and very attractive and i try to tell her all that, but the fact that im tempted to look at another girl (regardless of whether i actually look) is tearing her up inside. she said she doesnt understand how i could be tempted if she's my queen and she's all i want. and she said she doesnt understand how i could think another girl is better looking than her.
what do all you Christian girls think about this? do you think im just a loser? if you were in my girlfriend's situation, what would you do? would you understand the temptation as long as i didnt give in, would you think im just a jerk and need to change? if you ever asked your boyfriend or husband, "does she look prettier than me?" or whatever question, and if the other girl did, would you want your boyfriend/husband to lie to you, tell you the truth, reassure you you have nothing to worry about, or what?
i dont know. im desperate and i want to hear some honest Christian opinions on the matter. and any thoughts from any Christian wives that have actually gone through something like this would be really helpful. or any guys who have gone through this and have any advice for me, that would be great too.
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im a guy with a serious girlfriend, but we have a serious issue in our relationship. ive posted before here on CF but without any really helpful replies. our problem lies with me. sometimes i am tempted to look at other girls. if an nice looking girl walks in the room or comes in my vision, sometimes the temptation will pop in my head to look. i dont want to look at all, and i hate that this temptation is even there. but i want to be 100% honest with my girlfriend and so she knows about this - but its killing our relationship. she feels inadequate - even though she is no way inadequate in any way shape or form! she is so beautiful and cute and very attractive and i try to tell her all that, but the fact that im tempted to look at another girl (regardless of whether i actually look) is tearing her up inside. she said she doesnt understand how i could be tempted if she's my queen and she's all i want. and she said she doesnt understand how i could think another girl is better looking than her.
what do all you Christian girls think about this? do you think im just a loser? if you were in my girlfriend's situation, what would you do? would you understand the temptation as long as i didnt give in, would you think im just a jerk and need to change? if you ever asked your boyfriend or husband, "does she look prettier than me?" or whatever question, and if the other girl did, would you want your boyfriend/husband to lie to you, tell you the truth, reassure you you have nothing to worry about, or what?
i dont know. im desperate and i want to hear some honest Christian opinions on the matter. and any thoughts from any Christian wives that have actually gone through something like this would be really helpful. or any guys who have gone through this and have any advice for me, that would be great too.
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